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Peace4all.. it was rough
April 18, 2009
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Hi (((Grammie)))

Well the service was today, it was a tough one. His daughter had written on her foot to make it look like a tatoo.. RIP Daddy, I love you, why, why, why? She walked outside with me, and we sat down and had a long talk, she kept asking why, over and over again. I let her know I couldn't answer that question, and that we don't know what God's plans are for any of us and that we don't have the "Why" answer.

In the box that I gave to her, I put a crystal star in it. As you know her daddy died on Easter Sunday, so I tried to explain to her as time passes and she begins to heal she will see Easter as a special day in many ways. Basically she talked a lot, and she cried a lot, but she is an amazing kid. I'd really like for you to pray for her, and her family.

Her father also had two younger brothers that have also passed away, so his mother as you could imagine is so heart broken, and hurting so badly.

Sometimes Peace, I don't get it, I mean it, I have the same question's as the little girl many times. Why, is the biggest question I think ever asked when someone young dies, with a young child... but I'm trying not to lean on my understanding but on God, and I'm asking for the strength to help this little girl through this difficult time.

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April 19, 2009
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Healing and Peace. I am not familiar with what has happened but it sounds as though you are trying to help a young girl through the loss of her father. All my best to you as you do this and may the right words come to you as you do. This is very special of you.

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April 19, 2009
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Thanks Bitsy,

Yes, one of my husband's employee's passed away on Easter, and my husband and I have always done a lot for his daughter as we could see such dysfunction, and we just think a lot of her... She is 11 years old now, and taking the lose very hard. She kept asking me why her daddy didn't get help for his drinking, and so on.. what she doesn't know and we didn't even know until he died was that he was also taking pills.

We always thought this could happen to him with his drinking alone, so it wasn't a surprise but nonetheless we do care, and we do feel for his family.

Thanks for your kindness, Healing and Peace

April 20, 2009
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(((Healing and Peace)))

Sorry to hear, I didn't realize this had happened.

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April 20, 2009
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((((Healing)))))

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry....You are a blessing from God in this little girls life..and I am proud to call you my friend. We never know the answer as to Why it just is and all we can do is accept and surrender to His will. This is a little bit easier for us as adults, however explaining this to a child is a hard one. All I can say to you today is..I will keep you and this childs family in my prayers, your a true survant of the Lord by trying to comfort her and I know that He will give you the right words. Pray on it Healing and you will find the answers you need today. Remember.....The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you... I am sorry that I donot have a better answer for you but know that I am thinking of you and praying for guidance for you..Bless your heart, your a real sweetheart. Love in recovery, Peace4all/ Grammie

April 20, 2009
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((((Healing..and..Peace))))

An afterthought as i was laying down for my nap and praying for you and this child and her family. Does this little girl have a mother in the picture ? and now the other thought...
Can you try to talk to her mother or g/mother about the little girl attending Ala-Teen. I feel lead to say that you might let this sweet child know that her father was sick, just like a person who has cancer or any other disease. He had no control over his illness and simply died from it because he didnt know how to get help. Alateen is a wonderful support group for pre-teens and teens and it would really help her to know she is not alone. It would also be a blessing if her mother or grandmother attended Alanon, you know what a comfort the program can be to us who have alcoholics and addicts in our lives. Ok I think thats all I have for now Please try to let the rest of your day be blessed...you deserve some peace and serenity today.
God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change......
The Courage to change the things we can....And..The Wisdom to know the difference...Amen.....................
My love to you (((((Healing.and.Peace)))
Love in recovery, Grammie

April 20, 2009
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Thanks (((Bro)))

Yes, there is a grandmother and a mother, however the grandmother lives in another state, and the mother... well not really sure what's up with her... She never seemed to do anything with the daughter while he was alive, and I actually over heard her say at the service sat... that she was really angry at him, that he left her to deal with the daughter... moreless saying thanks just what she needed.... in a cold hearted way.

Whenever we would take the daughter with us to Disney and so forth, the mom never wanted to come, she never really wanted to do anything with the daughter, which was partly why we took her places with us. Because the father was always drinking, and the mom didn't seem to care... so they would call on us to see if we could watch her here and there... It was never a problem for us to bring her along with us, as we enjoyed having a younger one along with us especailly as our own kids got a bit older... it was always a pleasure to have her come along with us on trips and places.

The little girl did call me today, and I told her once her family goes back up north to call me and I'd come and get her... I'm sure there will be many talks and I'm really thankful for all your support on this.... I trust the words will come as the questions come. Thanks again to all of you, Healing and peace

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