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March 28, 2006
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Ready,

I have alot of faults, but one thing I do try is to be honest.

I am blessed with the gift of self-awareness. I hasn't always been this way, believe me, I've had to work on it, but now I really try to be honest with me, about me. How else can I know what to focus on in therapy!! LOL.

I do like to share on a deeper level than alot of people are comfortable with. An ex used to tell me that being with me was like free therapy, LOL. My current girlfriend says I am a bit too intense at times, and I get frustrated with her because she can be SO surface. I'm like, I NEED to talk about something besides how was your day and what's for dinner!!!! We've had to find a balance. 😉

Thanks for dropping by! Do so more often if you like, Dave and I just chat here, it's nice, I like haveing a friend to keep up with. Feel free to join in anytime.

(((Ready)))

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March 28, 2006
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Hi Erica,
I saw that nurse today at her work. She gave me a preventative shot.

I didn't get a chance to ask her out because she was so busy.

I left the office and called from the parking lot. She was on the phone with a customer. I told the secretary that I would call back.

I called back shortly after and she answered the phone and usually the secretary would answer. I think she was expecting my call.

I told her that I forgot to ask her a question in the office. She asked what it was. I aked her if she would like to go out for coffee.

She fumbled around a little and then said we could go to a place for chips and salsa by her work. I couldn't do it today because I had to go back to work!!!

I asked if she could go on the weekend and she said she couldn't because she is in the process of moving, since she was recently divorced, and has a 9 year old daughter that she has to watch.

I just thought shortly and said that if I have a slow day at work that I will call her up and ask if she wants to go out for lunch.

She liked that idea.

I then said that I would like to get to know her. Said good bye.

I am thinking of getting her a card and sending it to her work saying that I would like to start a friendship and not worry about any other relationship at this point.

I think after just being divorsed that she might be a little gun shy. I can wait for her to get comfortable with me and I would also like to get to know her girl.

I hope I can find time this week still to call her up and see if she would like to go for the chips and salsa. I am getting busy at my business but maybe I can talk my partner in letting me off for a lunch with her. I hope.

I haven't had very much experience with dating in the past. Do you think that I did ok with how I handled things? I value your opinion Erica.

Your friend from Minnesota,
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March 29, 2006
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Hiya, Dave!

I think you did good. You got up the courage, asked her out, showed your intrest, nw it's kinda up to her. You did say you would call when you have time to go for the lunch, I think it is a good idea to hold off on contact until then.

A card is a sweet idea, but you haven't even had a date yet!! To me, that seems a little to strong of a come on, and if that happened to me, it would make me a bit nervous.

I would wait to send the card until at least after you have a REAL date. Then a card, or even flowers, to thank her for the date and let her know how much you enjoyed it is more appropriate, and romantic.

But wait until at least after the first REAL date, otherwise, its pushy.

Thats my advice.

Good LUCK!!!

(((DAVE)))

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March 29, 2006
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nice guy....Way to Go! I think you did great! I agree with free...a card might be a little bit much right now, wait a while, see how it goes. Good luck!

March 29, 2006
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free...well, I admire your honesty, and I am glad to know that your self-awareness took time. I'm working on it, little by little. And trying to teach my daughter the same lessons in the process, because I see her repeating some of my behaviors.

Thanks for the insight.

March 29, 2006
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Erica, I should have talked you you earlier before I sent the card. I think you were right that it was too pushy because she called and said that since I was a patient that she couldn't date me. Well I am learning. I try to learn from my mistakes.
I will have other dates in the future.

Life would be boring if I didn't make a few mistakes that I can learn from. There will be others.

At least I had the balls to ask her out in the first place. I will know better for next time.

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April 2, 2006
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I have been on this site for about a month. A friend told me about it. My problem in the past was that I am 44 years old and still a virgin. I now realize that that isn't a problem from people that I have talked to because if a woman really loves me it won't matter. Actually some women might be flattered.

With the help of some really good friends on this site I have gained the confidence to get out and start dating. I have made some tiny mistakes that I have learned from such as not sending a card before I actually start dating a person, but some good people have shown me what I can do better next time when I want to ask out a woman.

I have also learned from a wonderful woman who is gay (Erica) some important things that before made me uncomfortable. I used to not even want to associate with a gay person before because I didn't understand their lifestyle. Erica has opened up with me like no one has ever before and I can't thank her enough. She is Free2choose if you don't know her but I think that she is a wonderful woman that everyone should get to know.

She has taken the word gay out of my vocabulary and replaced it with loving person who is just like you and me. She has helped me as a straight man to understand how to treat any woman straight or gay. There really isn't any difference. All women need the same thing and that is a partner who loves them and can get on the same wave length as them.

I have learned from her how unfair our society is to people and also how the government and religion can also be unfair. She has overcome many trying times because of how some people think and how they think is wrong.

I have more respect for Erica than anyone that I know at this point. The only person that might top her is my mom and she isn't with us anymore.

I am hoping that Erica can forgive some of us men for what we have done to her and her friends.

I am on the road to recovery to overcome my shyness with women and I thank the people on this site for giving me such good feedback. I am not dating anyone yet but I think that this could be my year to find that special woman.

Eric, keep writing me when you have time. I would also like to see you tell your story as an author some day.

Your good friend,

Dave

April 2, 2006
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Thanks readyforchange for your kind words. I don't know your past at all but I would like new friends to talk to.

Erica, if I don't hear back from you tonight I will keep checking back every night to see if you are on.

Your friend,
Dave

April 3, 2006
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Erica, or anyone. I have a friend who really needs everyone's help. Her thread is Heart is heavy and can't find middle ground.

She is going through some really tough times and if Erica could visit wtih her or anyone, please. She is really troubled with this one and needs some advice. She would welcome any advice from anyone.

She is on the supprot threads. Please look her up.

Dave

Where are you Erica?

April 4, 2006
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Hi Dave...

Sorry! I went home for my five days off of work and J and I got really super busy with all of the wedding preparations! O my God!! there is so much to do!!!

Sorry about the nurse. that is one of the things I tought of too, that you are a patient, and some view it as unethical to date clients/patients.

It's ok though, Dave. Hey, you got up the courage to ask! That is a step in the right direction.

OK, look...now I am the one with a question.

Dave, in this day and age it is extreemly rare to have a grown 40 year old man be a virgin.

How exactly did that come about?

I know that you are big in your faith, and see sex before marriage as not a very good thing, but wow!

You seem like such a nice guy, it amazes me that you haven't been scooped up yet by some lucky girl!

What's going on? How did you get to 44 without at least 1 serious love intrest?

I'm not trying to be an ass, or offensive, I am just REALLY, truly curious.

Talk to you soon,

Erica

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Hi Erica,
That is a very good question.
I had problems with depression when I was a kid. It followed me through my adult life and I was really shy. I kind of ran away from women, so to speak. Part of the reason why I was depressed in my early years was because I was really shy around women. I have overcome that now but just became a loner and kind of gave up on women. I did have a brief sexual experience with a woman about 3 years ago but it didn't turn out very good. I had pre-ejaculation and that really discouraged me.

I am really woking hard to change my life and find a good woman to feel comfortable with. I really appreciate any thoughts that you have on the subject. Since I haven't dated much your suggestions are really important to me. I really like the advice that you have been giving me and that has been helping me a lot. Thank you.

I like being friends with you Erica.

I am so happy for you getting married!
You deserve it. I know that I will get married some day, I feel it in my heart.

Remember the woman that I blew off and didn't want to be a part of? She is back in my life again. I think that I will give her another try. She is kind of cool. Maybe I was too hasty in not wanting to be her friend. She sure wants to be mine.

Who knows, she might be what I have been looking for.

Sorry I didn't get back to you right away. Our construction business is starting to get busy and I have been tired at night.

I will be checking back with you Erica. Congratulations on the upcoming wedding.

Your good friend,
Dave

April 9, 2006
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Hey!!!

Missed ya! I'm glad that your buisiness is picking up. A little extra change in the pocket never hurts, huh??? 🙂

Wow...I mean, you must REALLY be shy. I thought I was shy before, but man...

Question? How are you and your mother? What is you're relationship like? What about the relationship between your father and your mother?

Not trying to psycoanalyze you...well, maybe a little, :). Really, I am just curious. I do not understand the aversion to women in your "early years". I am wondering what is behind that.

OK, Dave...you mentioned pre-ejaculation. (Just typing that out makes me blush!) I think that this is a pretty normal occurance for alot of men. I think that with continued sexual activity it may lessen, or you can learn to control it. Meanwhile there are MANY things you can do to ensure your partners satisfaction. Maybe read some books, get some ideas. Kim Cattrall, from "Sex in the City", has a cool book called "Satisfaction", I think. that is a good place to start maybe? That way, when it is time next time, you won't have to be nervous. Enthusiasm and skill in other area's of sexual activity will make up for your lack of stamina.

(If anyone else is reading this, sorry if you are offended, sorry to be so graphic, but this is Nice Guy and my thread, so if you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen! Anyone is welcome to listen and chime in, but don't blast me for talking about Sex, OK? Thanks)

The woman you blew off??? Is that the one you were not immediately attracted too, or a different one?? I thought you were put off by her because she was also seeing someone else?? And really Dave, that is pretty normal too. Dating is, well...just dating. Exclusive dating is a whole nother ball game, and usually come later. I mean, I would be bothered if she was like, sleeping with all kind of guys, just because I think that is disrespectfull to everyone involved, including herself, but just casual dating...well it is normal to see one or two or even 5 guys at the same time.

Let me know what's going on, and if you are not to uncomfortable, answer my questions about your parents. If you don't want to, that is cool, I'll respect that.

((((((DAVE))))))

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Hi Erica,
Your question with how I am with my mother. She was my best friend. She died in 1997. My Dad was a Lutheran pastor so the only time that I did anything with him was when we went out to the cabin and did some yard work or something work related. He was very, very busy and didn't spend a lot of time with us. Oh, we would watch the Vikings together every sunday.
My mom and dad got along really good but like I said he was gone to meetings and church stuff a lot.

As for the woman that I blew off. I have told her that I would remain friends. Maybe something could happen some day, I don't know. Just taking one day at a time. I got the feeling that she just wanted me to help her work on her house all the time. I wrote her back and said I want to be her friend but work on houses all week and want to have fun relaxing time and not work on her house.

And you can always ask me anything Erica. I am sorry that I made you blush with the pre ejaculation talk. I am not worried about that for now.

I am going to take the friend approach with all the woman that I contact from now on and not try to get so serious so fast. Wow, I can get emotional sometimes.

I am now contacting another woman from that web site that I met these other woman. Wish me luck again. I am going to just try the friend approach and not even think of anything else for now. I don't want start writing letters again. I have learned from my mistakes.

Erica, you are my best buddy on this site. I am learning from your wisdom.

Have a nice week and keep those questions coming. I will tell you anything.

Your friend,
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April 10, 2006
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Hmm...I would have thought that either your mother was overbearing or abusive, maybe explaining your "shyness" around women. Guess I'll have to think about it some more. Not that I am trying to like analyze you, I have just never met someone with your situation.

You know me, what ever is "Wrong" with us or an abberation from the "Norm" (not saying you are wierd or something is wrong with you) well it must be because of something in our childhood! LOL.

Wow, I've had too much thearpy!

Well, good luck with the woman search, and hey, I am proud of you for setting the boundaries withthe girl who wanted you to fix her house! Very good sticking up for you!

OH, thanks for letting me know what was going on about that e=mail buisiness on the other side. I was like, "What is this damn chick talking about! I respect the rules here!" LOL

So who was trying to get in touch with me. I don't know anyone named Codey?????

Now I am wondering who would wanna talk to me enough to break the rules.

Great, something new to obsess about!

OH YI!

Talk to you again soon, and you're my buddy too, Dave.

(((Hugs)))
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Hi Erica,
It was a beautiful day in Minnesota. 77 degrees and sunny. I love it!

I like when you try to analyze me. It shows that you care. I care about you and that makes me feel warm inside when you take the time to visit with me.
I guess that I was in the spotlight when I was younger from my dad being a pastor and that might have something to do with my depression. You know, have to be the perfect pastors kid. As for being shy I don't think it had anything to do with my parents. They were great. Actually when I was in 9th grade I was 6 foot 2 and 230 pounds. From 7th grade to 9th grade I grew about a foot and one year grew 6 inches. I think that my mind couldn't catch up to my body.
Now I am 205 pounds and 6 foot 3.

I was wondering how the wedding plans are coming? I bet you are really getting excited. I would be.

Nice to visit again Erica,

Your good friend,

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April 11, 2006
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Well, tonight is my last night to work until next Saturday. I usually work on Tuesdays, but the other night girl asked me to switch so she could go to her family's Easer eve Crawfish boil. It's cool though, I get to go home a day early and when I come back on Sat. J will come with me so that when I get off Sunday morning we can go to Easter Mass w/ my family and then have Easter lunch and knock eggs and stuff. I'll be tired, but I love getting to see the whole extended family. I have to go to church though...ughhh, Easter mass is sooooooo llloooooonnnnngggg. But it is kinda like a thing, the family goes together, sooo....

the wedding is coming along nicely. I am busy getting addresses. Tonight when I am home Jand I are going to print up the invitations and try to get them out in the mail. I made the unity candle the other night. I took a picture of J and I one I really love and printed it in black and white and glue it onto the candle with ribbon and minature calla lillies and tulips (our flowers) and it is sooooo gorgeous!! I am actually quite impressed with myself. I never do much creative, but I am actually quite good at it. I need to find some type of artistic expression, well, besides writing.

I actually found a color book and some old crayolas in a drawer at my moms. I brought them with me to work and I've been COLORING!!! LOL. I don't know, but the little kid in me REALLY likes it!!! 🙂

Thursday J and I are going order our wedding cake...which will be fun. Then have to really decide what I'm gonna wear...ughhhh...what a delimna!!! I don't know what to do about that!

So everything my way is going good. I'm not sure if I'll be back before Sat night, I'll try to pop in if I can, if not I'll see ya Sat.

Have a great week!!!!

(((((Dave)))))

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Hi Erica,
I really enjoy you writing me. You are kind of a character and I like that. How is the coloring going. I like to doodle when I am talking on the phone.

Yesterday I fell off the plank and landed in a dumpster. I guess you could say I took out the trash. lol

I tweeked my shoulder and my lower cheek but am ok today. Just a little sore.

I know what you mean by long services. Sometimes I just want to head out the back early. It is Easter so one long service isn't bad.

I am online for awhile tonight if you are bored otherwise I will talk to you when you get back on saturday or sunday.

Your good friend,

Dave

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Erica,

I was writing another woman from that web site since early this week. It has progressed kind of fast. I wrote her for 2 days. Called her for 2 days and had a date on Saturday night to see the movie Ice Age with her. We went back to her place after the movie and talked till after 1 am.
My confidence has really grown. I went from being extremely shy and not having a date for 3 years to being on a date in 5 days of first writing this woman. She has an incredible voice and I have averaged talking on the phone with her for over 2 hours a night.

She was kind of what I expected looks wise. I didn't have a picture of her before I met her but her personality has won me over. She is a little bigger than I normally would be attracted to but she is really, really nice and I am convinced that personality will win my heart over and not how someones looks. I would rather live my life with someone who has a dynamite personality than an airhead who just looks nice. She asked me how I could go on a date with her and not even know what she looks like and I said that when anyone gets older in their 60's 70's or older they are not worried about what that person looks like but what is inside. I really believe that. I had to hold her hand for a little while to show her that I was interested and she didn't seem to mind.

She has a 14 year old boy and that is not even a glitch for me. I haven't met him yet but know that it will be all right.

I hope you are feeling really good about yourself tonight because you have helped me with my confidence even if you didn't realize it. I have another friend who has also been helping me and the advice from people on this site have also helped.

She is a catholic woman so I might be going to her church more than once.
It doesn't matter to me what church that I go to as long as God is in my life.

Even though this woman is a big girl I have noticed that her face and especially her eyes are pretty. It really feels good when someone makes me feel so good. I don't know if this is the woman that I will be with for a long time or not but she is by far the most interesting person that I have met in a long time, besides you of course.

I have grown so much since I have started visiting with you Erica. I think that God has some special purpose for you in the future, I just feel that. Keep up with your writing. Your words and your ability to put words in motion will help many people some day.
I'll talk to my buddy Erica soon.
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April 22, 2006
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Dave,

Hey friend!

So what's up with you lately??

How are things with the new woman?

Me, you ask... I am doing ok.

Life preparing for a wedding is busy and hectic and crazy. J and I actually had our first fight... about FLOWERS, of all damn things. But we are OK now, it's just stressfull...LOL.

My cat Franny finally gave birth, which was a beautifull amazing thing. I love watching, I am held in awe of the power of nature, of God, of creation... She's a great mom too.

Bug traumatic experience though...she gave birth to 3 beautifull, healthy kittens between 1 and 3:30 am Thursday morning. Then she nursed them, ate some food, walked around. She seemed fine. Well an entire 24 hours went by, she was acting normal, eating drinking, everything...well I went in to check on her about 2 am Friday morning...She was in the process of delivering another kitten. It was dead, had been dead and stuck!!!! It was horrible. I had to rush her to the emergency vet. He got it out. It was breach and had been lodged. He said it was deformed. It was horrible!! I was crying hyserically, and I don't cry!!! It was very traumatic and I am having a hard time getting the picture out of my head.

But the good news is, Franny Fran is doing fine now. She is on MEGA load of antibiotics, to guard against infection (Please God!), and is back home with the 3 healthy babies, nursing and loving on them.

They are soooo CUTE!!!!! They are black and white, just like her. All 3 boys, and I named them ACE (firstborn), Deuce (2nd born), and Spade (continuing the card theme).

I'm here, at work, till Wendsday morning. I'll be on every night, off and on...give me a holler!

HUGS,
Erica

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Hugs back to you Erica.
Sorry about your kitten not making it. That is just part of life.

Fight over flowers? I hope you made up. If is always a nice feeling when you make up. It is a warm feeling.

As for the new woman in my life: I met her for a movie but had no physical attraction at all. She is really busy so I just haven't called her back. Am I terrible?

Believe it or not I am back with the first woman. I found out that the reason whe she works on her house all the time is because she is getting over a relationship of 8 years and just wants to keep busy on the house to forget about the past relationship.

I met her today at my house and we got some Chinese and brought it back to the house. I promised her a futon mattress so she picked that up and then we talked for awhile on the front steps. I think I better get to know her better. She is starting to grow on me.

I am starting to get busy at the business. I had 6 rain gutter leads that I went on today in the same neighborhood. I was really tired after that.

If you are online still tell me about how you are feeling tonight.

Your friend,
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Hi Erica, My threads seem to contradict. I thought that I could over look the second woman not being attractive but if is really hard to. This is something that I have struggled with. My ups and downs of dating. You are very lucky to have found someone in your life.

The first woman that I have met is really a nice woman. I am not the type of guy who can go out with many woman at the same time so I am concentrating on T. for now. I have attraction with her that I didn't realize that I had before.

She is really a sweet woman.

Your friend,
Dave

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Dave,

I have to say I am abit confused with all your women...LOL...that makes you sound like a playa, "all your women"!

I thought the woman #1, T. I think you called her, the one with the house jobs...well I thought that you were not attracted to her in the beginning too???? Is that correct, or am I making that up in my head.

****Shaking head in dazed confusion****

I understand you have to be attracted, it is important. I think it is not the only thing that is important, but it is important.

Actually, i am just realizing how much.

J quit smoking 2 years ago. In the time since she quit, she has put on 50 pounds. Now, we are both curvy, healthy girls, and acctually, I prefer women to have some weight on them. But it is getting past the point that I feel comfortable with. She is beautifull, her smile, her eyes. There are certain parts of her body that I love...it is just that there are certain parts that I prefer the way they used to be, you know.

OMG....I have been holding that in for so long! I mean, it sounds so shallow, and I know if she knew I felt like this it would CRUSH her. Both of us have had to deal with shit in our past, childhood peers taunting us, calling us names because of our weight. It is a HUGE issue, for her and for me, and I know that if I ever let on that I find her less attractive, or that her wieght gain bothered me, I would completely destroy the trust and safety and acceptance that we have worked so hard to give eachother.

But I also can not help how I feel, and regretfully, I can't make it go away, and just as with all things, the more I try to avoid and deny my feelings, the bigger they get, until I am obbsessed.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! Usually, with anything that is bothering me, or that I am keeping from her, I eventually tell her and it goes away or gets better. Like I was freaking not to long ago because I had it in my head that I was not "in love" with her anymore because that "HIGH" feeling has gone away and we have settled into thos sort of routine comfort. Well I didn't say anything and it got worse and worse until finally she asked me a simple question and it all came pouring out. I felt so much better after because I feel so guilty about those things. And it was so simple, she feels the same way, and it is not that we are not "in love" it is just that our relationship is maturing and changing, which I have recently learned from my therapist is a good and natural thing!!!

But this issue with the weight...OMG, I could never tell her. I would crush her self esteem and I would crush the safety she feels with me. That is not worth my discomfort...I love her to much to selfishly take that from her.

BUT WHAT DO I DO WITH THESE FEELINGS THAT WON'T GO AWAY!!!!???

I guess I am going to have to talk to my therapist about it . I know she will help me. I just feel so damn selfish and guilty for even FEELING this way!!!

I want to love her unconditionally...and I mean, I do...my love for her is not diminished by her increasing size...but my attraction for her IS!!!

OMG...What do I do, I feel like a horrible person. I feel like all that I hate about society and thier inability to see past a persons wieght, their need for us to look like Barbie.

UGGGGHHHHHH... I am really feeling guilty and dissapointed in myself, but still my inner being says that this is important and it is valid.

Anyway....thanks for listning....I'm sorry I just unloaded all that on you but this is actually the very first time I have discussed this with ANYONE!!!!!

Whhhhheeeewwwwww.... I feel better.

Thanks for listning.

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April 23, 2006
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Erica, thank you so much for opening up to me. This is the first time that I have felt really close to you, as a friend or course.

I feel so honored that you were willing to share that private feeling about your partners weight. It is ok to have those feelings. If it were my partner I wouldn't say anything to her about the weight. It was very good for her to stop smoking. Maybe you could do more physical things with her that could take off the weight. I know it doesn't work to mention weight gain to someone because I have a sister who put on a lot of weight and when I mentioned it to her it didn't seem to make much of a difference.

If I were you, I would start eating more healthy yourself and going out for more walks with her or anything that you enjoy together.

Everyone gets to the point where they get comfortable with each other and the actual spark can get a little less than when they first started dating. Of course I am not an expert, as you know, but from what I have seen with my brothers and sisters being married they enjoy each others company and would never want to be without each other.

My brother in law tried to almost bombard my sister about her weight gain. I couldn't believe that he would almost make fun or even embarrass her. I think they are past that now. That couldn't have been healthy.

My sister did join a health club but people have to want to make a lifestyle change to loose weight and that is not an easy thing to do.

Erica, don't feel guilty or selfish about her weight. I wouldn't say anything to her about it. Maybe in a round about way start an exercise routine of your own and see if she would like to join you.

You are right about the first woman T.
I thought that I wasn't attracted to her but she has really started to grow on me. I can overlook some of the physical things about her and as I get to know her better she is becoming beautiful. I guess her personality is making her look better to me, I can't explain it.

The second woman that I went to the movie with is so busy all the time that I have lost interest because she never calls. She was a little heavier so that kind of turned me off a little but that isn't it. I just don't feel comfortable dating more than one woman at a time. I chose T. because she is more like me. Kind of a goof and more down to earth.

Don't feel guilty about your feeling that she has put on more weight than you prefer. I'm sure your therapist will come up with a good solution for you.

T. said that she might quit smoking. From what I can tell about her, I think that I can help her keep the weight off by going out jet skiing with her and hiking. Just keeping her busy so that she doesn't have time to think about eating. I'm not worried about it. I just need a companion and her personality is winning me over.

Erica, I really feel good that you feel comfortable to talk to me. I feel like you have become a really good friend.

By the way, what time do you usually get on this site. I always seem to miss you or I don't stay on long enough. I am usually on around 9 pm central time.

It is actually noon on sunday and I have to go get something for lunch but I might check back later tonight.

I always enjoy visiting with you Erica.

Friend,

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By the way Erica, it isn't so much the weight that is the issue with the second woman, it is the lack of time to spend with her. She has a lot of men friends and I am uncomfortable with that. Plus she won't mention me to her son because he is so protective. So weight issues are not what are keeping me away from this second woman. I just don't have the attraction like I do with T.
Maybe will see if you write something tonight.
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Hey Dave,

Well, I come here to this site when I am at work. I work every Monday and Tuesday, and every other Friday, Sat and Sunday. it works out like I am On 2 days then Off 2 days, then On 5 days then Off 5 days. It's a cool schedule, except being away from J for 5 days SUCKS!!! See, I live about 75 miles from where I work, so when I am at work, I stay at my parents house. When i get off, I go back home to J.

Anyways, when I am at work, I am here from 6 p to 6a on weekends, and 8 p to 6 a on weekdays. Depending on how busy I am I am on this site pretty much the whole time, unless I am bored or it is dead, then I go to a few other TV show sites.

You know you are really easy to talk too. Maybe it is because it is anonymous. Half the time I forget you are a straight guy. I mean, I don't mean that in a bad way, it's just I've never known a guy I could talk to like this. But I guess I've never really given one the chance either!!! Maybe I need to open up a little...

Well, I hope it all works out with T. You deserve a nice woman, cause you're "Mr. Nice Guy". LOL, ok that was cheesy. J always tells me I am a "Cheese-ball". I can't help it.

I went eat this burger at Ruby Tuesday's called the "Julius Cheezer", LOL, it had swiss american and chedder. OMG very good. Anyway I loved the name, now J calls me Julius when I am being cheezy too. LMAO.

Thanks for the support about j's wieght thing. that is a good idea about an exercise program, and then asking her to join. Hell, I could use to get a bit more healthy too!!

Anyways, I am here for now. Drop me a line if you come.

Erica

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