Wow worried Dad, I was trying to think of what I've specifically learned here, and came up blank.

Then I read your post, and realized that you said exactly what I was feeling and I didn't even know I felt that way!

Its is funny how someone I've never met can put down in writing things I feel so thoroughly, and yet I didn't know I felt that way until I read it. Thank You.

I am learning that if you see a thread and it sounds VERY ANGRY!! stay the heck away from it!!
dont contribute, just let them talk to themsleves, because this is not a confrontational place...

whew!!!!

Any body in with me????

OMG!!!!

Kasie

ok, curiousity here 😉
seeker, did you think we were basically the same as MOM or as J-LO????

Nice to see you grow (((hug)))

seekerw,

It is both. I am sarcastic and I am happy for you. As well for the ladies in your life 😉

As per request, this is what I learnt from being at the Support Threads. I am writing exclusively about the Support Threads, because except 3 times here, at Liberation Brew, I was always posting (and reading) on the Support Threads. I am posting it here, hoping not to offend anyone.

What I learnt on this site is:

That it is truly amazing feeling when many people give me feedback at the same time and I have no better comparison so far as being in a room with mirror walls;

That some are very finely tuned to my feelings and to what I write about;

That some do appreciate what I write;

That some have no clue whatsoever what am I talking about;

That some read what I write and clearly don’t read what has been written;

That some channel their anger caused by the events in their lives on others, who are complete strangers;

That some are extremely judgmental;

That sometimes I am judgmental;

That some think that I am judgmental when I give them feedback saying that they were judgmental;

That some think that I am attacking them personally when I am attacking their point of view;

That the two above indicate lack of mental well-being;

That “codependency” is a very broad term which means so many things as almost means nothing;

That there is such thing as codependency in a much narrower understanding;

That some happily label everybody as codependents;

That some clearly are codependent;

That there are others who think that there is a big difference between codependency and unhappy love, just like I do;

That some think that love is a choice;

That some can shut their feelings off to distance themselves from themselves and others;

That many are trying to control their feelings; hide, suppress or ignore their feelings, and are feeling guilty about having certain feelings, often to get close to others and be accepted by them;

That some seem to think that they are always right;

That some seem to think that they don’t know anything while they are truly wise;

That some think that everyone who posts here lives in U.S. A.;

That there are many who periodically re-arrange their furniture, just like I do;

That some thought that all women are the same, but now they know better;

That many have a great sense of humour;

That some have an amazing sense of humour and can find it even while being at the bottom of their pain;

That some have no sense of humour at all;

That many understand and talk about Creator in ways which are extremely offensive to my understanding and beliefs;

That some do the opposite to what they preach;

That some tend to think that their advice or criticism should apply only to others, but not to themselves;

That some actually do what they advise to others;

That there are so many good people around;

That some are extremely compassionate;

That good heart and compassion are sometimes not enough if there is no broader understanding;

That there is so much suffering around - that often my own, not the easiest life by any means, looks like a picnic;

That it is truly amazing and admirable how some, against all odds, can rise and walk through their lives with dignity, compassion and love for others;

That there is a sound reason behind how my life went so far;

That there is a name for whom my mother is, just like I suspected and denied it for a long time;

That there is a name for whom I was;

That I still love G., and that most probably he will remain the Love of my life;

That having an intimate relationship with him wouldn’t be an easy act; in fact it would be much more challenging that I previously thought it might;

That with him or without him the rest of my life will be bright and happy, because I am in peace with myself;

That I should always trust and respect not only my feelings, but also absolutely trust my stomach (gut feeling) and my intuition;

That the Site Coordinator founded this site from her own pocket – her life savings;

That I have a “Sister in Love”, a person in another corner of the World who has very similar experience to what I am going through, almost identical reactions as I do, and that having an opportunity to relate to her through this site is truly priceless to me;

That this site is a wonderful place to receive a lot of support and understanding when in tremendous pain like I was last summer;

That it would take me years of “therapy “to find answers to my questions which I found thanks to this site and the posters here within less than two months, and that I appreciate it wholeheartedly;

That now when I am not in pain, reading the posts, often, for various reasons, makes me upset, and it became like an unfit relationship which goes on for too long, when you see all what is good in your partner, while knowing that the relationship is not the best for you and that you should leave, because you both grew - but also grew apart;

That I should leave, although it is not easy, because I like many people who post here, and I would like to visit my “Sister”;

That being here enriched me tremendously in many ways, but now I am done here, and it is time for me to move forward.

I wish for everybody to be treated in their lives the same way they treat others.

Matteo,

It seems as though you have learned so much about PEOPLE in general by belonging to this site. Everything you have described here, to me describes us all in one way or another.

Reading your thread has taught me that we are all different, yet we are very much the same in many ways. It has taught me that we can be different and still respect and learn from each other.

It has taught me that no matter what our differences are we all experience pain, joy, humor, loneliness, sadness, setbacks and triumphs.

It has taught me why is so important to learn to communicate with each other.

It has taught me to tolerate our differences and to take comfort in our commonality.

Thank you for sharing this.

Love,
Lolli