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To separate or not - To divorce or not
December 19, 2004
11:34 pm
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Where do I begin. I am a 38 year old female who has been married for three years. Actually, I have know my husband for seven years and we lived together for three years. To make a long story short. I got pregnant and he went back to his ex six years ago, then we got back together, lived together, then got married. Now I wonder what in the world was I doing. He doesn't hit me or abuse our daugher, he goes to work everday, but... he drinks too much and often stays out for days at a time. I just can't handle it anymore and I want out. He usually starts this nonsense right before the holidays or on the weekends. I have been through counseling, paxil, and back. Now I think its time to just face the truth. I don't know why he does the things he does and I really don't want to waste another seven years trying to figure it out. I have come to the conclusion that there is not enough therapy or paxil in the world for all of the rage, anger, hate, sadness, disappointment, etc... that I feel. What's worse, I've allowed myself to become 65lbs. overwieght. What do I do? On the one hand, I need his financial help. I can make it on my own, but I would be struggling-really. Babygirl goes to private school and it's very necessary as we live just outside of detroit. I go to work, come home, help with homework, get clothes out,comb hair, give baths, and fall asleep. Hubby works nights and sleeps all day, he says he is tired -occassionally he will cook dinner, but usually he just loafs, while I do everything else in addition to working often 9-10 hours. Oh by the way on the weekend, he sleeps in the basement. I never said he had to. I feel po'd. I didn't sign up for the roommate plan or the basement players club. Help. I am really confused yet trying to keep my cool for the sake of my child who is five and for my own sanity.

December 20, 2004
11:13 am
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First, let me say you should copy this thread into the support side of this board. Many more people frequent that side and you will receive more feedback.

Whatever you feel you can accomplish you will. Believe in yourself and know what you can achieve!

I left my first husband at 41 years old and I am living on my own getting ready to buy my own house!! How cool is that?

You have no idea of what the future holds. One action leads to another reaction and prediction should be left to the gifted.

Your 5 year old will gain more from a loving environment with a mother who is happy. Though the road is harder will you be happier in the long run? Only you can answer that question.

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