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June 9, 2009
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Cary,

I have to say that knowing many couples that have step-children in their life now, it always seems that it is the "Girls" that seem to give the step-parent such a hard time... It sometimes seems like they are afraid to allow their father to be happy, and in two of the couples case the mother to be happy in a new relationship. Looking from the outside in, I've seen this so many times where the step-daughter just wants and demands so much attention that it takes it's toll on all involved, especially the step-parent.

Hang in there, and enjoy today everyday!

June 10, 2009
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Caraway- I am almost done painting the laudry room. The dark color is tricky to work with. I will have a lot to clean up afterward. But it has a nice, smooth finish. The base paint is chalk like.

My X has two daughters. One will be 18 in July and the other turned 15 in March. They are both high maintenance. Bearers of bad news, turmoil, etc. Always calling when they want something. Never to see how we are doing or to bring joy into our life. The worse part is it brings out the worse in my X whenever he has anything to do with them. Tough situation.

Boys seem to be more understanding of their fathers.

You need to get a horse to go with your cowboy boots and hat.

I ride my pony that is what I do for fun and take care of her. Its about as exciting as it gets. I hope to go camping this summer.

How is your job?

June 10, 2009
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Destiny,

Hanging in here with job; no more layoffs announced at this time. (keeping my fingers crossed.)

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June 10, 2009
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Caraway- Thank goodness you still have a job. My job called me today. Have to go in tormorrow. Have to take a cut in pay. Told them I would think it over. What type of work does your man do?

June 11, 2009
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D,

Big Papa is a Surgeon, MD. and thankfully the economy hasn't hurt his business.

I have talked to numerous folks who have had to take a cut in pay, but it certainly beats the alternative. I hope it isn't too high of a percentage. In some cases, the cut actually dosen't translate into much less in actual bring home pay once taxes and tax brackets are considered.

I know that you must be feeling underappreciated, but try and project a positive attitude with the boss and company; the Universe will reward you for it down the road.

((Destiny))

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June 11, 2009
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caraway- A surgeon. I think you are on the right track getting him to do some financial planning. No wonder why his Adult K's think he is an ATM machine. What type of surgery does he perform? I am an RN. I live in a remote area and if I want to work close to my house which is 25 miles away in the next town then I have to take the cut. I really dont care. But it is huge. Like over 1/2 the amt. of my normal salary. My long term goal is to rebuild my resume then move to a place that is closer to stuff and get a REAL JOB. Doctors work so damn hard. There is such a shortage of them. I bet you must have a nice life style.

What is your opionion on the housing market do you think it will recover any time soon? I would LOVE to be able to sell my house and get back what I put into it.

June 12, 2009
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Destiny,

The experts say that we have seen the worst of the housing market and things are beginning to rebound. Could you rent your place for a year and then try and sell it?

My partner is a Urologist; mostly kidneys, prostates, bladders, and cancers. He has moved in with me and we are going to see how things go before deciding to buy something together (my fear and uncertainty about the kids). We really have a fairly mid level lifestyle and with the exception of golf and country club stuff don't really identify with the sterotype.

Do you work 12 hour shifts, or more regular hours? Several of my family members are nurses; I think that has to be one of the most under-appreciated professions.

Anything fun going on this weekend?

Cary

June 12, 2009
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Caraway- I could try to rent it out, but the last time I did the renters did not pay the rent and I had to evict them. They did some damage to the place. This home is 2 years old and I cant afford to go through that again. I was thinking about trying to trade it but I dont know how that works. I owe 20 thousand more on it than what it is appraised for.

As far as the step adult K's go is your man willing to go to counseling. You know let a professional tell him what time it is so to speak?

Golf, country clubs? Sounds nice to me.

I work 8 hour shifts. My specialty is taking care of medically fragile neonates. The babies that need to be monitored and on life support equipment. I dont work that much anymore. But, my company needs me to supervise, train others and go out on cases if someone doesnt show up. I love my profession.

This weekend I plan on taking to someone "hot" on the phone. Sorry but thats as good as it gets. Unless I visit my X in "Club Fed".

June 12, 2009
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Destiny -

If it will help you feel any better about your housing value dilemma, let me share mine:

My house (which has remained unsold for three years) is mortgaged for $412,000. Its current market value? $275,000.

So, I am facing foreclosure. Can't afford the payments and can't sell it, even at 'break even."

Just hold tight...that $20K shortage of yours should even out in another year.

- Ma Strong

June 12, 2009
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Cary,

There's a message to you on the support side... not sure if you saw it. Peace to you (((Lil Bro))))

(((Destiny))))

How's Susie doing? That's too bad about your hours getting cut back... too bad you can't rent out the house, and come down here to visit!!!! However, I understand not wanting to be a landlord, we used to own two condo's and everytime a tenet would move out, we had to replace flooring, and do so much cleaning, it was almost not worth it...and we eventually got tired of being landlords so we sold them.. this was back in the early 80's and we took a loss on them because the market wasn't good then when we sold.

I'd have to agree with "Ma" if you can handle the mortgage and all it would be best to sit on the house until the market improves. Did you say your in Ca now? If so it may take a little longer then some other places as Ca has been hit hard.

(((Ma))))

So sorry to hear about your house situation, I hear your situation everyday where I live. Is there anyway you can rent part of your home out like to a boarder in order to make your payments? I know your situation is so hard, have you checked into any of the programs that are out there to help people like yourself with the upside down mortgage? Lot's of prayers your way, I hope something works out for you in your situation.

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June 13, 2009
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Stronginhim- WOW. You must have a very nice home. I am very sorry to hear you are facing foreclosure. My home is located in a remote area. It is a simple home. No garage. No fence. Because of the foreclosures here there are a lot of unsold bank owned homes in more desirable areas. Thank you for the words of encouragement and hope.

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Healing and Peace- Yes I am in CA. I did not renew my FL RN license this year. I would love to be there with all the trees and rain. Susie is a nice quiet gentle pony. She is only 5 or 6 which is amazing. There are endless trails here. Kind of creepy no trees, water or civilization. I MISS FL.

June 15, 2009
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Destiny,

Now I recall you telling me that you didn't renew your license here. My son is over at the hospital where you used to live right now.... He had broke his nose last week, and he didn't bother going to a Doc or to the hospital.. You know that I don't need to go to a Doctor syndrome that some 22 year olds have... LOL...and on top of that he is in med school so it seems like it is even worse with him... that I'm tough syndrome is what I call it.

Every Sunday all the kids come by and have dinner with us, kind of turned into a traditional thing for all of us... so I saw his nose for the first time yesterday.. I couldn't believe it, all three of our son's have their father's handsome "Italian Roman shaped Nose" So when I saw it all swollen and crooked like in the shape of an S now, I said you need to go the emergency room, because it looked infected and really bad. They discharged him last night and told him that he needed to get to a ENT Doc today, that is was severely infected and had multiple fractures... every one we called this morning couldn't get him in, so I had him go back to the Hospital this afternoon.. I was with him when the Doctor came in so at least I asked all the questions and so on that needed to be asked and they are calling in a surgeon. Ugg kids! You got to love em, but boy can they be a pain in the ass at times.

June 16, 2009
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Healing and Peace- Did you find an
ENT doctor for your son to go to? Does he have good health insurance. I know an excellent ENT MD in Boca Raton if you need any referrals. My daughter takes the crown when it comes to being a pain in the ass. The rest of the kids are runners up. But my grand baby is a perfect Angel. I just got a hitching post installed. Now I have to paint it with a sealant and sand it.

June 16, 2009
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Destiny,

LOL - Love it, your grand-daughter "A perfect Angel"!!!! I bet she is!

About the ENT, last night Palms West transfered him to a differant hospital, and what slipped my mind was a friend of mine is a ENT but you know sometimes you forget these little important things when you should really remember. Anyway he came into take care of him today, the sad part is that my son was at Palms West and that hospital did nothing at all, and the infection was so bad that the ENT/friend said he could't believe that PWH even calls themselves a hospital that this infection could have gone straight to his brain.... This I knew, and I kept questioning the Doctors at the first hospital but they seemed to be dumbfounded as to what to do if you can believe it, and they only had one ENT on staff and he was on vacation... so they just allowed the infection to brew all the longer with no attempts to drain it or treat it with antibiotics... I was so flippen crazy I just couldn't believe it, I had to almost throw a fit before they got on the phone and got him transfered to a staffed Hospital. Never again will anyone I know go to that first hospital. One of the few that I'm not that familar with, but I am now!

I felt so sorry for my son today when they were working on his nose, I mean he was in so much pain, even the Doctor looked like he was in pain doing working on it... He just kept saying you still with me, hang in there, it's almost over... then he had to have it all done again this afternoon, I wasn't there the second time around... but my son just called me and said he would rather have his nose broken everyday then to have to go through any of this treatment again.... lol ... I told him maybe next time something happens he might consider getting it checked out right away instead of letting it get as bad as it did... This is the first time I've seen a broken nose develope into a infection... I mean huge infection!

Thanks for offering the referral, if he wasn't transfered last night I would have driven him down to Boca that's where one of my stables are anyway so it isn't that far as you know from Wellington.

June 17, 2009
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Healing and Peace- How did your son break his nose to begin with. I would think that it would be standard to culture the wound for infection and to start him on Antibiotics immediatly. Usually they have to get rid of the infection before they can do surgery to repair it. Sounds like the first hospital was guilty of a standard of care violation and the MD who examined him mal practice. This is just common sense. I am glad that your son is finally on his road to recovery.

I picked my son up the other day from the park and he had 3 wounds on his arm dripping blood then started yelling at me when I mentioned it. All I could do was get the bacitracin out of the glove box and beg him to put some on. Cause of Staph. When I took him to his friends his mother saw it and he allowed her to treat it. BOYS. Gotta love em. Mine is 16.

June 17, 2009
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Ha ha ha... Oh yeah I truly do love em, as much of a pain in the ass they can be... they are so funny about trying to be so tough. Having three grown boys I remember the days of 12 - 17 and oh to have their mom ask them to clean a wound or even bandage it up... that's unheard of at that age, unless of course it isn't the mom suggesting it! 🙂

I'd have to say pretty much all the men I know have that syndrome and the worst are those in the medical field.
The story I got on how his nose broke was that he was at the gas station with his twin and his girlfriend and three men started saying things to his girlfriend so he told them to shut their mouths... I'm sure not too nicely either... and they jumped him. His twin had told me about it the same night when it happened, but he said he didn't think he was hurt... just a swollen nose. Good indecation that it could be broke most of the time... so because he doesn't live at home anymore, I didn't get to see him until Sunday.

Destiny I'm telling you just looking at it anyone let alone a doctor could see there was a major infection going on... When I called them after they discharged him Sunday evening I asked why they didn't run a culture, and why they didn't treat him, and I didn't get a logical answer at all. This was the hospital in Loxahatchee... so the next morning he came over and I could't believe it was even bigger, and worse looking so I called again and told the hospital that he was coming back and that he needed antibiotics, which I could have very well got for him, with me being in the medical field, but it needed to be drained and taken care of by an ENT.... When I called them to let them know he was going back and that he needed treatment they didn't bother telling me that they didn't have an ENT on staff.

You know I'm sure being a RN that this type of infection can go staight to the brain. He has it packed now, and will have to go back tomorrow to have it drained again, then they will talk about the surgery after the infection in under control.

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sounds like your son has been through quite an ordeal. Hopefully he is on the road to recovery.

I am having Animal Control Wars with the neighbors.

My pony is so gentle and sweet we ride her almost everyday. She never spooks, runs, bucks, bites. I consider myself lucky. She rubbed her entire mane off in one spot. So I put vaseline on it. Then she rubbed her fly mask off and tore t. What a character.

I might put shoes on her front feet cause of the rocks here.

I dont look forward to summer cause it gets so darn hot here. So I have to ride at the crack of dawn or in the evening.

June 18, 2009
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What's going on with the neighbor's and the ACC? We have so many problems down here right now with the ACC, they are overwhelmed so I kind of understand, but they are turning their backs on starving horses here that have been left on abandoned property's. Most of the homeowners called the ACC and said they had to move because they're homes were being foreclosed on but couldn't take their horses to apartments, and the ACC doesn't bother taking in the horses, and with the homeowners having no place to take their horses, they just leave them which is also so wrong on their part.

There's numerous cases of people still living on their property's as well, but they are not feeding their horse's and the ACC does nothing about it.... it's so unbelievable when you see these horses and know that the ACC has been turning their heads on the abuse and neglect.

This past weekend I was contacted by another org, asking me to please step in and help create a task forse in order to help these horses, but it is such a huge problem I'm not so sure if were going to be hitting a brick wall or what.... I've always stayed away from the rescue side of the equine's other then taking one or two in here and there, and bringing them back to health then adopting them out to good homes, but this is a huge problem down here now so I'm not sure what is going to come out of our efforts. A lot of the horses are backyard horses in Loxahatchee, and I feel for the owners, but at the same time they need to step up and do what is best for their horses, by finding them homes that can provide for them instead of just letting them starve to death.

We formed a equine food bank, but that takes time for people to reach out for help, part of the problem is they are afraid to ask for help in fear that their horses will be taken away... which isn't the case at all, that's why we formed it so that they could keep their horses and get the help they need with feeding them until they can get back on their feet again financially.... with limits though, I mean if they are just being lazy and not trying to get jobs or do better for themselves we can't feed their horses forever.

It does seem like my son in on the road to recovery, just frustrating on how he was NOT treated at that first hospital.... but all is good, or will be with him.... it will take some more time, and they will have to do surgery to fix it once the infection is under control.

Does it get as hot there as it does here in the summer? Yesterday morning it was 81 degrees at 6am already, then get's up into the high 90's as the day goes on... I can not stand to wear jeans when it is as hot as it has been lately, but when working we really don't have a choice but to wear nice jeans or scrubs....No dresses or skirts while working around or with horses... LOL just doesn't seem to work too well!

If there's rocks around there, I'd consider the shoes to protect her hoofs, you don't need the expense of the repair or any problems with her hoofs so it's more then worth getting shoes on her.

Is she rubbing because of the fly's or just rubbing for some other reason? Speaking of fly mask I saw the cutest fly mask I've ever seen on three horses the other day.. One of them had two eyes painted on the outside and they were crazed looking eyes, one had a pair of glasses painted over the eyes that were painted on it, and the other one had real pretty eyes with long eye lashes painted on it. (too funny) I had to stop and did a double take because it was the first time I've seen fly mask that look like that... I think she ordered them online... I've never seen them in tack shops or anywhere around here.

If she is rubbing because of the fly's? If you can try finding this stuff it's called "Solitude" which is definitely safe and seems to work well if used properly. The active ingredient is not active on mammals and is not absorbed through the GI tract, it simply treats the manure (ie goes in at the front end, goes out at the back end). It kills the fly larvae in the manure, so you won't see much of a difference until a month after you start treating - that's how long the already hatched flies live. I've seen very good results, and the nice thing is it treats the entire property, not just the barn or in your case the paddock, because anywhere the horses poop, the manure comes out pre-treated!

Not sure where you can get where you live, but you probably can look for it online.

H & P

June 18, 2009
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Here's one of the web pages that sells the Solitude:

http://www.shanestack.com/soli.....equine.php

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Healing and peace- Thank you for the link. I gave pony a bath today so she would feel better from the flies buzzing .
There have been people turning horses loose out in the desert here. They are expensive to feed. One would think Animal Control is responsible for starving horses. If they get too many animals and no homes do the euthenize them? Sounds like a good news story.

The animal control stuff here in my little hood is bogus. Neighbors calling them to annoy/harass each other. I just called the sheriff on my neighbor 2 night for driving up on my property and blocking my drive way. Long story.

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Destiny,

It seems like such a waste of time when people play bogus games when it comes to animals... I mean I'm sure the ACC has better things to do with they're time then to have to come out for some bogus games between neighbors.

The problem as we see it here with the ACC is that they don't want to get involved with the equines, although they are being paid to do so, they rarely even seize a horse let alone put them down.... It is more like a problem within our local ACC moreless like someone is just being lazy, if they have to go out and check on a reported case that would mean they would have to come out of their air conditioned office, and get off they're chair.... and actually work.

So yes it is a news story in the making, but at this point I've told the reporters that I will give them an interview but not just yet.. As we need more information, and I would like to give ACC a chance as well to do the right thing before I report them to their elected official, or bring awareness to what is going on... It's like this if we give them another chance and they are aware that we are going to go to the media with it if they don't start doing something about the neglect, they MIGHT step up and do their job.

Hope your day is great, I'm off to work.

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Healing and Peace- I just got a 3 year restraining order against my neighbor that was harassing me and my pony. WOO HOO.

I would think that there would be regulations that state how long ACC has to go out and investigate a complaint. I think an abandoned animal with no water and food would be a high priority. Seems like an elected official and employees are not doing their jobs. But, the cases would have to be proved up as in photos, recordings of the complaints and proof of no response.

ACC is odd out here. They wouldnt come out when I had a pack of domestic dogs surround my property all day and night and bit the head off of my goat. They did not come out when a green mojave rattler was threatening my dog that was outside and finally bit it twice resulting in a huge vet bill and a sick puppy that she delivered after.

They came out but did not site an owner whose fence is open and 3 dogs roaming loose.

but they did stop and give me a notice that my pony knocked her corral out of shape. GO FIGURE.

If there is an ACC issue we have to provide the evidence, write the ticket and talk to a judge to site someone.

FL CA dont you just love these states?

Pony loves her giant bermuda hay. I have never seen her soo happy. Then the Bunnies come and eat it and potty on it. Its a bunny eat hay, horse eat hay world.

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Ca and Fl the home of the fruits and nuts!

Glad you were able to get her some hay, she really needs it.

About your neighbors dogs, and all that's going on, it isn't right and there are people that just do let the animals roam. When we were in Ct last summer people were telling us how if there is a stray dog there, they don't have ACC where they live so the local sherrif picks it up, trys to find an owner and if they can't find the owner the dog is taken to a shelter in another town... Now if there is a agressive dog the sherrif comes out and kills the dog on the spot, no questions, no reports, no anything. Small town vs big towns they are so differant.

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just can't get along with anyone, can you Destiny?

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