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We teach people how to treat us...bfg
May 26, 2010
4:34 pm
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This quote has been hurled at me for most of my life, when I first heard, I felt as if I was hit with a brick in the head, it hurt me, and I can see why it did too, for someone who is not ready to face this fact, it may be too brutal but for someone who is in the place I am now, it makes alot of sense to me...what do you all think of this? I think we can all pretty much agree that is has alot to do with self esteem, what we put up with with others and what we will not allow.

For a long time, I put up for alot cause I was very weak and abused and I was essentially an victim, not not anymore, I have come a long way but still have a long path ahead of me...

So what you think?

May 26, 2010
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What do I think?

I think that there are basically two schools of thought on this one:

First: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice - shame on me.

(Something in which George W Bush royally botched and tipped all over himself in...)

Second: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice - prepare to die! ~ Star Trek Klingon proverb.

(I have a personal tendency to lean towards the latter ~ )

May 27, 2010
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This is something I learned within the last couple of years, I am studying psychology, and it is one of those "therapy" phrases, it seems.

I agree with this. I think it has to do with standing your ground and keeping your boundaries. If people see that they can't manipulate you and lie to you, they will find someone else to do it to.

This phrase reminds me that I have to continue to show people that I am worthy of respect, consideration and courtesy.

If people think they can walk on you, they will try. Once you show them that you won't tolerate being mistreated, they will either treat you better, or they will go their own way.

When I was really young, I was bullied a lot. I was very shy. I was very small for my age, compared to the other kids, as I was a preemie baby. I was teased for not speaking English as well as the other kids when I first started school. In my culture, girls learn to not speak out. They are told they must be "good" all the time and not make trouble. If I told the teacher on the other kids, they bullied me more. This caused me to not have a lot of confidence growing up.

My parents taught us to always treat others how you like to be treated. I did not understand how the other kids would be so mean, when I tried so hard to be nice. It was very confusing for me. So, I had a tough start, to learn how to make others see that I should have been treated better. I could never be mean like them, so things did not get better until my teenager years.

When I used to work with kids, I was amazed that many were not taught manners, even teenager kids. I would spend time to teach them, showing that it was good for them to know these things.

May 27, 2010
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I bet you do TBT! Hee hee (((TBT))

(((CHINADOLL!)))

I am sorry you suffered that way, I was also teased and was very shy as well growing up...at one point I had no hair and I stood out like a sore thumb, kinda of like you not speaking english perhaps...

I was taken to my usual brainwashing seminars (church) and repeatly heard over and over again, do for others frist, its selfish to think of youurself and others were more important was what I had learned...

I try so hard to have self respect for me and to have a backbone, deep down I guess I don't. If I am in a roomful of people, I feel as if no one likes me, maybe they do, but I just feel they don't. I end up crying or leaving or blending into the wall....

Its sad. I know, I do not want to be like this, but its how I am, how I hae been for all my life, how do you get self esteem and love yourself? I have no idea...working on it however.

May 27, 2010
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I been on facebook lately...kinda of like an experiment of sorts...I was friended by a couple people who added me but never really wanted to talk...I alksoi added counsins who rather not even bother with me...it seems like everyone talks with everyone but me...even today...I live in a nice area...have tons of pics of my family up and our life...and yet I am left out as usual...why?

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