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What is your attachment style?
February 2, 2009
10:35 pm
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Tez- Thank you for your response. Your advice about not dwelling and obsessing is a good point. I need to keep it in mind especially when it comes to what will happen to my husband and I in the future. I feel like that what you said has given me permssion to quit wasting so much time trying to control the outcome.

February 7, 2009
6:12 pm
It No Longer Matters
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Help me understand myself.


February 16, 2009
4:41 pm


So you want to understand yourself? It is a lifelong quest!

If you take a personal inventory at the end of each day you will see that you experienced pleasure, pain, joy and sorrow. Is it not true that you are motivated by desire - the desire to have and do things to maximize your pleasure and joy and minimize your pain and sorrow?

The question naturally arises, in seeking all the things that you seek in your life, who is the ultimate beneficiary? How will the beneficiary benefit in a long lasting way?

When doing this daily inventory, and you feel bad about how you behaved at the end of the day, what exactly is causing you to feel bad?

Don't settle for shallow answers to your questions. Become adept at questioning your answers by asking deeper probing questions about what your answers reveal about you. Aim at spiralling downwards into your psyche looking for what drives you and who it is that you think that you are.

Churn, churn and churn over your insights gained into yourself. Follow the pathways down and learn about yourself in relation to others. Which of your daily thoughts, words and deeds bring lasting peace, joy and happiness? Which bring discontent, disturbed emotions and unhappiness? Look at what are your beliefs about yourself and others that drive your thoughts, words and deeds.

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