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6:41 am
January 11, 2011
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So often a person who has been told their medical condition is terminal is much more realistic than the people around them. Family and friends say things like "Doctors are not always right" and "Get a second opinion". I learned from my Dad that he wanted people to say "What do you want to talk about with me?" He also wanted to share memories and look at family photographs.
His last fews weeks had an inevitable outcome – but they were strangely happy weeks.
Francine
11:39 pm
January 10, 2011
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That's 'our' way of dealing with unpleasantness. We want to fight it and feel like we need to say those things. It's for us, not the person with the terminal disease. We don't want to stop fighting too soon, but when the time has come, it's best to take advantage of the opportunity to say good-bye and get closure on anything that needs it.
11:35 am
January 10, 2011
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My grandmother wanted to talk also. When it was close to her time, she began talking about her childhood and telling us some old family stories. Prior to that, I read somewhere about taking notes and using these stories in a family tree book...just so the memories wouldn't be lost
6:09 am
January 22, 2011
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purplesaber said:
My grandmother wanted to talk also. When it was close to her time, she began talking about her childhood and telling us some old family stories. Prior to that, I read somewhere about taking notes and using these stories in a family tree book...just so the memories wouldn't be lost
Purplesaber, that sounds like a wonderful idea. I have a condition that will ultimately end in death, so I suppose it is a terminal illness. When I first found out I freaked out and so did my family. I have done a lot of research and found that I have atleast another ten years or so if things go right.
When our loved ones are terminally ill, we do say things to make ourself and other family members feel better. We may not realize it isn't for the sick person and this is the same when they pass, we are mourning our loss and not their leaving their bodies.
2:40 am
November 19, 2011
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Really a dying person always want to say someting when he or she is close to death, and it is very normal that they became emotional and mostly tells about old times, and anyone who cares about that person, he/she should listen carefully and attentively for the last time.
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