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taking a break....to my friends:)
June 26, 2010
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BFG- I NEVER said you said or did anything that has personally offended me.

June 26, 2010
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Barefoot, I actually started the Hurt People thread about this very thing then I read this post and here it is. I am still searching the internet for the best post I have ever read on Hurt People Hurt People. I can't find it.

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June 26, 2010
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Bitsy- For the sake of your own recovery please read this and worry about yourself. "Controlling Behaviors: codependents try to control events and people through helplessness, guilt, coercion, threats, advice-giving, manipulation, or domination. They are afraid to let people be who they are or let events happen naturally. They've lived in so many situations in which they had no control (abuse, alcoholism, etc) that they now try to control everything and get frustrated and angry when they cannot. They end up feeling controlled by events. They feel controlled by others. They resist change as if change were a contagion."

June 26, 2010
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I am confused...I now will end this discussion as I obviously did nothing to you personally...

I do however apoloize to anyone here who may of offended while defending myself...

Its not on purpose...I do not set out to just hurt someone for the fun of it...I am not that kind of person...

I do get upset ewasily and yea I get triggered real easy and I understand why too..

I am working on it...

Destinystar...I am at a loss here but will say this...I am sorry you do not like me...feel the way you do about me...I can not change you and your view of me...

But I can change my response to you...I wish you no harm...I do not know quite else what to say here...

Peace to all

June 26, 2010
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Will come back later...time for some self reflection and some iced tea!

I wish everyone a peaceful day..love bfg

June 26, 2010
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BFG- Please show me where I said I do not like you or had a bad feeling or point of view towards you.

I do not feel that it is helping your recovery to blame me, ma, this site, this guy who started a post, etc. on why you choose not to be here.

Why does Chelonia refer to you as the former Sand Piper? Have you been here before, experienced problems, then came back again, only to experience more? Just wondering.

Seriously, I have nothing against you. I like you. OK?

June 26, 2010
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Now your on ignore...I am not sanpiper...I think your in serious need of introspection destiny...
I am at a loss with you...
Honestly...is this a game to you?

Please do not ever post to me again...
I offered my apology and heart to work things out and you think I am a sandpiper person?

Mydas is a beautiful person here...please do not drag her into this too
You have a chip...I hope you work on your issues too...like me.

Please never post to me again...
I do not trust you now...I do wisah you well..take care ds

June 26, 2010
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BFG- Hi. All I did was ask you a question. Chelonia had a post where she ran BFG formerly Sandpiper together. All I wanted was some clarity as to what the sentence meant.

I hope you can relax, take a deep breath, and believe me when I tell you that I do like you. I never meant you harm.

June 26, 2010
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Destiny, I don't understand where these quotes (of Berfootgirl's) are coming from? Not this thread. Which thread are they coming from?

June 26, 2010
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Whoa ponies. Where did ANY of this come from? What happened? Is this crazy making?

June 26, 2010
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barefootgirl, I'm sorry. I didn't mean to misspell your name.

Yeah andii - I don't get it - where did it come from? Copy/pasted from another thread?

June 27, 2010
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Bevdee- sorry I didnt state that up front. Since BFG started this thread and I was quoting her own words I figured she would know where they came from. It came from the post on support side that said something about being 3 months. It was copy and pasted from that thread.

June 27, 2010
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andii- Hi. whoa ponies. that is cute. I explained in the post to Bevdee where the quotes came from. Since I was posting to her and she said that stuff I didnt think it was necessary to cite my source, I assumed BFG knew. I know I should not go assuming anything. I have been really busy with my phone ringing off the hook and have been distracted while typing. Sorry about the confusion.

June 27, 2010
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"its been 3months and i dont know if i should cut her loose or stick around"

To help clear up the confusion as to what thread I copied and pasted BFG quotes from there it is.

I do not understand the response I got from BFG. I felt that what I said was supportive. I feel the response I got from her were personal insults. Whatever.

June 27, 2010
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I don't have time right now to read through all of this tonight, but I did want to clarify one misconception that involves me.

Destiny, at first I was totally confused by your quote from me... I have always taken people here at face value, so the quote you attribute to me is nothing close to what I would think or say.

But then I remembered that a month or so ago on the Coffeehouse thread I invited many different people to help open up the coffeehouse while Darkeyes was taking a break. There is a person here named Formerly that sometimes posts on that thread, so would have been noted in the invitation, along with you and BFG and anyone else who posted to the coffeehouse that week. It is possible that I could have invited BFG and Formerly and Sandpiper in that order. Could this be where you are confused? I could have just as easily put the names in this order Destiny, Formerly, Sandpiper and it would have had the exact same meaning.

If you want to look it up to confirm it, you can. I have different things I want to do with my time.

Destiny, have you accused others in the past of being someone else previously? I don't remember if you were involved in that, but I do remember it happening in the past here. It is very hurtful and counter-productive to anyone's healing. I really hope that we don't have another round of folks needing to confirm the identity of others on an anonymous site. Isn't that the purpose of it being anonymous, so that our real identities are protected so we can open up freely here?

I hope we can all learn a lesson about communication and understanding from this mistake.

June 27, 2010
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Chelonia- I did see a post of yours to BFG that ran three names together. It was confusing. I asked BFG what it meant. Then I looked at it again and figured it out that it was three nick names ran together that looked like a sentence.

June 27, 2010
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chelonia you said "I really hope that we don't have another round of folks needing to confirm the identity of others on an anonymous site. Isn't that the purpose of it being anonymous, so that our real identities are protected so we can open up freely here?" I just want you to know that I agree with you.

I am sorry if I came across that way. I was confused about the string of nick names thought it was a sentence that sounded like this nick was formerly that nick not even thinking that the word formerly was a nick name.

June 27, 2010
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Chelonia- here is the sentence that confused me. "Barefootgirl, Formerly, Sandpipper would you like a few tacos?" that you wrote on the coffeehouse thread. I remembered reading this sentence and being confused about the meaning. Then,

June 27, 2010
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Well she's BFgirl to me, and I've missed her...

so bFgirl what you up to woman?

June 27, 2010
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Barefootgirl,
You have good instincts. Although this is a public forum, and we cannot control who posts to us or what they say, we can choose whether or not we want to respond. There are some great people here, but there are those, as you say, who cannot be trusted. I wish you all the best!
Mary

June 28, 2010
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Destiny,

In the future, its OK to ask for clarification when you read something like that. A lot of hurt feelings would have been avoided.

June 28, 2010
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Chelonia- Thank you. 🙂

June 23, 2010
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And
its not that I want to twist any whiskers here! I am just tired of
my intentions and words being twisted here...

I am not looking
for sympathy and I just need to run from this place for a
time...

I am sorry...I
guess my opinions are too strong, they are who I am...I never set
out to hurt anyone and if I did...I really am sorry...

I am just tired of
being ganged up on and this pplace just leaves me sad, confused too
often...

My best to all of
my friends who got me...and understood me...thank you

Love
bfg

June 23, 2010
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BFG-
Good bye.

June 24, 2010
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Bfg,
who is twisting your words and intentions this time? I can
understand needing to take a break - to take care of business, get
the house in order, feed your kid. My goodness, I don't know how
you have time for it all, and post here, too. What made you feel
like you are being ganged up on? I didn't notice anything like that
- I must have missed it. (((barefoot)))

Sending you
positive thoughts and good earth energy ~ ~ ~ I hope the time off
is restful, productive and nurtures your spirit.

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