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April 11, 2011
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My husband's mother died about one year ago and I know how close to her he was. He comes from a family of 5 children. I am a registered nurse. For 12 years I took care of her day and night when she needed comfort and care. I have rarely seen my husband's other siblings around but for one of his brother that would come every 3 month to help with the heavier chores. My husband visited her every sunday and did all her other errands. He could have never live anywhere I think because she was here.

Since, he has been very dark and I haven't been able to reach him and he has distanced himself from me gradually. I am seeing a counsellor for the last 10 months as I thought it would help me go through this difficult time and it has. She is not trying to influence me and I know I am confused , but I dont' feel I can give it al up. I invited him to see a counsellor but "he is a man an as such doesn't need to see anyone"

We are coming to the anniversary date of her death at the end of April . He has built some kind of Altar in his bedroom on his desk with numerous prictures of his mother, father and family.

He has never been a very communicative man, but now he is so dark and I am under constant mental abuse from him.

I am loosing my marriage. I feel like he is hurting so much that he rejects everyone, me included.

We had another fight yesterday, and he was pushing for me to say I don't love him saying things like: " You just can't wait to run away from here" which is just what I don't want to do right now, but it is becoming so difficult. It has been a terrible year!

He DOESN"T want to talk, he will rediculize, mock, use sarcasm, turn things around, and no matter how sincere or heartfelt me pleadings with him are, I am left crushed, broken and continue to get the silence treatment until the next blow out. I dont' think I am equipped with the right words for him to hear. But I am dying inside.

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