seeker, thats right, a cheerleader wife for me is the best! 😀 We mean who encourages and supports me ofcourse hehe, and that goes both way. Hmm. So the man should lead in the beginning you say. Well.. the way things are right now, I guess you're right because there's so much competition so the girl is looking for someone who leads nicely. If we look at nature, we see male species lead over there too :((. Like why does the Weaver bird have to build a nest for the female. All she needs to do is come and choose the nest she likes. Now it would be nice if the world was built where females also build nests and try to impress the males and its the males who choose the female mate. Wouldnt that be nice! We can then just sip coffee while all the beautiful girls come, make their demonstrations and we chose the best one. It gives me some security that in my present situation it was she who chose me. I would never have pursued her, I couldnt even dream actually that she'd be interested in me. Anyway. hmm, I guess, whatever makes us happy. Its the weaver bird thing, the way the world is right now. Hmmm.

hi __kasie__, you're right, no one should have to pretend to be someone they're not. I didnt cheat and niether did she :((, i promise. I'll explain that in my Girl thread. I know you dont like to read it cause I've shared too much over there... but I couldnt do anything, I wanted to share. How about you thikn its just another romantic novel from a stranger. Well. We're begining to love and care for each other, atleast just beginning. He doesnt care for her :(. Yesterday he said her stomach is fat. He was away from her for a week and thats what he said to her when he came back. He doesnt love her :(. anyway, I'll explain there more. You're entitled to your opinions and i'm not hurt in any way 🙁 be assured. I come here to get opposing thoughts so I can challenge my own and see which one is true. You guys help me a lot.

kasie__, thanks, how right, she IS a trophy for me. Good choice of words. Head over heels in love and lust, both, I guess? I trust her is what she tells me, there's no other way. I cannot doubt her. Plus I've seen them interact, I know he treats her bad and coldly. Such a d-head, what a fool, to scare away a nice cutie like that. I'll be careful yes, thanks for the concern!

honestly, I'm inexperienced, this is all too much for me. I never ever expected to meet this girl, to be in a relationship like this with an adorable cutie like this, never. I could only dream. My only hope of survival was to come here and share and ask for advice. If I didnt do it, it would have ended. I've lost my wit at times and people here helped me. I knew that i had to come here and ask for advice, because I could not risk losing her. Thats another side of how much I care about me and her. I think I've done the best I could and if it fails now, I know that atleast I tried and I'll try to move on. I dont know any friends in real life that I could trust with what I've shared here so if I didnt come here, I'd end up bottled up and miserable. I'm sorry if any of what I wrote offended you, but I've shared everything, not just naughty details. Like kathy said intimacy is a part of relationships and she didnd mind. Anyway, if I could edit the first post of that thread, I would add a warning "enter at your own risk, etc". I'll continue sharing and will try to be more careful now .. 😀 sorry again.