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Taking Back Abuse Accusation
July 7, 2010
1:42 pm
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crystalwaters
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What do people think about this?

http://www.nydailynews.com/ny_....._foll.html

I read it at lunch and have been trying to figure out how I feel about it. This is a state senator whose girlfriend accused him of cutting her face, and then rescinded the accusation. They went to court this week begging to have the restraining order lifted and it was.

I (and I know many others here) have been in the position of missing an abusive partner terribly, sometimes to the point of defying a restraining order or begging to have it lifted.

However...I can't help but feel that the resources used to maintain the restraining order, the police report taken, the court dates, etc. etc. are wasted on a victim who takes it all back and then gets back with the abuser.

Does anyone else feel torn like I do regarding such issues?

July 7, 2010
1:44 pm
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...and I meant to add, should the alleged victim then be made to make reparation in some way, like in the runaway bride case a few years back, for the law enforcement resources used?

July 7, 2010
12:00 am
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What
do people think about this?

http://www.nydailynews.com/ny_....._foll.html

I read it at lunch
and have been trying to figure out how I feel about it. This is a
state senator whose girlfriend accused him of cutting her face, and
then rescinded the accusation. They went to court this week begging
to have the restraining order lifted and it was.

I (and I know many
others here) have been in the position of missing an abusive
partner terribly, sometimes to the point of defying a restraining
order or begging to have it lifted.

However...I can't
help but feel that the resources used to maintain the restraining
order, the police report taken, the court dates, etc. etc. are
wasted on a victim who takes it all back and then gets back with
the abuser.

Does anyone else
feel torn like I do regarding such issues?

July 7, 2010
12:00 am
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crystalwaters
NYC, USA
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September 27, 2010
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...and I meant to add, should the alleged victim then be made
to make reparation in some way, like in the runaway bride case a
few years back, for the law enforcement resources used?

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