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tired and afraid
March 29, 2007
12:35 pm
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Part of this is my responsibility to say no and keep boundaries in place. I struggle and have learned just recently part of this is condependecey. I have know this man for several years and been in and out of a relationship with him over this period of time. I have tried to just be his friend but it doesn't work he wants more then that when it comes to the physical part of a relationship. I sent him an email telling him that I did not want this kind of relationship and that I could offer him friendship and that was all. I also said that I didn't want us to be alone anymore because the physcial part of hte relationship is something I feel guilty and used by. He always pushes those boundaries and doesn't respect what I have asked. Of course I need to stand up but somehow I don't. Last night I asked him so do you love me? He said I care a lot about you but I am not in love with you. Not that intimacy is love but just asking what he felt. I felt horrible and feel guilty that I did not hold up my boundaires and take care of myself and what I value. Besides the fact that I let him do this why does he not care enough about me to see what he is doing to me? obviously just being friends isn't going to work. Do I tell him that we can not be friends? I have done this but we always end up back together somehow. Tired and afraid.

March 29, 2007
2:22 pm
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Good grief...this sounds familiar! And I do beleive that he should respect your boundaries, and I do beleive that if you have to constantly remind him of what those are and compromise your beliefs that it could be trouble. That is about all I know to tell you.

April 3, 2007
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There is a good book called "Who's Pulling Your Strings". I think the author is Braiker but not sure.

Its about how to deal with a manipulators. It sounds like you are being manipulated and could learn something from this book. It was eye opening to me. Hope it helps

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