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W.D. No longer Worried. Son found.
May 4, 2012
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Too late.  .

 

On Monday morning April 23rd, I got an email telling me to call his maternal grandparents.  First I have heard from the family in ten years.

 

Jason shot himself on April 19th, 2012.  He was taken off of life support on April 20th.

 

This tragedy was predictable and easily avoidable.  I feel truly broken and ruined.

 

http://lmtribune.com/obituarie.....d3793.html

 

 

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May 5, 2012
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Dear Worried,

I cannot bear to think how you must feel.  Truly this is a personal tragedy that is not be measured by any other.  Imagine what must have been going through your son's mind prior to making the decision to end his life?  You are right to say that it likely could have been prevented, but trying to read the mind of a person and knowing how severe their emotional pain might be is very difficult whether you are living with them or not.

It's a crying shame that we do not see how much pressure we put on each other sometimes.  The actions we take, the ones we should have and did not.

I always hope that if my pain is insurmountable today, that somehow tomorrow it will be just a little better, but for some, whatever they have experienced is just too overwhelming and they don't want to try to have that hope any more.

I hope you forgive Jason and forgive yourself.  I am certain that he did the best he could with the circumstances that he had to deal with.  I can only imagine how terrible you are feeling.  It was courageous of you to post.

 

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May 5, 2012
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Oh wd I just can't imagine.  I've stood beside a friend during this and all I could do was

just be there and share memories.  The you tube videos brought tears to my eyes. What

a beautiful child and what joy you shared together.  Know that you are thought of in spirit

and prayer, that you are not alone.  Yes, you were very courageous to share.  I'm glad you

did.

 

thinking of you

 

andii

May 7, 2012
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Hey wd.  In case you're reading, just want to let you know that you're being thought about and prayed for.

May 7, 2012
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Worried_Dad,

                      You and Jason are in my thoughts and Prayers.  I planted flowers today in memory of Jason. 

 

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May 11, 2012
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Hoping you have a support system wd.  Some close friends to lean on and to comfort you.  I

know it's hard to sleep, but your body needs that so much.  And food.  If you find that you

are crying so much that your eyes hurt and burn but there are no tears you are becoming

dehydrated.  If you find bruising on and around your midsection and ribcage, it's from crying

so much.  If these things are happening then this is too much for you, get in to see your doc.

 

Thinking about you.

 

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May 12, 2012
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Free,

those things happened to me when my Mom died in February.  She was on life support and I was the only family there with her from 11p.m. until 10:00 the next morning.  I had been up since 5am that particular day.  The ICU nurses kept telling me to go have a break but I just did not want to leave her side.  I knew it would be the last time I could actually see her face.  I never got to say goodbye to her, but the nurse said  they can hear you while they are in a coma.  Who knows?  I just remember how fearful she was at being alone in a hospital.  I quietly cried all night long & tried to remember her favourite songs to sing to her.  Then they took her off the support and I took myself home in a cab to my three children.

 

I hope you have a terrific Mother's Day.  You seem like a wonderful Mother and a caring person!

May 12, 2012
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WD, Just want to say that I am very sorry to hear about your son.  I just saw this now. I don't check all the threads or come here very often anymore. You will be thought of as you deal with this traggic loss. Sincerely, TW

May 17, 2012
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Holding you close in prayer and thought.

May 18, 2012
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WD, my heart goes out to you in this time of loss and grief.  I lost my daddy unexpectedly last summer.  Its taking me some time to get used to the idea that he is gone.  Take good care of yourself.

May 22, 2012
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Thinking about you wd, hoping you are as okay as you can be right now.

 

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May 24, 2012
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That is so heartbreaking,  I'm sorry for your loss.

Isis

June 1, 2012
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Dear Worried_Dad,

 

Please accept my most sincere condolences.

I am deeply sorry that life took that life took such tragic turn. As a parent, I cannot imagine your anguish.

He was a wonderful and a beautiful boy. Cherish the memories of the times you've spend with him and his influence on your life, because so often our children make us better human beings and we can learn so much from them, and I am sure he is one of those beautiful souls.

Take care of yourself and don't despair, because he wouldn't want you to.

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

Matteo

June 22, 2012
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Dearest WD, My deepest sympathies are sent your way. I cannot imagine the heartache you feel. I am so sorry for your loss. You have been thought of over the years, and I was so shocked to see your post. Caring thoughts are sent your way.

Juanita

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