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Ways to Avoid being hurt
December 27, 2005
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DoThey...

I bought rolled outta my chair laughing. We, or should I say I) won't kick your a**. Now on the other hand Overcome started this grabbin thing, but naw, I'll not grab either. It's not my nature to just go grab w/o askin first. (wink,wink) You say what you want. We've moved on to another thread.

December 27, 2005
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LOL ! Ah Ha ! There is a Grabber at work. He even grabbed me one day. You should have heard the girls laughing. Im a guy :O. One of the girls did get him but I think she got more then his a___. I heard a Yulp and looked around the corner. He had the Goofiest look on his face and anyone around them were holding their sides. :-))))

December 27, 2005
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ROFL.... I'll be sure to watch my sides and my back. lol. You are just too funny. Thanks for the laugh.

Hey, the new grabber wouldn't be Tez would it? I think hemight fit the profile, but definitely he wouldn't grab a man. lol. What do ya say Tez... sound like fun?

Have a good night guys. This lady is goin to sew some thick paddin to protect herself.

December 28, 2005
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Watch the Christmas carols thread on support threads. I wasnt going to add this next one But now I cannot resist. 🙂

December 28, 2005
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Ras,

"I am not angry at jerks."

You're not, eh? As I recall, you sure expressed anger toward them in the first posts of the Jerk thread. You sounded like you wanted to burn them alive!

December 28, 2005
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As to the thread title,

I think the best way to avoid being hurt is to love yourself fully.

(The following is MY opinion that I apply to myself about loving myself.)

The more someone loves theirself the less affected they are by what others do and say. You have your own validation.

Also, trully loving yourself means not setting yourself up for hurt by not interacting with hurtful people.

Loving yourself means surrounding yourself with people who love and support you.

Loving yourself means setting boundaries on how people treat you and setting boundaries on anything that doesn't feel like you are honoring yourself.

Loving yourself means treating yourself with love and respect, never, ever judging yourself, putting yourself down or name calling yourself. Rather feeling compassion for yourself.

Loving yourself means paying attention to your needs and honoring them.

Loving yourself means taking good care of you no matterwhat.

Loving yourself means caring about how you feel all of the time.

and more ...

December 28, 2005
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Kathy:

Thanks for the list Kathy.

I have a problem w/: judging myself, putting myself down or name calling myself. Like saying things to myself like "good one jane, screwed that one up", "way to go dumba**" type talk. I think my dad used to say the last one when I was young.

Great info really. Thanks.

December 28, 2005
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mama,

you never, ever deserve to be called names especially by yourself.

If I do something like spill a full cup of hot coffee all over my coffee table and on to the rug, my first reaction is to go straight to the empathy for myself. I'll say something to myself like 'oh, my poor sweatheart, don't worry I'll just clean it right up for you and fix you a new cup of coffee'.

My inner child loves this and it helps me feel my own love.

December 28, 2005
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Thanks Kathy... I'll give it a try. Does sound funny to be saying that to me, but hey, I might just get to like it.

again thanks. 🙂

December 28, 2005
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Kathy,

You and my therpapist seem to have seeped into my psyche, and it made me laugh.

I too, have a very bad habit of calling myself names and putting myself down when I do something "stupid". My therapist often says things like "I'm not going to allow you to talk down to yourself" when I tell her I did something dumb, etc.

Anyway, the other day, I was leaving my house and after I locked the door, I realized that I had forgotten something. I started to say (outloud)...."oh, you f%$^ idiot" but before I did, I thought of you and my therapist and instead it came out as....."oh you f.....forgetful person, you"

Hey, it's a start right? LOL

Thanks Kath....

Love,
Lolli

December 28, 2005
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lolli,

I'm glad to be helpful to anyone.

You are never, ever 'stupid'. Find the compassion for the part of you that is suffering after having forgotten something inside. Also, find the love and understanding for you who may have a lot going on so its natural to be forgetful.

You already feel bad about having to open the door again and go inside why make yourself feel worse by calling yourself names? Whose side are you on anyway? Yours, I hope!

love,
kathy

December 28, 2005
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Hey All,

The "jerks" I was discussing in this thread are people who have loads of emotional baggage, sociopaths, and sickos who do NOT want/refuse to change and seek therapy.

If you identified yourself as jerk, do not take it personally, coz you were Not targeted here. We are talking about negative deceitful jerks here on this thread. The fact that you are here shows that you're good responsbile person who lives in truth as opposed to other jerks who live in denial.

The truth is we are all jerks!LoL Yes that is the truth. However, we are "smart positive jerks" because we are working on our own issues, growth etc, thus that's why we are here.

The jerks I meant in my thread are the "foolish negative jerks" i.e the "losers", who are in denial, pretend they is nothing wrong with them, refuse to work on themselves or go to therapy.

These are the "very jerks" I was targeting in my thread here and I was advising Mamac and Flower and the rest to keep their distance from.
I believe these people are problematic and can cause us lots of unnecessary troubles that could be avoided.

So, rest assured you were Not being attacked or talked off here!

(((Seek))) I presume after reading this thread, this should answer your question that I am not angry against anybody. The only thing I object to is the mindset of these foolish negative jerks who refuse to go to therapy and make a mess of our life. So many problems could have been avoided if these fellows went to counseling and sought therapy. After all who wouldn't object to that anyway?!

I hope this will bring back peace and Big Smile to everyone here!

~Ras~:)

December 28, 2005
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Ras:

VERY WELL PUT!!

December 28, 2005
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EF, btw, I've been offline for a while, just wanted to say thanks for your reply to me from a while back. It means a lot. *smile* Hang in there, lady...

December 28, 2005
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"If you want to continue this Tez please name a thread. "

I thought that we were pretty well on the thread topic.

I'll leave it up to you, bro.

December 28, 2005
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All/ Great points.....

Ras- Right On !

What you said Right Here----
"So many problems could have been avoided if these fellows went to counseling and sought therapy. After all who wouldn't object to that anyway?! "

or at the very least, took a shot at being honest with themselves. It makes me glad that I am not the only one that see's it. What that lack of self honesty in others has cost me and so many on this board. Wow!

"Tez" I didnt mean to sound picky with you in my last post. Creative people are known to be alittle spacy and Im guilty. " 🙂 The hobbies may very well be like a Therapist sitting there ,bearing witness to what someone is saying. Just enough distaction to cause something good to come out of it. It would cause me to make an effort to be more focused on something.therapist or hobby.I just got stuck on that last part of your post because it reminded me of the the way I say things sometime. Im one of Those people 🙂 that can visualize to the point of having a 3D CAD program running in my head of something Im working on in the durration of a Long Blink but when I try to focus on writting something my little CAD program in my head likes to pop up and it does not play well with things like posting on here. 🙂 It goes like this, no dont write that or you will be rewritting it 10 minutes(Iknow from experience:) I just Experimented with myself. In 30 seconds I visualized a piece from a 2 year old project that I made and counted over 30 parts to it. It ran just like a movie,swivled in 3 dimentions and it was hard to stop distracting myself from focusing on things that will get changed with the next one I make. 🙂 Just this little bit Im posting now took 30 minutes. LOL No kidding ! and I just went back and added one thing. So I will quit while Im ahead or at least not to far behind.

December 28, 2005
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OK Tez ! I must have been working on my post while you posted. That is the second time I did that today. 🙂

December 29, 2005
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You wrote on the 28-Dec-05:

""Tez" I didnt mean to sound picky with you in my last post."

No, I know that - I never for a moment even thought that you were, bro.

You also wrote:

"I just Experimented with myself. In 30 seconds I visualized a piece from a 2 year old project that I made and counted over 30 parts to it. It ran just like a movie,swivled in 3 dimentions and it was hard to stop distracting myself from focusing on things that will get changed with the next one I make."

You 'suffer' from right brained Creative Visualizationism too 🙂

The right hemisphere of the brain even though linked to the left via the corpus callosum never does seem to speak the same language as the left. Thus when trying to use left brained words to describe right brained 'vision' something is bound to be lost in the translation no matter how hard we try.

Catch ya later.

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Hey Tez ! / All

Check this link out. ROFL

http://www.portfolio.mvm.ed.ac.....ology.html

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