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taking a break....to my friends:)
June 23, 2010
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And its not that I want to twist any whiskers here! I am just tired of my intentions and words being twisted here...

I am not looking for sympathy and I just need to run from this place for a time...

I am sorry...I guess my opinions are too strong, they are who I am...I never set out to hurt anyone and if I did...I really am sorry...

I am just tired of being ganged up on and this pplace just leaves me sad, confused too often...

My best to all of my friends who got me...and understood me...thank you

Love bfg

June 23, 2010
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BFG- Good bye.

June 24, 2010
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Bfg, who is twisting your words and intentions this time? I can understand needing to take a break - to take care of business, get the house in order, feed your kid. My goodness, I don't know how you have time for it all, and post here, too. What made you feel like you are being ganged up on? I didn't notice anything like that - I must have missed it. (((barefoot)))

Sending you positive thoughts and good earth energy ~ ~ ~ I hope the time off is restful, productive and nurtures your spirit.

June 24, 2010
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I will miss you my friend, and think of you often.

(((BFgirl)))

June 24, 2010
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{{BF Girl}}

Sorry to see you go. I did not get a chance to answer some of the things you wrote to me on other threads.

I wish only the best for you, my friend. You know that. Hope to see you again.

Take care!

June 24, 2010
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(((BFG)))

I think taking a break from here is a good idea. I think you are in sensory over-load!

You've made leaps and bounds here. You should be proud of yourself. You've got a lot of tools now to help make things better for yourself. Maybe take a step back and give yourself a chance to process it all? Start using those tools in the "real" world with real people. It's very difficult to practice things here when one is bombarded with drama, problems, drama and more problems. You're not allowing any room for calm so that when a "situation" does happen you can practice using your tools. You haven't allowed yourself any reflection. Does that make sense?

I go in waves here myself. I won't post as much and just read. Only difference is I don't announce it. I find that when I'm really active here (like lately) I usually get in some kind of "trouble". LOL It's all good.

Love,

Hep

June 24, 2010
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BFG there is a msg for you on the other side on my thread. I wrote it before I saw this.

I will miss you and I hope you have a wonderful vacation wherever you go.

Love, Robbie

June 24, 2010
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. "I find that when I'm really active here (like lately) I usually get in some kind of "trouble" Hepburn- I know exactly what you mean.

June 26, 2010
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BFG I will miss u too. Really, i have been gone a little while,working and just tired with the push and pull of life. I have read what pissed u off. And i truly understand ur feelings. I feel people can say what they mean, with out saying it mean..But i am learning i am here for me.To talk about me.I am no expert. Just a sick person trying to get better.And no one is always right.I have observed when a certain person post ( notice there is a amen corner on this site)..BFG just take what u need and leave the rest. ((((sending hugs ur way))))))))))

June 26, 2010
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I too step back and just observe when a certain person posts and another one as well. I think that's the trick- let them come through and and light all their fires, but don't be a part of the fuel. Then they smolder out. Hurting people hurt people, and they do this, but we don't have to be part of the ones they hurt, we can step away. BFgirl, this is an important survival strategy I think. Most of us want people to accept us, to believe in us, and we want to connect, but there are those who are not at this stage- they want to lash out, to hurt, to feel powerful this way. I for one feel powerful when I don't let them do that to me, by stepping back ans sometimes standing up, and then letting go.

andii

June 26, 2010
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and if you're reading BFgirl, I miss you. Sometimes I log on just just to see what you're up to, and I miss that.

andii

June 26, 2010
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BFG-You said "others may or may not see it but you have REALLY hurt me a few times around here...don't act like you have no idea what you said...I seen yoy do this to others as well...say mean things and then go elsewhere". I have seen this.

June 26, 2010
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What did I do ds? How did I hurt you? Please do not speak for others...its their place to bring that to me...not yours...
I would like to know what I did to you...if I said something hurtful...then yes please tell me, so I can say I am sorry for that...
I never had any ill conversations with you...I had three encounters here...
Once with billy when he said women were sleazy who had sex too early...
I know...its his opinion...I get it...I do not even think of that anymore...over it..
It triggered me cause of what was done to me as a child...I felt shamed all over again...but perhaps I should of said nothing...hold my feelings in...well that is what hurt me more in life...not having my feelings...
I do not choose my triggers...it just happens...
Second with caraway...that was cleared up...I apolized and I believe we all got it...understood why and moved on....but some just couldn't let it go...
Last...the only other time I remember having an argyument was what just happened...
You know...maybe I handled my emotion wrong but how I felt about it...was my feelings on the matter...I stand by that cause I was hurt beyond belief but people see and understand why here...
But I am ata loss when it comes to you...

June 26, 2010
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"You sadden me ma...you call urself a minister and yet you judge so harshly". I hear you. I guess that is why the SC does not allow discussions about religion on the support side. I would be thrilled if any reference to religion would be thrown of this site all together. All it ever does is stir up hate and discontent. It doesnt matter who a person is or who they think they are, we are all anonymous here and our input is equally valuable and needed. Hiding behind titles and using authority only interferes with these peoples recovery.

I hope this place is a place where people can come as they are.

June 26, 2010
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That is between me and mastrong...what happened between you and I?

June 26, 2010
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Mastrong has done a lot to hurt me...an awful lot...I never struck up a conver with her...yet she had a lot of judgement hurled at me...I was defending myself...

I never started it...but I will defend myself...now you said I hurt you...please tell me how I hurt only you...I am at a loss here..

June 26, 2010
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BAREFOOT GIRL!!!!! Do you realize what a huge step you took in the above post? You are handling your problem with Destiny and you are separating the hurt from Ma. I can see huge leaps in you today from last few weeks. Instead of being hurt and running you are being hurt and standing your ground! In a lot of ways you are way out ahead of me on that one! I just tend to ignore the posts that hurt my feelings, but I make my living in sales...I had to develop a tough skin or die.

Bitsy

June 26, 2010
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I have only defended myself...I never sought out anyone and told them what was wrong with them...

However you do that a lot around here...I seen you do that to bitsy all the time...

So what gives here?

June 26, 2010
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BFG- Those are the words that you used.

June 26, 2010
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(((Bitsy)))hey...thank youy for that...we must of both posted at the same time...

I am not hurting anymore...had time to calm down...I would like to clear the air...

June 26, 2010
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BFG- I think that what you are triggered by is my post about you being a survivor of abuse:)

June 26, 2010
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Bitsy- Hi. I think you need to worry about your problem with me not BFG.

June 26, 2010
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Confused destinystar...please elboreate on that, thanks

June 26, 2010
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Destiny....I am not following you...what did I do to you that hurt you peresonally?

I get what bitsy says now...when I am upset and in the moment...I see it as an attack...

Bitsy...I know you mean no harm...I read tour posts...when I am in the moment I have little control...when time passes...

I start to think...I am far far from healthy...but gosh I am going to try...

((((Hugs))))) to everyone

June 26, 2010
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BFG- On the support side you said you were leaving this site for a variety of reasons. All I did was quote what you had said. Then I said I had seen what you were talking about.

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