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Varieties of Human Sexual Experience - Part II
February 10, 2005
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Juanita,

you know, that's interesting. I found that when I was in college, I would find myself losing interest in the girl when the "hunt was over". I mean, we would start kissing, making out, I knew she wanted the same thing that I did and then, pow, I lost interest. It only lasted for a little while, but it was an interesting phenomena.

I still don't quite understand it, but I think it was that I wasn't looking for an easy "roll in the hay". I'm not bragging or anything, but it got really easy to get girls in the sack. I guess I wanted something more.

Still do.

Gully

February 10, 2005
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WD - 2 guys, the first my exHusband, the second two times from my exBoyfriend post-divorce. He cheated on me about 8 times, I've recently discovered.

I also contracted HPV, which condoms do not protect against.

80% of the sexually active population has had or currently has HPV. I developed cervical cancer in December 2003, and had part of my cervix removed. I recently found out I was having another outbreak. and I have another biopsy to look forward to.

My cervix is being chipped away.

And if I had known about HPV and the fact that condoms don't protect against it, I wouldn't have been as promiscuous as I was years ago.

But that said I've done pretty much everything under the sun but a train ride (2 guys + 1 girl) - which I personally find degrading. Sex can get boring no matter what.

It's all about the context.

Gully - I have the same problem. Once I get to the point where I have sex with someone the first time, maybe after a month, maybe after a week, I usually lose interest. I also love the hunt. I don't know WHAT I want.

February 10, 2005
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Cici - I think that deep down, we know what we want. It's just that since we are human, we screw it all up.

February 10, 2005
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However, with my new found freedom, I am once again looking forward to the hunt. After the obligatory one to one and a half years of getting myself healthy and ready for new relationships. Though I read in a book recently, why the hell wait? Take some risks.

I also read that it takes one year to recover from a divorce for every year you were married. I don't think so. Yee-Haw! I'm recovered now!

February 10, 2005
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A train ride? I don't know what the positions or whatever would be, but I think it would be hot to have more than one guy 'do' me. πŸ˜‰ As long as they both really like me. That's just a fantasy though.

Oh! LOL I think I get it! A weird mental picture just popped into my head. You mean like in those cartoons where one character is on either side of a thing on train tracks? And they have to seesaw back and forth to make the thing go? I can see how that would be degrading. LOL

I have always thought of it in a different way... Maybe it’s just because I want love! *sniffles* =(

Anyways, I let myself be made out to be a slut while I was in middle school and highschool. I didn't care. Well, I did care, but there is no use trying to change people's opinions of you once they get it in their head's that you are a certain way. I did have sex young. Maybe not the youngest ever, I was 13.

But, that scared me away! LOL He was a little bit older than I was (17) it hurt a lot, I (thought) I loved him, and he broke up with me shortly after, so I was scared into celibacy for many years!

He was a virgin. Actually, every guy that I have been with was. They were all boyfriends, and I was in love, and it all followed the same pattern!

February 10, 2005
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Question: Why is a 3-some with 2 men and 1 woman degrading as opposed to 2 women & 1 man???

IS there a difference?? I suppose it is only degrading if you let it become degrading - otherwise it could be very stimulating. (so I imagine)

I wonder why if you talk to a man, they'd love two women at the same time - but not so much the sharing one woman. hmmmm.... We women should be entitled to equal fantasy rights!

This topic is of interest to me b/c my spouse fantasizes about the visual stimulation of me with another man.... interesting.

I believe there is a statistic somewhere (which I'm sure WD would probably know how to find out) that 1/3 of all men are into voyuerism (sp?) be it watching porn or watching in real life.

Personally, I have no desire to see my guy go do the humpty-hump on another woman.

hmmm

February 10, 2005
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I do find it unfair that guys think it's okay to want two girls but for me to want two guys well that's just sluty.

February 10, 2005
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And yeah! How come whenever I would even mention my fantasies of two men, the guy I mention it to freaks out? Like acting on that fantasy would make him gay or something?

I'm not asking for him to do anything to the other guy. My fantasy has always been all about me! LOL πŸ˜‰

If he wants to, that's his 'thang'!

February 10, 2005
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Would some of the guys care to explain "the hunt" ? I want to date someone who respects my boundaries, I want to be pursued, but not for the conquer. Which brings to mind, I think this is how we are created...guys like the hunt, women like to be pursued...does this ring a bell with anyone?
Or does it just depend on the person?

February 10, 2005
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Eewwww, two guys!

There is the indication that the two guys doing the one girl are really acting out their homosexual fantasies, using the female as a safe intermediary.

Which brings to mind a story... No wait, maybe another time.

February 10, 2005
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Juanita...I think the figure approaches 100%.

The question of MMF vs MFF triads and mens reactions to them has been raised.

Men are conditioned much more intensely to homophobia than women. Notice that heterosexual women tend to be more able to be physically affectionate with each other than men. The perception is that "real men" don't hug other men.

February 10, 2005
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I know you are bieng objective WD, but to me real men do hug other men..not in a sexual way, but in a brotherly way. But I think it takes time to be able to do this. My sons don't hug other men, but other men that I see, hug other men. My brother in law does as well. I think it is a nice trait.

February 10, 2005
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I've known a few men who did the train on a female, all of them universally thought the female was a whore.

I dunno, with MFF, there's a lot of foreplay and playing around, I've had my share of those and honestly I don't like 3somes all that much. I think one on one is hotter.

With MMF I think there's more straight f*cking going on, in wich case I would get (a) stretched out (b) sore (c) nauseous (d) sweaty.

February 10, 2005
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Cici,

Not sure what "the train is." How does that go?

Anyway, my experience with triads was in the context of friendship and Tantric practice. No intercourse was involved--just hands, eyes, breath, heart. And a big part of the focus of the MMF triads was the men being in loving service of the woman.

And with the MMF triads the men did seem to have a lot more homophobia to overcome.

I remember a book I read about the swinger's culture: At these swingers events, sexual coneact between women was considered natural or expected, while any contact, even accidental, between men was likely to precipitate violence.

February 10, 2005
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The train can happen in a variety of ways. There's the classic, you go then I go (one after the other), double penetration (one in front, one in back), and the "King Solomon" - one guy in the mouth, the other down South.

THere's also DP in one hole but that's for porn stars only, I'm thinkin'.

Sex is like any other bodily function. Like taking a crap. Necessary, but not always pretty.

haha

February 10, 2005
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I am trying to visualize this train, like Amanda. Is there such a thing? I am dying of curiosity! Let's see...two guys one on each side, going bump, bump, like a train going over the tracks? But when getting 'into it' how does the girl relate back to the guys, I mean, how can one pay attention to two at the same time? Seems like it is just sex. What happens looking into someone's eyes at that moment? You got two pairs to look at? This is too much. I am not sure I want to know. To each his/her own, I guess.

February 10, 2005
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Looks like Cici posted while I was typing and hers got on top of mine.

So WHAT is DP? We are talkling to amateurs here, so abbreviations are confusing.

February 10, 2005
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I agree. One on One is hotter, especially if there is intimacy, love and trust. There are tons of things and situations to explore. Yeah, I think it's the love.

As far as men not hugging, well, the men in my family hug when we meet, hug when when we leave. It's a shame that more men don't hug. It feels good to hug your father or your son. Sometimes, when one of my boys walk by, I just grab and hug them for a moment.

WD - Gay Talase (I think that's his name) wrote a book about his experiences in the swinger culture back in the 70s. I remember his shock when he came to the realization that his wife was having sex with another man, in the same room as he and another woman. He was first amazed at how beautiful she was, making love, moving under this other man. Then came the realization that that woman was his wife, the mother of his children, the love of his life. If I remember correctly, he didn't handle it very well. He thought that he should have, being in the spirit of things, but he didn't. That has always stayed with me, especially when I think of that kind of situation.

There is a difference between real life and fantasy. When people mix the two, without really thinking about it, it usually comes up and knocks the shit out of them.

Hell, I have a lot of fantasies. I have realized a lot of them in real life. Oh baby, talk about good. It was great. But I didn't do any of them because I read about it in Hustler or Penthouse the day before.

February 10, 2005
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LOL Sew! I don't know that much either, but DP is double penetration.

But I thought that that meant anything: one in the mouth, while one 'down south'

Or one back and one in front

But you are saying it has to be in the same place/hole?

And... I read that a girl doesn't get stretched out.

Then I read that she does.

So which is it?

I want to have some fantasy sex. Or something. I am young!

'Realize my fantasies'

February 10, 2005
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chug, chug, toot toot! this is about all i know about a train...and that's ok! However, I will never look at a train again and not think of this conversation without smiling! πŸ™‚

February 10, 2005
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Heck, I just want some sex, period!

February 11, 2005
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choo-choo, chugga-chugga!

February 11, 2005
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Whoo-Whoo!

February 11, 2005
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I know a man who is very interested in trains.

I wonder if it has a *deeper* meaning?

LOL (no pun intended)

February 11, 2005
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Like, Lionel Trains?

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