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You Woman Murdering Son of a Bitch
October 27, 2010
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MsGuided I am relieved to hear that you understand why we are
all here. You spoke the truth when you said we are all ill. It is
kind of you to offer your support to Worried_Dad.

October 28, 2010
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Worried_Dad you do not have to apologize for your feelings. You
have a right to feel them. Sending my support energy your
way.

October 28, 2010
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Regarding the idea that WD "Drops bombs" and then abandons a
thread and soesn't respond to posters.

Let's take this
thread as an example.

When my life is
smoothly sailing I am still a very busy man. This week I am giving
record producing technical help to a singer songwriter.

And then there is
the fiancee thing.

And my work life
is ridiculously busy.

So my first post
was on the 24th and second post on the 27th.

That's just two
days. If it had been two years and two days then yeah, maybe I
could accept some people here having an issue with me. BUt two
lousy days?

Get real. For many
people, AAC is an important part, but a very small part of our
lives.

October 28, 2010
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i say
again, nothing but understanding and support from me, most of my
family is invovled in petty gangs, my father like you was a martial
ars teacher back when he was young, and he used to sell drugs, now
he just takes them, i know what you mean by having that option
available and not wanting to use it, it is very scary and temptng
to know all it takes is a phone call.

October 28, 2010
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zarathustra,

I hear
you.

My family is
pretty much straight and narow, as am I.

If bad guys
invaded my home and threatened me or my loved ones I am capable of
picking up my staff or a pair of nuchaku in each hand and wailing
on the bad guys. (I don't want to posess guns) but other than that
I am pretty harmless.

I have activated
the Police and activated my agents. That's pretty much all I can
do, short of making the drive and asking the questions myself. That
would be a very costly, and probably unneccesary escalation on my
part.

And yeah "Miss
Iowa" was a name I made up for the pueposes of accurately
describing her and also protecting MY anonimty here.

Because of the
anonmity rule, I feel free to make up titles and change the name of
states. Sometimes I will change "Hawaaii" to "Iowa" for example.
Kinda thing. I just mix and match stsates.

That being said,
she was definitely the winning beauty and talent winner in her
state.

And she was so
fucking cool! As in Radically cool. HEr come on line to me was
"Like you I am an Inventor." And then she ent me the diagram for
her novel medical device.

I am a sucker for
diagrams of novel medical device to help children with Cerebral
Palsy.

October 28, 2010
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Wow.
After reading the last several posts I think I've just had an
epiphany....

Sort of like the
Real Housewives did when they realized how serious the situation
with Kelly was......

I refuse to
entertain what is going on this thread, it's just not my style, but
I don't have to prove that he's nuts either.

Carry
on......

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Sorry...I shouldn't say "nuts"

Perhaps..he has
"lost touch with reality" is a kinder way to say it.

I do hope you get
help for youself WD.

October 28, 2010
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Jesus
fucking Christ.

I don't know if
I'm an idiot or just out of my mind.

The girl isn't
even dead.

Back
story:

She said she
wanted to come to Seattle and could I send her traveling money. So
I wired $300 to her. Last I spoke to her on her cell phonew was the
14th. She said she had just picked up the money but that there was
a Mexican guy followed her out of the store an was sexually
harassing her i the parking lot. It's Olive harvesting season and
there are a lot of illegals in town.

She said she had
to secure her cash, ditch the guy and she would call me right
back.

Then I couldn't
reach her, couldnt reach her.

She was supposed
to be here by Friday or Saturday latest. So on Sunday I sent the
cops to her house. Her car wasnt there and her housemate hadnt seen
or heard from her since she left to pick up her money.

So I started
making phone calls-- lots and lots of phone calls. Nobody had seen
her since the 14th. So I paid a fuck of a lot of money to have some
guys beat the bushes. They came up empty handed.

Then I posted a
furious rant. Twice. Yes, under the influence o a lot of
beer.

Then at 5 pm today
I ge a phone call--from Miss Iowa!

She gave me this
cock and bull story about that she got a call from a dying friend
in Iowa who wanted her to come spend the holidays there. So she
drove to Iowa. Her explanation for why she didnt answer or return
my calls was that first she thought I would yell at her for
changing her plans and that she then had cell phone problems. Oh
and that she still intends to come to Seattl after the
Holidays.

WTF?!

I don't know what
to think. After my last conversation with her and then she dropping
out of contact with EVERYONE for ten days.

I dunno. Maybe she
is telling the truth which I am pretty skeptical about at this
point. I am inclined to think she said she was coming so she could
extract "traveling money" from me and that she made up the crazed
Mexican story to throw me off the trail. And to hurt me.

Even if she is
telling the truth she is crazy. You don't tell someone you are
being threatened in a parking lot and then disappear for two
weeks.

I have no
adrenaline left in my body. I am traumatized and broke.

And
humiliated.

Look, in the
absence of a dead body I kind of jumped the gun in assumming foul
play. But given our last conversation and the absence of a live
body I can appreciate how I would go there.

All of that being
said, I have made a fool of myself telling people my Queen was
coming, then panicking and activating a lot of forces, making
frantic phone calls and emails. I called the goddamn FBI for
heaven's sake.

Oh and then the
controversial rant on CL and here.

And of course my
performance at work has suffered. I have a job that takes a lot of
brainwork and a lot of hands on work and a lot of social
networking. Can't do that shit too well when my brain is consumed
with fear and anger.

Anyway, I
apologize for giving you guys a scare and I apologize for my hair
trigger expression of anger at some folks here.

Obviously, the
Wedding is off.

October 29, 2010
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Worried_Dad thank you for filling us in. That was very kind and
generous of you to send her money. I had been in a similar
situation once so, I know exactly what you have been going
through.

October 29, 2010
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Hi
puptent,

I have been
supporting her financially and emotionally at long distance since
July 5th. Well, frankly off and on for five and a half years. Shit
I make a decent living and I am not going to have my fiancee
wanting.

BUt this whole
making me think she was dead bulllshit? It's BULLSHIT!

October 29, 2010
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oh
wd

This might not be
the place to find support. some people "play" ya know? show up to
try and show YOU up. Makes 'em loook "big", it's an addiction. 'Tis
why they come back every time. This is the net, a big playground
for some. They get something out of it. Haven't yet figured out
WhAT, but they get something. Addictions PROVIDE.

I'm so sorry this
is happening to you.

Hang in there.
(((wd))) Over and out. (for awhile I'm sure- never feed an
addiction)

andii

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I'm
sorry this happened to you WD. Thanks for the
explanation.

Lolli, my friend,
you are still one of my favorite people and will always be. You've
got a great nose girlfriend.

andii - go fuck
yourself.

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Happy
Friday WD. I know from experience that the type of thing you went
through with this person can shock the brain.

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wd

I don't know that
she's crazy, but not contacting you like that was perversely self
centered. It's just not appropriate to do this to people. Sounds
like she needed money for something, maybe a trip, and she
manipulated you. Not cool.

Someday wd, you're
going to find a true queen.

andii

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Hi
andii.

I appreciate your
support. I really, really do.

From AAC posters I
have gotten a lot of good and wise support and advice for some
horrible stuff over the last...eight years I guess.

Like any support
group, there is the occasional stinker or two.

But AAC is my
domestic violence support group. It's as simple as that.

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i
agree with that, ive only been a member for like 2 weeks and
listening to people tell me i was being selfish and not thinking
about my friend was enough to stop me from cutting the finger off a
guy.

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Stinkers aren't worth energy or time until they choose to stop
stinking. I've been in a support group or two with an occasional
stinker, found out later that they were the ones hurting the most.
Something to think about.

In support groups
people drop bombs. It's like sometimes people go on overload- and a
volcano erupts. Tough to slow it down once the eruption occurs, but
all eruptions subside. You've a right to be angry wd, and good job
in expressing that anger versus suppressing it. What to do now? ARe
you talking to her?

zarathustra and
puptent, , nice to meet you 🙂

andii

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nice
to meet you too, i spend most of my time in the support thread,
probably why we havent crossed paths yet

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Nice
to meet you too andii. You made a great observation about the
behavior of the ones who are hurting the most in a group. It is
still no excuse for anyone to to use another human being as their
object for aggression.

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Agreed puptent. I've been thinking about something to say on
this, and it's just not happening. This is causing some confusion
for me and I'm not sure why or what the confusion is.

I hope you have a
safe and happy Halloween!

andii

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Happy
Halloween andii. Even if someone is hurting they are responsible
for their choice to hurt others. They still must be accountable for
their actions. I agree I feel like I need to say more. I feel like
a need to be more proactive in the area of breaking the cycle of
victimization. I feel like I need to let someone know that what
they are doing is not OK.

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Here's the situation where I run into a brick wall puptent: I
tell somebody they've crossed my boundaries, that what they are
doing or saying is NOT Ok, that I do not deserve to be spoken to or
treated this way. And then if/when that person becomes WORSE (most
don't of course), and fires hurtful and untruthful accusations,
enlists the help of their friends, this kind of thing: I don't know
what to do.

I hope you had a
safe and happy Halloween- I went to the Casino and donated to the
cause lol. And of course watched the world series on the tv
screen-that was very exciting!

andii

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Hi
andii. What you are describing is a bully ring. It would be great
if you could come up with a solution. I am here to support you. I
have to go harvest my crop of grapes (LOL). I love Casinos. I love
the way they make banana daiquiris.

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Harvest your grapes! That's so funny- I just harvested my
tomatoes and planted carrots lol

andii

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hey
andii I made a boo boo I had to harvest blueberries. Great stress
reliever. I have bought the largest farm and use all the land for
the crops. Trying to figure out a way to harvest faster. Gonna try
to get to the store to buy discounted candy.

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