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WD Finds Love...Again
December 10, 2009
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Some of this material probably ought to be covered in the Embassy.

Some of it was already covered in an old thread titled "WD Finds Love."

By my diligence, luck and the hand of God I have recently reconnected with the only woman I have ever gone to the courthouse with and purchased a Marriage licence with.

It turns out that we still love each other and are thinking "what the heck were we thinking not getting married?"

The relationship has a rich history and is full of "green lights" and "red lights."

Right now it looks to me like the good signs outnumber and outweigh the bad omens.

I am very excited about reconnecting with my old flame.

December 10, 2009
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awe wd. What wonderful news. Savor this, every moment. Make it so that even IF, and I say IF, things don't work out, whatever happens when they don't could never cloud the wonderful memories.

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December 11, 2009
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Thanks andii,

Good advice.

I confess I am not out of the woods yet what with my condition after the Beast from the Middle of Nowhere.

One thing I like about "Ms marriage license" is that unlike the Beast, she has absolutely NO GUILE. The girl couldn't tell a lie to save her life.

My sincere hope is that by the time my incredibly talented, two time Miss (name of state deleted for anonymity reasons) beauty contest winner who is insanely good in the sack old flame expects a kiss from me, I will be ready to do it.

I love her so much. But I'm still kind of messed up.

December 11, 2009
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Tell us more about her...and why/how long ago did you, two, divorce? I think it's really interesting that you may be reconciling.

- Ma

December 11, 2009
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Oh, wd, we're all messed up. You know? We are. Ah, well. I say as long as we aren't planning to hurt anybody, including ourselves, so what?

Understand this, wd: a woman who cannot tell a lie to save her life, hasn't survived. i.e., yes she can, probably does, probably has, and probably will. Be aware wd, but not afraid. Live this for the moment with no expectations. Savor each moment. This life is but a blip.

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December 11, 2009
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Responding to MaStrong...

"The Story of WD and L"

After healing up a bit from what "D" did to me, I put up some personal ads on the net. Over a couple of years I made contact with 2,242 women. OK, some of them were transvestites, pre-op transexuals or men pretending to be women, but that's how many contacts I had.

Woman 2,240 had claimed to be a brain surgeon. So I tested her and found her to be a lying sack of crap. I was pretty discouraged by then.

Then in late 2004 I was contacted by woman number 2,241. Let's call her "L." She said she was an inventor, and artist and musician and that she had a thing for scientists. So we exchanged emails.

Very shortly after that I was contacted by woman number 2,242. Let's call her "H." We exchanged some emails and had some phone conversations. She seemed very nice and smart. But she seemed a bit cynical and depressed for my taste. I ought to have kept that in mind.

Anyway, "L" sent me her idea for a medical invention, which struck me as kind of wacky at the time, but now that I think about it it might just work.

She sent me to a website with photos of her work. I was blown away by her talent.

Then we started talking on the phone. After my experience with the "brain surgeon" I decided to test her and said "so you are a musician. Could you sing or play something for me right now?" She got her guitar and did an amazing impersonation of Janis Joplin.

That was her foot in the door.

I lost interest in "H" about then and focused on "L."

We started talking on the phone regularly and became friends. By summer of 2005 it was apparent that we really liked each other.

When a woman mails you her panties I think that's a sign. I think she was both flirting and also trying to reassure me about her HWP-ness. I still have those panties and am looking at them now. She is a petite slip of a woman.

In June of 2005 she asked if she could take a train out and spend a week visiting me. So she came out in the summer. It was instant sparks. That October she sold her house, I flew out to her home state, collected her and her dog and son and we drove back to Seattle. I carried her across the threshold.

We were very happy. Lots of musical and artistic collaboration, many rich conversations and lots of mind-bendingly great lovemaking. Each of us assesses the other as the most sexually compatible partner we've ever had.

We were very happy...for about one month.

Then she decided that she needed to return to her home state temporarily to attend to family and legal matters. "Phht! She was Gawn!"

Maybe 9 months later an understanding led to us getting mutually pissed off and we lost contact.

Then I started talking to "H" again and four years later we began a love affair that would leave me in piss poor shape.

By hand of God, "L" and I have reconnected and I am quite pleased.

She is 42 years old and I am not so recovered from my midlife crisis that a woman who is six years my junior is so interested in me. She is very smart and has a fiery personality--even more so than me, but she is such a sweet sincere person. And she is a brilliant artist. We have decided to really get serious about her "making it" as an artist, and I have a feeling it is really going to pay off.

Things could be worse.

December 12, 2009
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Hey Worried_Dad,

First time on this side of the site.

I think that is a pretty cool story, good luck. Out with the old, in with the new, as long as your own house is in order.

Your description of your gal reminds me of a "person of interest" in my world. "Brilliant artist", "slip of a woman", "musician", sounds all very familiar. What's not to love?

Enjoy the ride brother, sounds like your in for a happy new year!

December 14, 2009
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hello, WD,

Got some pennies or maybe some questions... Great story just why did she leave in the first place? first time and is this a common thing with her she could have some commitment issues. Don't want to break bubble just trying to be honest.

December 15, 2009
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Hi heartache,

She had pressing matters back in her home state.

December 15, 2009
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Hey there WD,

It is fun to learn more about you, and I hope the best for you. You sound so excited! I love the newness of love (did I just say love too much)?

Yes, life is short..........congrats.

Hope

December 20, 2009
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WD- This sounds promising. I am very happy 4 U.

January 2, 2010
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Looking back at old kournals and threads I realize that "L" is actually woman # 2,242 from the "Horror of Online Dating" story.

The dreaded "H." is actually woman # 2,243.

January 2, 2010
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"L" is a phenomenal woman.

The story of what happened to her after we lost touch is mind boggling. And terrifying. I want to share some things about her.

Her situation is really complicated so please reserve judgement or criticism of her for now, because I am well aware of her Human Flaws.

I think the "Embassy" thread explains that I was born and did a lot of growing up in the Deep South. I now have a pretty neutral accent, but I can impersonate a variety of Southern accents and I can detect the accents at one part per million.

"L" has spent the last five years among...low income Southerners and OMG her accent has changed. Her twang and drawl are quite pronounced now. If you didn't know her you would mistake her for a total hayseed. But when she sings or puts her mind to it she can sound like a cultured person from...just about anywhere.

I love the sound of her voice.

January 2, 2010
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From the time "L" left in November 2005, until Thanksgiving of 2008, I stayed faithful to her. I was sure she was coming back to me. If only I had waited one more year I wouldn't be in such sorry shape. Oh well, live and learn.

I feel very badly that after she left, "L" was frequently a Homeless Person. Damn, if she had contacted me anytime between Novemeber 2005 and Thanksgiving of 2008 I would have retrieved her in a trice.

For a time, she lived in a tent deep in the forest with her 100 pound red dog named "G," who was her best friend and protector. At night she could hear the coyotes and the wolves around her. She would come to town once a week or so for supplies.

At that time she had only two possessions worth any significant money. One was a Razer Cell phone which I had given her. The other was a fur coat in immaculate condition. She spent the last of her money to have it appraised, and it turned out to be worth $3,700.

Okay, imagine that you're a homeless woman living in a tent and you discover that your coat is worth thirty seven hundred dollars. What do you do?

She donated the coat to a charity auction to benefit an hospice for AIDS patients.

God help me to be worthy of her.

January 2, 2010
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WD Do you hate the south and the fact that you have southern roots. Where in Alabama are you from?

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January 2, 2010
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Hi Bitsy,

I was born in Huntsville, Alabama.

No, I don't "hate the South."

But my politics are on the extreme left and there are a lot of red states down there.

And while going to school there I didn't like the violence and the racism. I particularly didn't like the extreme forms of corporal punishment practiced in the public schools--which I received much too often despite doing my best to be a "good boy."

If I hadn't moved to Washington and Alaska before high school, I suspect that I would have ended up not going to college, and becoming a racist wife beating hick or something.

I could see living in Chapel Hill North Carolina though.

All that being said, I am a cosmopolitan city boy now and I am not immune to instinctive linguistic predjudice, or "accentism." For me, like for many people, a nuetral West Coast "television" accent sounds "normal," an English or good German accent makes a person sound "smarter," and a Southern accent makes them sound dumber. I have to actually apply will power to overcome that prejudice.

Hey, my Dad is from Georgia and he sounds just like Elvis Presely and he's one of the smartest guys I know.

And my beautiful "L" who has a prounounced twang and drawl is also very intelligent.

January 3, 2010
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Well, then, you probably should deduct about 50 IQ points from whatever you think about me. I was born and raised south of where you were. When I was much younger I really worked at not having an accent, but now I accept it and it is part of who I am. I have travelled enough to realize that racists come in all forms and accents. Idiocy is not regional and most people are more alike than they are different. (this isn't a rant directed at you or your beliefs, just a statement of who I am)

Bitsy

January 3, 2010
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WD, So what's up with L now? Are those dating figures for real? Wow.
Interesting comments on the the south and "accentism". I have family in that neck of the woods and what Faulkner left out or missed, they fill in.

Bitsy, As a pacific islander/half German raised and living in the NE I can say you are on the money. Ignornace is not limited to region, race, or idiology. I agree too people are all similar-they are ALL a damned mess LOL!

January 3, 2010
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Hi Bitsy,

Maybe I didn't make myself clear.

I've been an academic research scientist for a "bitsy" over 20 years now. That means I work with people from all over the country and all over the world, and I encounter many different accents. No, I have never noticed a correlation between acent and IQ.

But I have referenced studies showing that there is a popular perception that British accent means you are smart while Southern accent means you're not so smart and I have acknowledged that I have a bit of that prejudice myself. I don't believe that my prejudice is valid--it's just a knee jerk mental reflex that I still have not ironed out yet.

And yes it's silly, since I am after all a Southern man.

January 3, 2010
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Hi M.E.,

Check the other "WD finds love" thread or the "Horror of Online Dating" thread.

I didn't actually "date" that many women. It's just that over the course of two years I exchanged e-letters with 2,243 women....well some of them were men pretending to be women, some were pre-op transexuals, etc. Most of the letters were about "sorry, not interested."

January 3, 2010
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Hi ME,

Oh, about the dating thing. I'm not really a "dating" kind of guy. My strategy is to be friends with a woman for 9 months to 9 years before trying to have an intimate relationship with her.

That's why I thank my lucky stars to be reconnected with "L." I was sure it was going to take me another decade before I could trust a woman again, but I already know "L" already trust her and already love her.

What's up with "L" now is that we speak on the phone every day. We have both become wiser and kinder people in the last five years. We still love each other and have passion for each other, but are going to take it kind of slow.

This part of our courtship is about becoming reacquainted and starting a business together.

I think I will fly out for a visit in March.

I will try to marry her this summer.

January 3, 2010
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WD and ME. .. Perhaps I am too sensitive about being from the South. It just seems like sometimes the only people left on earth that it is politically correct to make fun of are Southerners. Most of the time I use this to my advantage. Right about the time they think I am a bumbling idiot I show my true colors. My stepbrothers partner made that mistake a couple of times with my dad. Same CNN feeds into my living room as feeds into your tiny little apartment in Manhattan and your tiny little condo in Key West. Recently I shared a recipe with a friend in New Jersey for her company cook off. She almost won but when some of her attorney coworkers found out she got it from someone in the deep south they started making comments. She told me she worked with well educated people and couldn't believe the comments they made or the prejudice they showed.

Bitsy

January 3, 2010
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Hey Bitsy,

Well I've never mistaken you for an idiot. Hey, I was born in Alabama so I can't exactly accuse someone of being a Southerner.

You can't detect anyone's accent online anyway.

Ya caint deteuct anewunz acceunt onlaahn anawayz.

January 3, 2010
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I cannot believe the stupid misunderstandings and bizarre twists of fate that separated us five years ago.

And what a bit of irony that she came to me at my worst moment in ten years. I am just barely recovered enough from what "H" did to me to even speak to a woman. I just have to heal faster. I have to be strong for L" and her son.

It's a miracle. I didn't think I would ever trust, much less Love a woman again. And then a woman who I *already* know and trust and loves shows up out of the blue. And she still loves me!

When I tell you more of the story you will understand why I am impressed by the strength and character of this excellent woman.

Just the story of the fur coat along is amazing to me.

She reminds me a bit of Jesus. Reminds me a bit of my Grandma too.

I'm a really good artist but this woman is a phenomenon. I wish I could show you her work.

And she is a Force of Nature. She is made of Pure Fire.

Sometimes when I think about her and the miracle of reconnecting with her the happiness is too much to bear and I burst into tears.

I love her so much.

I will Love Her and Serve her and Protect her with my dying breathe.

January 3, 2010
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WD when you fall, you fall hard. Be careful my friend. Tread cautiously. I don't want to see you hurt again. If only I was half as willing as you to take a chance again.

Bitsy

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