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Shaney's Spot
January 12, 2008
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Just starting a thread that I can come to once in a while and write. This just seems more comfortable for me right now.

Mich - Do you watch Seinfeld? "Serenity NOW!" ... just in case you do.

I'm home this weekend while M is on duty. My house has been destroyed by my dogs because of the few days of rain that we got here. We needed it, but I sure could do without the muddy paws everywhere. But hey...we do what we have to do, right? I hope you're doing alright, everything considered. Know that I'm looking in here and there, and supporting you as always.

Lolli - Yes,, you should definitely look at this opportunity as a sign that doors are going to be opening for you left and right - now that you are truly ready to move forward. This job offer isn't a cowinkidink, my friend. You've been working hard for a reason, and being recognized for you efforts is a sure sign that your hard work is beginning to pay off. I swear, I feel like I'm watching the life that I lived 8 years ago, when it comes to you! I know I've told you that before. This job seems like the beginning to many good things for you. Now, enough about careers... where's that ff?

DDOG... I've been thinking... you need to write a book called, "Dinner Diaries... finding the perfect recipe for love." You put an ad out there for men who are interested in having an intelligent, beautiful lady, cook a wonderful meal for them. You interview them at some public place before you decide if they're worthy of your cooking. Then you have each possible love interest over for a home cooked meal prepared by you, Chef a la Dog. At this meal, you're getting to know these guys, while compiling a ton of great material to write about. With your sense of humor and ability to write, you could make each dinner date a total hoot. I figured this idea would incorporate your love of cooking, writing, and ultimate search for a decent man... while providing you some income from the book sales. If it's a hit, we can turn it into a reality show ... I know people. :o)

January 12, 2008
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((((Shaney))))),

I'm so glad you started this thread. I had been reading along on some others and it really took everything I had to do the "mature" thing and not add fuel to any fires. But anyway.....on to more important things like ff's.

First, let me say...thank you for the encouragement on the whole job front. I do believe that if everything goes through then I will take that position. As you said....it's what I've been working for. I guess I just didn't expect things to start happening so soon. But here it is so I gotta do what I gotta do. Change is scary though, ain't it.

As to the firefighter....... I haven't seen him but when I was out shopping with my g/f last weekend....he called her and I spoke to him briefly on the phone. That's one thing that concerns me about the whole thing I have to tell ya....that he is friends with my best friend. The reason I say this is because even though I LOVE her more than life itself...she does have a tendency to stick her nose in where it doesn't belong, repeats things she shouldn't, she flip-flops (meaning: one minute she's all for it , next minute...trying to discourage it depending on her mood), etc. She likes to appear that she is always in the know, even when she has no reason to be. And I think sometimes she doesn't like to feel that her male friends are not paying their due amount of attention to her.

How do I know this you ask? Because we've been through it before with another mutual friend of ours.

Of course I know all of this about her (and accept it) and for the most part it is not an issue between us execpt in this one type of situation.

Anyway.....I'm in no rush. Like I said, I will see him around more over the summer so I will see what happens then. In the meantime, perhaps someone else will come along!

January 12, 2008
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Oh and I like your life plan for D-dog.

D...you should really listen to what Shanster has to say. She puts a lot of thought into life plans for her friends and generally they're pretty freakin' good :o)

January 12, 2008
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((((((((((((Shaney)))))))))))))))

Just glad that I have someplace to say hi to ya girl....

Enjoy your time without M around....

January 12, 2008
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Shaney, Can I say something ? Of course, I think you just got mixed up in the confused state of things. I remember when I was too scared to post you always made me feel comfortable. You are independent too. So shake it off , and I hope you keep moving forward and upward.......or something like that. ((((((((Shaney)))))))) horsefly

January 12, 2008
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Hey SHaney, I remember you! You live in Callie right? We almost moved oveer that way, but ended back in the NE!

January 12, 2008
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Hey loll - I had a friend like that once. You described her exactly. It's an attention thing, for sure. I just remember how uncomfortable things would get, and I was always the one backing away and allowing her to have center stage at all times, because the tension just wasn't worth it. Then it just got old, and the friendship dwindled to nothing. I don't like that type of unnecessary competition... even if I'm not the one initiating it.

So, I'm assuming that you won't be making the Lenny Kravitz concert after all :o). Oh well. There is plenty of time for you to find someone. But if I can put in my request, I'd like this guy to be a native Californian who would like to return home with his new bride and persue firefighting. It's do-able.

Michy - how's your weekend going so far? I'm glad you found me :o). I've never started a thread on the lib side before... oooh.. steppin' out.

Horsefly - it's just like you to come out of nowhere and slap me with my own material. lol :o). Thanks for the support. I appreciate your independence, AND your advice, I really do. ;o) I see what you've been going through lately, and really wanted to offer my support, but didn't feel comfortable on your thread - for reasons that I know you understand. That's the saddest part of this whole ongoing feud (for lack of a better term) - the fact that the comfort level to offer support IS compromised. That may be my own problem, I know, but it doesn't make it any better or easier. Thanks again, though, and I hope your brother takes good care of you and sister :o).

January 12, 2008
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((((((((((SHANEY))))))))))

January 12, 2008
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Shaney...I am alright. Enjoying the peace, what there is.

He has been gone for a couple of days...so that is nice. He will be back tonight...so, we will see how that goes.

I am pretty confused.

What are you doing with your weekend to keep yourself busy??

Love ya....Michy

January 12, 2008
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((( SHANEY))))

(((MICH)))

((FRIENDMA))

((HORSEFLY)))

January 12, 2008
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Hey there survivor - yep, I'm a southern California girl to the core. I remember you talking about that possible transfer, but it sounds like things have worked out for you. I'm not sure if I could move back to MY home town (it was way too small), but I hope that you can find peace in your new situation. It could be a great thing! :o).

Friendma - are you relaxing? I know in my heart that you will be just fine on Monday.

Michy - when you say that he will be back... does that mean AT HOME? I can't even imagine how confused you must be. But I know that you will keep your focus on the main objective. You've come a long way, gilfriend, and I trust your judgement, as always. You're a good person, a good mom, and a good friend - remember that, and you'll be okay. Take care of yourself tonight, no matter what. As for me, I've just been cleaning like a maniac, while M is gone. I find cleaning to be really theraputic, mentally. I just made myself something to eat... some chicken, a few tortelini thingies, and some broccoli. I want to finish cleaning my bathroom and then take a hot bath. I think I'll give my hair a deep conditioning treatment, and then have a glass of wine and watch tv with my hounds. They're already barking their asses off because I won't go sit in the living room with them. I've created monsters, I swear. They run my damn life.Tomorrow, I have a freelance job to do. I've been lucky enough to get a few jobs designing brochures for high end properties. The last one I did was for this place that was selling for 25 million - amazing. The photoshoot alone took me three, 12-hour days! If it's still empty, I'll give you the address and we'll meet there for a girls retreat. I have the gate code ;o). SO, that's my weekend... working. Plus I have about 600 pund of laundry to do, it there's time. Ugh.

January 12, 2008
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Mich - TRIP OUT!

January 12, 2008
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Shanster.....

No, I don't think I'll be making the concert but I will keep your request in mind 🙂

As for my g/f, that has only really been an issue for us once before when I was seeing someone that was a good friend of hers. An ex-b/f of hers actually that she encouraged me to go out with (her exact words being..."there's nothing I'd love more than to see my two best friends together"). However, it did end up being too much pressure and he being the immature idiot that he was (is)....used it to his advantage and tried to cause a rift between she and I. Needless to say it didn't work and my relationship with him has never been the same. Funny...he actually lives with her and her husband now. But, although it has only been a problem for us once....I have seen it create problems for her with other women. She tends to like to keep all of her ex-boyfriends around and their current g/f's don't always care for that so , imo, it has created a lot of unnecessary drama that I don't care to be a part of. And I can already see that happening with the ff. For instance......when he called her on her cell phone last week (which she claims he never does and only did because her husband told him we were out shopping together), she ended up handing me the phone to talk to him. Later on, she made a comment about he and I flirting with each other and sort of acted like she didn't approve. Well, I wasn't having it so I said...."if you feel that way, why are you encouraging it?" She asked "how am I encouraging it?" And I said...."you wouldn't have handed me the phone if you weren't." To which she replied....."you're right...I can't even deny it." And then later told me that he would be cool to flirt with but that I wouldn't like him as a b/f.

See what I mean? Flip.....Flop..... Plus, he lives RIGHT NEXT DOOR to her. Need I say more?

I can just tell already it would be more hassle then it's worth.

Having said all that...I have to say that beyond her obvious need to be the center of attention (which only applies to men that are HER friends or HER ex-b/f's) she is really the best friend anyone could ask for. She has been there for me through thick and thin and is about as loyal as a person can be. What it all boils down to I guess is that she's not perfect but then again, neither am I :o)

I guess I'll just keep my eyes (and options) open and perhaps will run across a ff from Cali. Stranger things have happened......

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the only reason i can shaney is cause it a big city and we are going to live on the other side of town>>>the people who are toxic to me< travel maybe two miles from home and that is bout it> i had some serious reservations bout doing this<

we almost moved to san berandio>>>but i did not think it would work out for us even though the pay was six figures there

January 12, 2008
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Hey there need :o) - thanks for the hug...

(((need)))

January 13, 2008
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Wow loll - your friend is surrounded by all of these men, and she doesn't want to share? That's not very nice of her, is it? Oh well, you'll be surrounded by your own flock of men soon enough. At least she's a good friend to you otherwise. As we both know, good friends are hard to find. You'll have to get to know the ff first, and then decide if it's even worth persuing. The fact that your gf lives right next door to him just seems like possible drama. Oh well, cross that bridge when you come to it. Until then, I'll have M make a list of single ffs that he knows and I'll begin the interview process. lol.

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January 13, 2008
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Shaney~ It's funny that you say that about the interview process. My g/f had mentioned doing something similar once before. We have an annual Irish Waterfront Festival here and she was talking about setting up a booth where interested parties would come, fill out an application, answer some essay questions and have a picture taken. Then....I would go through the pictures and choose those that I found attractive. Then SHE would go through all of their applications and essay questions and choose the ones I was "allowed" to go out with.

Personally, I thought it was a great idea. Being that I don't do such a great job left to my own devices and all 😉

So have at it.....and let me know how the interviews go :o)

January 13, 2008
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I'll keep an eye out, you can count on it. So far I can only think of one, buy you're way too smart for him. I don't know, maybe he's smart and just acts dumb. Nevertheless, he doesn't ride a moral high horse.

I'm bracing myself...

:o)

January 13, 2008
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((((Shaney))))....LOL....

So much for being mature eh? Oh well :o)

January 13, 2008
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Hi, (((((Shaney, girl))))) !

How is 2008 for you so far? All alone for a weekend, huh? be good, gurl! Of course if we eat a bunch of ice cream and only watch TV, itll all be anonymous!!! So we can take it easy!

Nevetheless, Im not eating ice cream, barely started going to the gym and am as anxious as always. Working on it, though.

You asked an apropriate question (as usual) on another post. "How do you feel?" One thing Ive liked about your sharing is that you always got to the point and gently. You know, Latin people are very indirect sometimes. Youve caught that on some of my threads and helped me. Just now I posted a thread on meds Im taking and I can swear there was something else I wanted to share about it but at the time I blocked it. You made me talk many times when I didnt know what I needed to talk about. You let things go that you knew needed some time. So before I give insignificant feedback, let me give you some very positive feedback:

Have a wonderful 2008!

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January 13, 2008
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Hey loll - yeah, I can't resist sometimes. Whatever, I don't even care anymore. ;o)

sini girl! At least YOU'VE signed up for the gym, which is more than I can say for myself! I've been checking into yoga, so I'll let you know what happens with that. I'm home working today, and have been procrasinating all morning - so I'm off to get some of it done right now. Why can't I be independently wealthy, so I don't have to work on the weekend!? That's what we need to work on in 2008 sini, so we can just sip wine and make jewelry all day. ;o).

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Hmm, a nice zinfandel from California, that was my favorite, forgot the winery.

Hey, we are independently wealthy. We have priceless possessions. I would say taking the "have to do work" out of the equation qould be the best thing. I would join you for jewelry making cuz on that I cn take my time and say Im letting my creative juices flow, he he.

Lovely cyber friend, yoga is the greatest, we can do it without counting pounds and fat and trying to reach the highest marks. I just feel I need to get my feet on the treadmill since I dont manage to walk. Im hoping I make myself physically tired so I dont have the energy to hammer the keys on the PC or grab my sheets with all my arm muscles!! My teacher already said "breathe", can you imagine my heart was pumping at 140 when I started on the treadmill? What anxiety just to hop on there! Then it went to 70. I forgot what the numbers are for, would it be heart pressure, in the US youd say 14 and 7 then. Well, lets get cracking with yoga, Miss!

January 14, 2008
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Hey sini - yep, California is known for its wine. I grew up right in the middle of wine country, so drinking wine has always been a part of my life. About a half a glass at night of a heavy red - I like them all!

I'm going to start with walking first.. the dogs will be glad to hear that, I'm sure. Then I'll get into the yoga. I'm too young to feel this damn old!! I think those are the words to a country song that I've heard before :o). I sit all day long at my computer, sit in my car during my trillion hour commute, do some housework when I get home, then SIT and drink my wine and watch TV. All I do is SIT! I have to do something soon - I'm glad you've already started.

I am 4 pages away from finishing my project that I worked on yesterday. I sat there for about 5 hours straight (MORE SITTING) and hammered it out. I feel good about that, becaue today after work I can finish it. I REALLY want to get that jewelry started - I know we keep talking about it... but we need to just do it. I think I told you that I bought some old silver coins from the 1800's, from where I work. I bought silver bezels to go with them and I want to incorporate them into some jewelry... maybe dangling off the end of a long linky chain? I don't know. We'll see.

Anyway.. how are U?

Hey loll... how's it going?

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Hey Shaney....

I'm doing pretty well thank you for asking. Much calmer than yesterday 🙂

I too would like to start getting into shape. In fact, my g/f and I talked about possibly taking a pilates class together. Although, truth be known...I don't even know what pilates is (or are?) but I figured what the hell, I'll give it a whirl. I just know that whatever I do, it will have to be something structured (like a class) or I won't do it. Left to my own devices....I'd walk on the tread mill for 5 minutes and next thing you know...I'd be in the sauna eating a bag of chips.

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