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THE FRONT ROW
May 31, 2005
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THE FRONT ROW

Life is a theater - invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is holy enough and healthy enough to have a front row seat in your life. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.

It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships, or friendships!

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention to: Which ones lift up and which ones tear down? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a
path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain
people, do you feel better or feel worse?

Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know and appreciate you and the gift that lies within you? The more you seek God and the things of God -- the more you seek quality, the more you seek not just the hand of God but the face of God the more you seek things honorable -- the more you seek growth, peace of mind,
love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who
gets to sit in the FRONT ROW of your life and who should be moved to the
balcony of your life.

You cannot change the people around you...but you can change the people you are around! Ask God for wisdom and discernment and choose wisely the people who sit in the front row of your life.

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May 31, 2005
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I feel the need to add clarification as I think some may view this as being judgemental towards troubled people, as I had first seen it.

I see this as basically saying it is ok to walk away from people that are living their lives being self- and other-destructive. They are making that choice, which is their right, just as we have the right to make the choice not to follow them or allow them to take us down with them. That's not being judgemental or selfish, that's living wisely. And in the end, the only way to live, is to lead by example by taking care of ourselves. And the more people you have around you that are doing (or at least trying to do) the same, the easier it is. I promise you that ... just look at this board and how popular it is ... =))

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May 31, 2005
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((((Angel)))))

Thank you so much for this.

If there is a God, then YOU must certainly be His gift....to all of us.

With my love and respect,
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May 31, 2005
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awesome, angel..... 🙂

May 31, 2005
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Sweet angel, "a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down." Medicine? -a healthy dose of instructions for living well. Sugar? -your sweet words of encouragement! It is soooo difficult to undo the unhealthy patterns I'm comfortable with, and CHANGE; but change I must, and will with God's help. Thank-you (((angel))) ~saralynn

May 31, 2005
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lolli - I'd like to change your last comment a little and say "I think we are ALL His gift to eachother ... =)

A little more added clarity: I also see this as saying surround yourself with people that have your best interests at heart, not those that seem to have no concern for your needs, interests and desires.

These people don't have to believe in what you believe in or even want the same things for themselves. But it helps to have people that simply allow you to be YOU, and that support you in the direction YOU want to move in, rather than trying to confine you to who they want you to be. (btw - This lesson goes both ways ... we should also do this for others, even if it means letting them go.)

May 31, 2005
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I didn't grow up with the mentality of my parents supporting me in the direction that I wanted to move. I was confined by their disappointment and strong opinions of what I should be and do. To be allowed just to be yourself with no expectations placed on you or no fear is what every parent should be able to give their children. I pray that my two kids feel that unconditional love and acceptance from me. I think they do as they are both very self-confident and strong in character.

May 31, 2005
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((((Sweet Angel))))

This is GREAT, BEAUTIFUL, WISE!!!

Thank you for this lovely analogy about life and the choice of our friends. That's why I ended so mamy friends when I started on my healing process. Many people resented me, still up to now, many people do not like me, even when I love them and show them unconditional love and kindness.

June 1, 2005
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Sorry for the negative tone of my post. I still have trouble at times getting passed the hurt of needing and wanting that acceptance when I was growing up and it colors my view as an adult sometimes. It is a beautiful post Angel. Thanks for sharing it with all of us.

June 2, 2005
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tooscared -

No need for apologies. I felt you were just sharing a part of yourself, and what you have learned. I had it very similar growing up, and as strong as I sometimes I get that same gnawing feeling of uncertainty about myself or the need to feel accepted.

I have the hardest time when I am around people that are more controlling ... that seem to want to tell me what I should be doing or how I should feel. And I think it stems back to the same reason ... of be criticized all the time as a child, and never really made to feel like I was special just for being me.

Sounds like you are doing right by your kids, TS. Keep up the great work!!

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June 2, 2005
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Thanks for understanding and caring angel4u. I am struggling a lot these days with my husband and his controlling nature. I love him very much and we will have been married 20 years here in a couple of months, but he is so negative and so stressed all the time that it is starting to really wear me down. I can't just snap out of it any more. I talk to him and we are trying, but sometimes I just feel overwhelmed.

If it weren't for my counselor to talk to each week, I think I would be a basket case. It almost scares me that I count on her that much to meet that need of emotional trust in my life.

So anyway, I just wanted you to know that by responding to my post, it meant a lot to me. thanks.

Love, TS

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