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12:22 am
September 30, 2010
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tell me i am not responsible for pb leaving the aac...this is worrying me. i'm just codependent to let it get to me. i need advice or feedback in order to clear my conscience. thanks, gup
12:32 am
September 24, 2010
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Naah!
You're NOT responsible.
You know our guy; he doesn't do a darn thing that he doesn't want to do...very stubborn he is.
Plus, he seems to have really enjoyed talking to you. Look how long your thread was. Was it number 7 or 8?
You guys have history. I think that's special.
Therefore, I know that he wouldn't want you to take his decision to get some space personally. I think he even said those exact words. "nothing personal".
Remember?
12:54 am
September 24, 2010
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I'll share some really cool info that I found with you tomorrow.
It's all about how our past hurts, rejections and taking our "roles" too seriously can lead to taking things personally.
It was and is very helpful for me.
Sleep Well Gup!
1:18 pm
September 24, 2010
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alright. just needed verification. i am trying my darndest to overcome codependency. i think i am on the fence, hopefully about to fall on the right side of it.;) i still have twinges left though. ha ha. looking forward to what u got. i can already tell u i got codependent from being raised by an alchoholic that is very controlling. i gave up my identity to please him. now i am trying to grow up. or maybe be a kid. that goes back and forth. 🙂
i just dont like to hurt anybody. and i know u can't go through life without people getting their feelings hurt. i just try and be careful about it.
1:34 pm
September 24, 2010
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(very stubborn he is) funny. makes me thank of the little dude on the starwars movies. 😉 u know, the one that always talks like that.
oh, i can deal with a mule. that doesn't bother me. got a little jackass in me as well. thanks for the imput. at least u put it in perspective for me. Feel better already. 🙂
2:35 pm
September 24, 2010
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ok, let's talk about this. i have spent years wrapped up in hubby. now i am trying to lern how people are. watchin and learnin baby. philmore confused me by what he said about himself and what i heard in his words. instinct tells me he is a big sweetheart but he had a rocky start. he wouldn't talk about his past otherwise. it bothers him. i know from listening to REAL asstakers that they would die and go to their grave before admitting being less than perfect. and an asstaker sure as hell doesn't care how they make other people feel. (just putting it all in perspective) for me. after all, i am married to a taker. i think i know the difference. at least i hope i do. when i wanted to talk late at night, phil complied even if he was busy. ( no taker i ever met would do that) if anything, they would post in five hundred other places and still tell me no. so....how he describes himself and what he is just doesn't jive for me. now,being stubborn,hardheaded and somewhat codependent that works for me. if u think i am wrong, give me another version.....otherwise i am just working this out
3:34 pm
September 24, 2010
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oh, dont get me wrong. he'll always be my friend. likes him to much to be otherwise. 😉 so watch it, dont say anything bad........:0 (kidding u, me is)
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