I have had some terrible trauma in my family. There was a time I was overwhelmed, and the "help" agencies were not able to do much because a lot happened back before there were as many protective laws as there are now.

The abuser revived old abuse last year with my adult daughter, doing some very deep psychological damage, exploiting the damage she had done in past years to her as a child. The abuser has friends who have supported her, victimizing people and getting away with it. That was why social workers could not help the first time round. They couldn't "get a handle" on it.

Recently I read of a similar case that is succssfully suing someone and I contacted the law office that is handling it. I told them of my situation, and that when I was overwhelmed I had followed the advice of a cop and had saved every piece of paper and even had used my rights to get copies of all the social workers' records.

I never actually was able to read all those records in the emotional turmoil of the time, and they have been in a box gathering dust for years. I only remembered one or two social workers as having been especially supportive, because they stood out.

But when I dusted off the box and reviewed these old records, I saw that not only were there supportive comments from the ones I remember, but they had referred some matters to others who had interviewed the abuser separately and had also written supportive notes!

There are so many positive comments in those notes that I had no idea were there!

This is something to pass on to anyone you know who is fighting an uphill battle against overwhelming odds: If you can't deal with it, save it in a box! Sooner or later, the truth will triumph!

When you are stronger, you will have what you need!

I am feeling so strong since reading those notes. I am going to easily have the money I need to provide for my daughter's help and it is going to come from the abuser and the abuser could even face jail!

Abusers always think that once they are finished with their victims the victims just evaporate, but when they come round for a second go, watch out! Victims who have healed are not victims any more!

If someone is stalking you, harrassing you, interfering with your jobs and landlords and child's school and so on, like what happened to my family, all because of their own sick little cult games, get one of those storage bins and save everything! Send requests to agencies for your records and use the freedom of information act if you must (often you must because they have to show they did not easily share their records) and if you cannot deal with it, just save it until you can!