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AAC Forum Updates!
January 3, 2011
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Dear AllAboutCounseling.com Forum User,

First, thank you for your support and participation in this forum which has helped and continues to help thousands of people dealing with life's issues. Your contributions are appreciated.

As you may have noticed, on or around 12/29/2010 this site has undergone a design overhaul. Additionally, to enhance security and functionality we have upgraded our discussion board software. These upgrades will aid in forum moderation, improve our search / browse functionalities, and give users better control over their forum interactions. There are a few important changes / issues that should be brought to your attention:

Previous Member Accounts:

The previous forum software did not require an email address. The new software does and will not work without one. Due to this, we have created fictitious email addresses for each existing member account. This means that you can still login with your existing username and password and will not be required to input your real email address. With that in mind, we do recommend that you login and add your actual email address for a few reasons:

  1. You will need a valid, working email to be able to reset your password if you wish to do so at any point.
  2. If you have a valid, working email you will be able to receive notifications when new replies are posted to discussions you have started or participated in (you can also turn these notifications off).
  3. You will also be able to receive private messages from other users and forum administrators.

To update your email address, simply log in, go to http://www.allaboutcounseling......m/profile/ (there is a link at the bottom right of the main navigation), and edit your profile info.

If you are unable to login using your previous data you may be one of the very few accounts affected in this manner. Either contact us with your username and password here, or simply re-register your account.

Bookmarks and Previous Discussion Threads/Posts:

We have attempted to migrate all previous contents of the discussion board. This has required most URLs to be updated however. In an effort to disrupt your normal discussion board usage as little as possible we have also attempted to redirect all old URLs to their new locations. This means you should not receive "404 Page Not Found" errors. However, if you do, please take a moment and notify us of what URL you were trying to reach (copy and paste from your browser address bar) and we will investigate the issue and make every attempt to rectify it.

Frequently Asked Questions:

Please post your questions below and we will add them to this FAQ sections. Thanks again for your support and participation in creating a resource to help thousands of people improve their wellbeing.

Please take a moment to review this new topic:

Update on AAC Forum Anonimity Concerns and Resolutions - Feedback Requested

Sincerely,

 

- AAC Support Team

January 5, 2011
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Site looks great -- not sure how to sort by date tho.

January 5, 2011
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yeah i am really confused with the new site.  i cant find anything, i was told that newer threads were not showing up and they were working to resolve this issue. i owuld like to just figure out how ANYTHING works now, site does look good but was the over haul neccesary?

January 5, 2011
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Ut oh. I KNEW this was going to happen. Well, at least AAC is still here. I can't find my thread though. Actually, I can't find ANY threads.

January 5, 2011
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ok, i found the threads from yesterday, they were on page 22/23 under general supprt in the archives, but nothing posted on today is listed there, although when i went to the website on my phone they show the new posts, i litterally posted something this morning and it wont show on here, but i see it on my phone, but i cant log on and post in my phone, weird. i hope this problem is resolved soon,

January 6, 2011
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I agree, this totally stinks.  Can't find anything or anyone and it just does not feel as safe to me either.   I don't mind change, but not when it makes this harder to use and causes us to lose touch with those we were supporting and receiving support from.   The oldest stuff comes up first and takes forever to find the current things.   Boo on this new set up.   I do however like that you PM people.  SOmetimes you just want someone's advice about an issue you don't want to make public, so that is cool.  Hope we all find each other now.   ((((HUGS TO ALL))))

January 6, 2011
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i cant PM anyone yet, apparently you need permission for that right, i think that is something only an administrater can do to message someone to tell them they are being offensive or something. but we can post more personal information, i am bothed interested and scared about that, not sure i want to share my real life, seperating the two was very useful asnd comforting, the fact that someone ehre who i talk to for so long can actually see my face and see the people responsible for all the things i have been through, they can see the face of my best friend... very scary, i will have to think long and hard about that

January 6, 2011
8:31 am
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You can't send PM to people until they include their personal e-mail.   Most probably won't do that so that feature will not be utilized as frequently. 

January 6, 2011
8:41 am
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got ya, thanks curious, makes sense. thank goodness i have a buisness and personal email, i used my personal one here.

January 6, 2011
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i hope they ptu it back the way it was cos i cant do anything with this..darkeyes

January 6, 2011
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If we update our email addresses, does that mean that any of the current users can send us private messages at our personal email address? Not sure if I like that at ALL. Maybe I'm misreading what is written above. ???

January 6, 2011
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yeah dont worry shaney, i did post my email adress and i still cannot priavtely message someone, you can post your email message publicly, and your name and any other information like your facebook page if you wish, but only if you want to, the email adress you use for your account is kept private

January 6, 2011
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Hi Everyone,

Thank you for the feedback and helping each other through this transition!

Our goal is to roll out new features and to improve usability of the site for both current and new members. We are taking all of your feedback into consideration and will be posting an official response shortly.

Feel free to post any problems you are experiencing in our Technical Support Forums and/or contacting us.

 

- AAC Support Team

January 6, 2011
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I just noticed in the upper left side of any page is the "support" and "liberation brew" threads. So it's set up basically the same as the old site. Click on one of those and you'll see all the threads.....

January 7, 2011
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No its NOT like the old site. This is NO LONGER ANONYMOUS. We are all compromised and all our secrets are now cataloged and easily available for all to organize, reorganize and scruitinize.

Before it was like a conversation amoung friends. Now its like your personal information is documented in a very militaristic and exposing format.

I hope there is a way for the administrators to go in and erase everything I ever posted here forever. I don't want to be part of this at all.

I FEEL RAPED all over again. I trusted this site and they have totally screwed that.

FUCK trusting anyone ever again.

For all the good this place has done me over the past several years, they just undid it in less than a week.

Welcome back anxiety attacks and totally closing out the world.

I will try to stay to see if they change, but the more I learn about the new changes the worse I feel.

January 7, 2011
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CM, our secrets have ALWAYS been "cataloged". You're fooling yourself if you think that the minute you log onto your computer and go to ANY site that it just goes into cyber space and forgotten. That goes for FB as well.  It's as anonymous as YOU want it to be. 

 

Yes, there are going to be people who are going to leave because they don't like it, but I also think it's wrong that you are going to every thread spreading paranoia about this site when there are new people logging on looking for help. Not to mention those of us who actually LIKE it.

 

Just my opinion, but if people would just CALM DOWN, take a deep breath and check the site out a little, things will look different. Like I said before, the nic names are the same, and so is the need for SUPPORT, especially right now.

January 7, 2011
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Agree, Hepburn...anywhere you go on the internet you are "compromised".  I've always shaken my head when ppl talk abt the dangers of CL or FB in a site-specific way - it's the whole internet.  With the convenience comes the compromise of what in a less-techy world we thought of as privacy.  Ya can't have both!  Personally...I like this new format.  If you go into the edit profile section, you can hide your online status.  Gotta get back to work, but just had to say i like the new format - more than the old, actually.  Happy Friday everyone!!  cw

P.S. I AM a little annoyed that you have to do a math problem everytime you post, but in the long run I reckon it keeps our brains fit.  lol

January 7, 2011
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ok...re the math problem - i think it's a cookies thing on my pc actually.  it logged me out as cw and so it read me as a guest when i posted.  only guests hfta do the math.  WHEWWWWWW!!

January 7, 2011
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The more I navigate, the better I like it. I also have no issues with PM and all that stuff, it seemed scary to me the way the old site was set up- so secretive- like hiding behind a cloak of anonymity gave people the power to abuse. If anything, there will be some actual moderating going on. Seems to me that some serious issues arose over the past year and changes were imminent, or trouble was on the horizon. I did not feel comfortable or safe posting anything after that fiasco took place. I also see that some of the more controversial nicknames are not here- and perhaps it will not be as easy to have- for lack of a better term- multiple accounts... if that makes any sense.

January 7, 2011
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i am not logged in as a guest and i still have to do the math, lol dont laugh but i have gotten the answer wrong once ortwice, but it doesnlt let you answer an incorrect answer, so no worries

January 7, 2011
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I haven't explored PM yet.  I may not participate in that here - we'll see.  Zarathursta - trust me, NOT laughing about the math - I balance my checking account every day with a calculator because if I try and just do the math in my head when I write it down, I make too many mistakes (once I walked around beliving I had $100 LESS than was actually in there, thank goodness it wasn't the other way round or I'd have been way screwed!!)

January 7, 2011
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Admin. Question - I gave my personal email address to the site. Does this mean my personal email is connected to this site during Google searches and all that good stuff? I just want to keep my "SHORTCAKE" name and email separate. I like that privacy.

 

If it does link my email with the AAC name, then I will open a private email. Please let me know when you have time. I googled my email and did not find this page, so hopeful your request for my email address was for the sites records and not connected to my threads.

 

Shortcake.

January 7, 2011
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Hi ShortCake,

 

Unless you post it in a topic you start or a topic you respond to (a "post") your email will not be displayed anywhere on the site. It's only associated with your username in our systems in order for some of the site features to function. Example functionalities being:

  1. Automated password retrieval.
  2. Private Messaging.
  3. Being able to have an account in general, so that you can set a profile picture, signature, etc… IF you choose to do so.

Hope that clears up your concerns.

 

- AAC Support Team.

January 7, 2011
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Y'all are doing a great job, all the way around.  IMHO

January 8, 2011
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I originally came to AAC as a survivor of domestic violence needing support.  What really made that work for me was the "guideline" of ANONYMITY.

 

It was not so much a "guidleline" as a HARD RULE.  It was not about "You can be as anonimous as you want to be." 

 

The rule was basically "Posters to this forum may NOT communicate with each other outside of this forum" and doing so or attempting to do so or posting anything here that would facilitate that was grounds for being banned from the forum.  THat included sharing email addresses, discussing other forums (including FB) where we could contact each other, posting photographs, etc.

 

That simple rule was what made AAC, uniquely, a safe place for survivors of domestic violence or assault or rape or childhood sexual abuse to seek support and advice.

 

If that is no longer a rule then the safety is gone.

 

My question to the new admins is: WHat is the policy regarding anonimity here?

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