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Offensive ad found on craigslist.
October 24, 2010
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Can
you imagine a world where advertisers did not have pictures with
their ads... How successful would they be at marketing their
product... Personal Ads are no different... When are you women
going to get it through your heads... MEN ARE VISUAL CREATURES...
You are the ones advertising you want guys to send pics to get
yours in return... What kind of (AD) -vertising is that... Show the
product, so we know what we are getting into... By the way, not
every large girl is a BBW... Big Beautiful Women... In who's
eyes...??? If you are not going to put a pic, just put your height
& weight, so we can either continue reading your ad or move
on... We know what we are attracted to and what we are not!!!!
LASTLY... There is no such thing as a "SMALLER BBW".... Either you
are fat/overweight OR HWP... You aren't fooling anyone... UGH
!!!!!!! I WAS WONDERING WHAT PEOPLE HERE THINK ABOUT THIS AD THAT I
FOUND ON CRAIGSLIST? TO SAY THE LEAST I THOUGHT IT WAS
OFFENSIVE.

October 24, 2010
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I
don't see the link, but I can imagine. My personal belief, based on
having met someone online who turned out to be abusive to me and
had a rage problem in general, is that the internet is not the best
place to find a significant other. I met the man of my dreams when
I started a job, and we did not start dating until over a year and
a half later. We got to know each other gradually and see each
other as we were day to day. I think an outdated picture or other
misrepresentation of looks is just one way that a person can
construct a positive image online that could be way off the mark. I
believe that if someone feels they have to put an advertisement
online, then he or she is probably not ready for a
relationship.

October 24, 2010
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I
stopped using the internet to find someone too. Maybe when it first
started up it was better. Before the predators caught on. Some
people seem to have luck with it. But I've heard more horror
stories then good ones.

At least one has a
better chance of finding a "quality" person if met by chance or set
up by someone you know. That's my new strategy; I'm asking my
friends (especially my married friends) if they know of a good guy
they would set me up with. No luck so far, but I'd rather have that
then go through what I did from the internet again.

crystalwaters,
curious as to why you think people on the internet are not ready
for a relationship. Maybe desperation?

October 24, 2010
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Here
is the link crystalwaters:
http://seattle.craigslist.org/.....13109.html

October 24, 2010
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crystalwaters meeting someone in the natural setting is the
best way to go. The way you met this man was ideal.

October 24, 2010
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This
is offensive

but it is also a
reflection of what "dating" on craigslist and similar sources is
about.

The people who
post and answer these ads are looking for physical sex. It is a
place to find warm holes and/or to offer your warm holes to others.
To think it is anything different is naive and
dangerous.

It is not a place
to find a healthy relationship or really any kind of relationship
outside of the act of physical sex.

I'm glad this
jerkasaurus posted this ad. Hopefully it will offend many people
and they will go elsewhere in their search for loving
relationships. He was quite clear in what he wanted. It is about
satisfing his needs without any regard for his partner. At least he
was honest and didn't manipulate someone into thinking he wanted
anything else. I have a feeling he pays for these services in many
cases, which is why he so openly compairs it to a retail
object.

October 25, 2010
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I
don't like the way my last post came off. I didn't mean to make a
generalization that anyone who makes a dating profile is not ready
for a relationship. What I think I was trying to really say is that
if you're just writing/posting with someone or even phoning, you're
not developing the in-person face-to-face stuff that I've found is
so important.

Puptent, I
misunderstood your initial post. Since there were no quotes, I
thought that YOU were complaining about a LADY'S ad! I'm so glad to
know that is not the case! lol

October 25, 2010
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crystalwaters this ad was posted by a male who went so far as
to word it like he was speaking on behalf of all males. Like you I
believe that people who replace ads on the internet, texting,
emails, IM'ing for face to face meetings with a person could have
serious issues with intimacy. There is another theory that I apply
to these situations and that is there is a strong possibility that
these people are married, in a relationship, messing with peoples
minds, dishonest. There is a gain of truth to the offensive ad and
that is people are not being honest about their physical
description. Men and women are both guilty of this though. Plenty
of people posting pictures of them self

October 25, 2010
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Your
take on this chelonia mydas is very precise. I am afraid it can be
very difficult trying to explain these hard cold facts to some
females. They confuse what they want (a sincere relationship with
someone who genuinely cares for them) with what they will get if
they hook up with strangers over the internet (someone who will use
their warm hole and give nothing back in return). These men are
very skilled at using the right words to lure these females hungry
for love in. I have this image in my mind of a male throwing his
hook into the water. It is the smart fishy who swims
away.

October 25, 2010
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First, I don't find this to be an ad--it is more of a
rant.

ANd I don't find
it to be offensive.

People are allowed
to have their list of preferences when searching for a partner and
people are attracted to who they are attracted to.

For most people
looking for a partner, there is an implicit expectation that a
physical relationship is part of what they are looking
for.

For most people,
men and women both, physical appearance is definitely part of the
package.

So it's not
unreasonable to expect that a personal ad will have a photo, or at
least a basic physical description, so we don't waste time "getting
to know" someone who we aren't attracted to.

Question for
puptent: WHat exactly do you find to be offensive here?

October 26, 2010
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I
find comparing a female (a human being with feelings) to a product
(an inanimate object with no no rights or feelings) objectionable.
You are correct Worried_Dad it was a rant. Thank you for sharing
your perspective.

October 27, 2010
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Hi
puptent,

Oh, Okay, I get
where you are coming from now.

The person who
wrote that rant was not skilled with words.

But he did not
call women a "product." He was talking about Persuasion and
Salesmanship and let's face it, personal ads are all about
persuasion and salesmanship.

October 27, 2010
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Hi
Worried_Dad. I thank you for validating my feelings. I can
understand why a person would come to the conclusion that anyone
who advertises on the personal ads would be trying to persuade
someone. The salesmanship theory means that people who have a
personal ad up are trying to sell something. What do you think they
are trying to sell? What do you think the cost would be?

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