Hi wd

What happened? Is the roommate a guy who tried to cuddle up with you and "spoon" in the middle of the night?

A gold-digger chick?

What's goin on?

It'll be okay.

Bite the pride.

free

Oh, wd this sucks big time.

Make sure you call the police and make a report, humiliated or not. k?

Trusting - it's such a good thing, so I say continue, as long as it's not at your expense. In other words, even if it's a close friend- contracts and verification- just so the two of you "are communicating." Know what I mean?

I'm sorry wd.

free

Sure free2c-I'll try

I think that people are basically either good, or want to be good. But money tempts people to behave in ways they would not normally behave. When they behave in ways that are wrong, they justify their behavior in order to feel "right." Robin Hood for example. It's wrong to steal from the rich and give to the poor. Understandable, but not justifiable.

People also misunderstand each other. Make verbal agreements and people remember them differently, just as two people will give different eye-witness accountings of something.

Two people will also hear each other differently- for example "I agree to let you have the kids on all the holidays"- sounds so simple. To me, this means all the holidays on my school calendar. What does it mean to you? Well- Easter- does it mean the whole Easter break or just Easter Sunday? All of Christmas Vacation or just Christmas Day? New year's Eve or New Year's Day or both? Lincoln's birthday- schools are out but everybody else works- is it a holiday? What if I convert to Judaism and want the kids for all of Hannukah? Or, was Jewish to begin with and wanted all of Hannukah but that's not a national holiday. etc.

Then, there are people who just prey upon those who trust without verification and a written contract.

There are those who play games- find holes in things- so contracts have to be very clear- colleges give courses in writing contracts. Most trade licenses teach about writing contracts.

I suspect there's only 5-10% of the crowd out there that are predators like this gal was with wd. There's 5-10% jerks in every crowd. But 10-1 this gal intellectually justified stealing from wd and skipping on a debt. the criminal mentality is that "if the person wasn't there nothing would have happened." to them, it's always the victim's fault.

So, in order to protect ourselves from predators, we need to be aware that people we interact with could be one and enter into a written contract with verification of employment etc.

For the other 90-95% of good people that deserve our trust, we need to make sure we are communicating in order to not lose friendships, not cause hard feelings, and not feel like a victim or predator when a disagreement arises- but just pull out the signed written contract and then have a discussion about the disagreement.

So if you want a contract and somebody says "you don't trust me?" ya say "of course I trust you, and I value your friendship so much that I want to make certain we are communicating and agreeing to the same thing, kuz sometimes people innocently hear and remember things differently, especially after time goes by. I don't ever want that to happen- this contract will serve as a reminder to us both if we ever need it"

Hope that helps

free