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September 26, 2006
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Dave!

No more virgin!!!!?????

O my word!

Well.... How's it going??? LOL!

I'm so happy that you are happy!!! It is great that you have found someone who loves you for you, and that you can love right back! I know you have alot to give!

It is great that your buisiness is going so well! I like my new job OK, but I really hate my schedule. It seems that all I even do is work, and with school now I just have ZERO time for anything else.

I miss coming here too and talking to you. I'm just hardly ever on the computer. The most I have time for is to check in real quick with my myspace and then I'm off running again!

J and I are doing weel considering we are both being run ragged with school and work. We don't get enough "Together" time anymore, and that really strains our relationship, but we are working through it. This week she changed her schedule around so that we are off together on Wendsday night. We are going to have a MUCH needed and LONG Overdue "date night". She's taking me out to dinner and mavbe a movie. It'll be like normal for once! I can't wait.

But I shouldn't complain. I am gratefull that even have a job, and I really wanted to be in school this semester, knowing how hard it would be. J says "this is the life we have chosen" and she is right.

Bad news about our plans for pregnancy. J is on Welbutrin and the Doc says she needs to get off the pills before becoming pregnant. It will take her at least 2 months to wean herself off of them and the doc suggested waiting until after the semester is over so whe does not wig out mid semester. So we are pushing back conception all the way to the spring, probably March. i am really bummed about this, because we were supposed to try for the first time in October, and I was sooo excited. But we'll see I guess. I really do not like the idea of her totally going off anti depressants, but the fucking doctor said she would not even PRESCRIBE them to her if she choose to stay on them during her pregnancy. Talk about "Women's right to Choose". Doctors just want to cover thier own asses!

Anyway, you can probably see I am a little upset, but we will be OK, and figure it all out. Can you believe the doctor even suggested we just not concieve and try to adopt. Because of freaking DEPRESSION!!! You think she has some awfull disease like Tay Sachs or something!!!

Anyways, write back as soon as you can!! I love Ya, and I am really happy for you!

Yours,

Erica

September 28, 2006
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Hi Erica,
So good to hear back from you.

I think the doctor is right about the medication. Some of those medications are so hard on a newborn. I screwed up my kidneys with Lithuim and found out later in life that I really didn't need the medication as I became an adult. I was taking it for over 20 years when I should have stopped it much earlier.

I have overcome the depression.

Don't give up on your dream of a baby. It will happen for the two of you. Make things safe even if it takes a little longer. The wait will be worth it. Be safe when it comes to your new baby.

I miss our visits. I am also busy so I will try to pop in once a week to see if you write back.

Keep your chins up and try not to get discouraged. Your baby will come in time.

Love you.

Dave

September 28, 2006
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I am trying to keep my hopes up. Believe me Dave, I do want what is best for my baby. I love her/him so much already and all she/he is right now is just a thought and a prayer, I can not even imagine the depth of this love when I am actually holding my born child!!

J and I have considered SOOOO many options. Not just about the meds, but about EVERYTHING involved with being who and what we are and choosing to bring a life into this word.

Choosing to deprive my child of a father. The child having gay parents in a world/ country where gays are still second class citizens, denyed rights, hated,feared, and sometimes even beaten and killed for who they love.

I know my child will have to face things because of my life style. I wonder if it is selfish to know that and do it anyways.

But I KNOW I will be a good mother, and my child will know whe is loved!

We will figure it out. This is just one more thing that needs carefull and honest consideration.

I think once we do have a baby it will be one of the most Planned Pregnancys it the world, LOL. At least my baby will never think she was an accident or a mistake!

Oh well, I gotta do some research. I am writting a paper and doing a survery for psych class on Porn, LOL. Figured I'd put all this to good use.

Anyways, I hope all is well for you. Give me an update on you and T.

Talk to you soon.

Love ya,
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October 19, 2006
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Hi Erica,
I think that you would make a very good parent. Don't worry about being same sex parents. Your child will be the most loved child on earth. Have your child when you are ready. Love that child with all your hearts.
Trudi and I are still going strong. We are planning a trip to Las Vegus. Only going to spend 20 dollars a day on gambling and explore the rest of the time. Planning on staying from December 3 to 6. I'm excited. This will be a mini vacation to see how we get along.

Miss talking to you. I have been very busy with the business lately so it has been hard to get online. Not enough time in the day or night to get online. Trudi has been a big part of my life also so I like to visit with her every night.

I have been thinking about you. Hope school is going good. Remember that school is a privilage and work hard.

Miss you.

Dave

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Hey Dave,

According to your last post, if everything is the same, you and T should b enjoying Vegas right about now! I hope that is going well for you!

j and I are doing great. A bit stressed out at the moment with finals, but it's all good.

I finished Psych with an A. Math, I'm not sure, and I take my final Thursday. i have been studying and working, studying and working...

I did that survey on the porn, and wrote a VERY long paper. Out of a possible 130 points, I made a 130 plus bonus points!!! I was so psyched!

Next semester I am taking 2 different psych courses and an English, so it should be a really fun and interesting semester. I'm very excited.

We are still on track to try to concieve in April. So far so good. Our OB said that she would prescribe the Welbutrin, and J has been doing great on a diet, loosing weight and getting her BP down.

Well, I will check back in every so often. Hopefully you'll check in too, and get this. I hope you are doing great. And Happy Holidays!

Love,
Erica

December 6, 2006
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hey...

Please excuse me jumping in on your thread, but CONGRATS to Erica on your work (and your marks!) on the porn poll and paper. If you feel like posting any excerpts, I would love to read them.

Glad to hear things are going so well for you.

Sending good wishes your way, kroika

December 6, 2006
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Hey Erica

Havent seen you in a while...delighted that things are going so well for you

Well done on your paper

Keep rockin'.....Love Sleepless

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Kroika and Sleepless,

Hello to both of you!! I miss you all so much! With work and school things are so hectic around here! But I have a whole month off before the next semester starts, so I may be able to pop in more often!

Thanks for the congrats about my grades. I thought about posting the paper, but I havent really decided. It is very long, like 12 typed pages, plus the survey results. Also, when you (Kroika) posted yours you got alot off feedback, some not very positive. I don't really want to start a big thing again. But we'll see...

I hope that you both are doing well...BEVDEE, you too if you are reading this! ūüėČ

I'll pop back in again soon! This weekend Jand I are going with some friends to spend the night in New Orleans. I'm so excited!

Talk to yall again later.

Oh...Sleepless...YOU ROCK! LOL.

Love you guys!

Erica

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ūüôā

Rock On!!

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hey, Erica, nice to see you!

I hear you about your mixed feelings about posting your paper. Of course for my own selfish wishes, I want to read it (If nothing else I am very curious to see what kind of a paper gets full marks *plus* bonus marks)!! But if it doesn't serve you to post it, then I will just have to carry on without reading it (sniff, sniff).

Keep on rockin', women :o))

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Pornography:
Its Repercussions on Society and the Sexes
Observation
Much has been debated about the existence of pornography in our society. It has been argued that pornography provides a much needed venue for the education and expression of human sexuality. The majority of those who agree in favor of pornography are those who use it and /or profit from its existence. Pornography is a multi-million dollar industry in the United States, and the fact is, sex sells.
The most commonly used argument in defense of the existence of porn is the use of the First Amendment to the United States Constitution. First Amendment rights guarantee Americans the right to freedom of speech and expression. America is founded on the firm belief that as human beings, we all have the fundamental right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Even some people who totally dislike pornography and all it stands for will still stand in defense of its existence out of fear of government inflicted censoring or restrictions.
In 1984 anti-pornography feminists persuaded the city council of Minneapolis/Indianapolis MN to adopt a civil rights ordinance that allowed women to collect monetary damages from pornography producers in response to the violation of female civil rights imposed through the making and marketing of pornography. The city council was in turn sued by the America Booksellers Association and the American Civil Liberties Union. The case was taken to the Seventh Circuit Court of Appeals, who overturned the ruling of the Minneapolis City Council.
The court noted that, although it is possible that the subordination of women portrayed in pornography may in turn lead to lower pay, domestic violence, battery, and/or rape, the existence of pornographic materials are still protected by the First Amendment (Linz et al., 1992).
According to the Seventh Circuit Court:
Racial bigotry, anti-Semitism, violence on television, reporters¡¦ biases- these and many more influence the culture and shapes our socialization. None is directly answerable by more speech, unless that speech too finds its proper place in popular culture. Yet all is protected speech, however insidious. Any other answer leaves the government in control of all of the institutions of culture, the great censor and director of which thoughts are good for us (American Booksellers Association v. Hudnut, 1985).
What this means is that the lawmakers and judiciaries of the United States believe that any harm resulting form pornography, even if this harm is extreme sexual violence, rape, and female subjugation; these harms are not as important, nor as devastating to American society as the harms that might be produced from government regulation and censorship of people¡¦s choice of speech and expression. What this, in turn means, is that a woman¡¦s rights to safety and equality are not on par with society¡¦s rights to think, say, and do whatever they wish.
A solution to this obvious misjudgment by the United States judiciary system would be for the United States to adopt a policy such as that of its neighbor, Canada. Canada deems that people¡¦s rights to freedom of speech and expression can be constitutionally protected only to the extent that these freedoms do not infringe upon others rights, such as the right to equal protection under the law (Pornography and Prostitution in Canada, 1985). Only then can women¡¦s civil rights truly be considered equal rights.
Pro-pornographers often proclaim the need for various alternatives to government censorship as a way to avoid infringement of First Amendment rights, yet attempt to reduce the harmful effects of pornography. One popular alternative is to issue advisories informing pornography viewers that it is possible to become desensitized and/or psychologically harmed by the use of pornography (Linz, D. et al, 1992). This is the equivalent to putting Surgeon General¡¦s warnings on packages of cigarettes. Every package of cigarettes bought and sold in the United States offers a warning, such as ¡§cigarette smoke may cause lung cancer, emphysema, and heart disease¡¨, yet smoking causes an estimated 440,000 deaths each year (CDC, 2004). Given the general comparison, it is highly unlikely that anything short of government intervention is likely to halt the damage done by pornography.
Hypothesis
Amidst the chaos and controversy regarding the debate on pornography, the valid argument is this: although it is possible that some positive benefits may exist, the negative consequences and repercussions of pornography by far outweigh any possible positive effect. Correct judgment, strong boundaries and modest restraint can and should replace the pornographic free-for-all that grips our society. Respect must be shown for the gray area between what is right and what is wrong, what is beneficial and what is dangerous. Sexual freedom and expression, as important as they may be, should not be allowed to outweigh the rights of safety and equality.
What are the costs of pornography?
Derogative language, violence, domination, victimization and perpetration; all of these are proven aspects or ill effects of pornography. Over the top, grossly explicit sexuality, imagery and language, such as ¡§whore¡¨, ¡§slut¡¨, and ¡§gang bangs¡¨ are the vastly accepted norm. Men are portrayed as sexual gods; their apathetic and emotionless desire for domination being the style of choice. Women are portrayed as over sexed, uninhibited ¡§sluts¡¨ whose purpose is to serve as objects and receptacles for any level or degree of sexual dehumanization or degradation that fantasy can dream up.
Yet what happens when fantasy and reality collide? As sex in pornography is pushed to greater and greater extremes, where does that leave sexual reality? Can men continue to consume violent and degrading pornography and then go on to respect the sexual boundaries imposed by their wives, girlfriends or neighbors? Do women truly enjoy watching other women devalued and dominated? Can female self esteem, self image, and self respect survive the soul shattering onslaught of abuse that porn heaps upon the backs of women? Can women truly learn to set into place healthy sexual boundaries when they are consistently taught that women are supposed to back down and take it with pleasure, even when it causes pain, humiliation and shame?
The answer to these questions is no; absolutely and unequivocally no. The truth: Pornography is deeply destructive to both sexes; negatively influencing underlying beliefs and expectations of appropriateness and acceptability regarding sexual norms, undermining trust and quality in relationships, and producing a general harmful effect on society as a whole; particularly women in society.
What constitutes as violence?
Much early research dissecting the potential harmful effects of pornography revolve around the presence of ¡§violence¡¨ in pornographic material. Early researches categorized pornography in to classifications of ¡§violent¡¨ vs. ¡§non-violent¡¨ forms, yet did not provide a clear definition as to what the term ¡§violent¡¨ entailed in context to their system of classification. When discussing ¡§violence¡¨, the researchers often refer to terms such as ¡§sexual aggression¡¨, ¡§assault¡¨, ¡§force¡¨, and ¡§rape¡¨ to describe the level of violence they considered to be effectual of harm (Linz, D., et al, 1992, Donnerstein, E., et al, 1987). From this it could be deduced that their definition of violence consists only of violence that comes in the overtly physical form of the word, such as is the case in rape ad sexual assault.
According to Dr. Linz, ¡§for the average person the message of violence as pleasurable to the woman must be present for negative effects to occur¡¨ (Linz, 2006). If one uses the definition of violence as being limited to forced physical aggression, it could then be argued that the majority of mainstream porn is ¡§non-violent¡¨, and therefore does not produce negative harmful effects. However, the question is, why should the definition of violence be limited to overt instances of physical harm? Linz goes on later to state that ¡§what constitutes harm to a particular society, and how the legal system redresses this harm is always debatable¡¨ (Linz, D., et al, 1992). He goes on to state that in regards to researching porn¡¦s effects, the ¡§most pressing matter at this point would be further tests¡Kregarding the harms of degrading materials that are not overtly violent.¡¨
In reference to this statement, it can be deduced that Dr. Linz, along with other early researchers held separate the idea of overt physical violence and the impact of humiliation, degradation, and subjugation on the human psyche. This limited definition of what comprises as violence and the subsequent use of this flawed definition to classify particular types of porn as either harmful or non-harmful is highly improbable and both morally and psychologically incorrect.
Popular psychology recognizes the existence of non-physical, yet immeasurably harmful abuse patterns that can be classified in terms of verbal, emotional, and mental forms of abuse. Sexual abuse is categorized as being overt, such as in clear cases of rape or molestation, and covert, which is much more difficult to recognize due to its insidious and highly accepted nature. Covert sexual abuse includes, but is not limited to, instances involving sexual humiliation and degradation, invasion of personal and bodily boundaries and privacy, and the presence of the threat or suggestion of possible physical sexual assault. In all instances of these abuse patterns, there is evidence of clear and present victimization and perpetration, and of clearly defined instances of psychological damage as an effect of victimization.
In comparison of pornography and abuse patterns, the use of a limited definition of violence to classify porn and its subsequent damages to society would be the equivalent of society¡¦s acknowledgement of only the purely physical or overtly sexual instances of abuse as being the only truly harmful types of abuse in existence. Verbal, emotional, and/or covert forms of sexual abuse would be, in effect, considered ¡§abuse-lite¡¨, therefore not really abuse, therefore non-violent, non-harmful, and totally acceptable.
Can modern society truly afford to minimize and trivialize the obvious psychological harm of the less physical forms of violent abuse? No; and neither can society afford the continued ignorance of the harmful effects of pornography.
In 1985, anti-porn feminist Catherine MacKinnon defined pornography as material that presents ¡§the sexually explicit subordination of women, through pictures or words, that also presents women as dehumanized sexual objects who enjoy pain, humiliation, or rape¡¨. If one takes into account the psychological trauma inflicted by verbal degradation and/or the emotional impact of being the victim of sexual and psychological subjugation and humiliation, Ms. MacKinnon¡¦s definition offers a much broader and all inclusive standard with which to gauge pornography and its ill effects on society.
If verbal abuse, dehumanizing degradation and extreme sexual objectification were to be considered as psychologically violent acts and society upheld Ms. MacKinnon¡¦s definition of pornography, it is plainly and painfully obvious that the overwhelming majority of today¡¦s popular mainstream pornography would be categorized as violent and in effect, seriously harmful to society. With the undeniable fact that violence is violence, no matter what from it appears in, MacKinnon¡¦s definition is highly more logical and ultimately more significant in the categorization of pornography and it¡¦s subsequent ill effects.
Research Findings
There have been many different studies on the effects of pornography on men and women, and on how pornography effects society. One particular study, done in 1984, indicated that exposure to certain forms of porn resulted in a change in perceptions and attitudes towards rape and sexual aggression against women (Malamuth, N.M., 1984).
Other similar research yielded this information regarding viewers of sexually ¡§violent¡¨ pornography: (Donnerstein et al, 1987; Malamuth, 1984, 1989)
ľ Viewers often exhibit changes in perceptions of victims of rape by seeing victims as more responsible for their own assault.
ľ Viewers tend to consider a rapist as less responsible for his actions and as deserving less punishment for his crimes.
ľ Male viewers of pornographic material exhibit greater acceptance of violence against women and various myths regarding rape.
Zillman and Bryant¡¦s work in 1982 and 1988 found that the effects of repeated exposure to standard, ¡§non-violent¡¨ and commonly available pornography matched the results of earlier researcher who tested more physically ¡§violent¡¨ porn. According to Zillman and Bryant, common effects of repeated porn exposure include:
ľ Increased callousness toward women.
ľ Trivialization of rape as a criminal offense.
ľ Distorted perceptions about sexuality.
ľ Increased appetite for more deviant and bizarre types of pornography.
Surprising to some, according to Malamuth and Check, many scientific studies have found that the level of sexual explicitness in pornography need not reach that which would be considered extreme or obscene to still be considered harmful (1981). In fact, Donnerstein and Penrod go on to state that ¡§studies in which subjects have been exposed to materials that are sexually explicit and violent, sexually explicit but purged of violence, and violent but not sexually explicit have all shown that (any) materials with a message of violence against women are capable of producing the same anti-social effect as violent porn¡¨ (1987).
These findings seem to be of no surprise to anti-porn feminists such as MacKinnon and Dworkin, who advocate that it is not the sexual explicitness that is of utmost importance, it is the portrayal of women as willing and wanting subjects of men¡¦s violence, humiliation and degradation that produces the most harm (Linz, et al, 1992).
In fact, in the final report of the 1986 Attorney General¡¦s Commission on Pornography, it is noted that the vast majority of scientific evidence supports the effects of pornography ¡§do not vary with the extent of sexual explicitness, so long as the violence is present in an undeniable sexual context.¡¨
The Rape Effect
To understand the dangerous impact of mainstream pornography on its viewers, men, women, and society, one must understand the psychology of rape and sexual subjugation. Rape is the ultimate example of extreme sexual violence and physical violation. Sexual objectification and subjugation as seen in the vast majority of mainstream pornography is comparable to rape in that it¡¦s primary purpose is not simply about sex, but about power, control and domination. Rapist rape to violate, control and dominate their victims. If the sole purpose of pornography was harmless sexual exploration and experimentation, there would be no need for the severe verbal humiliation, and relentless examples of male domination and female subjugation that plague the majority of popular mainstream pornography.
This is the cold harsh reality of porn. A reality that many people fail to see, refuse to acknowledge, or attempt to explain away. It poses the ultimate question: is sex for the sake of entertainment and education truly the ultimate purpose for the existence of pornography, or is it lust for the deeper, darker world of sexual dominance and subjugation?
Does this mean that all men fanaticize about rape? Not necessarily, but it is interesting to note that in a 1984 study done by Edward Donnerstien, male students from 37 states were polled. The conclusion was that 25 to 30% of male students admitted that there is some likelihood that they would consider raping a woman if they could be assured of getting away with the crime. This number dramatically doubled to 57% after exposure to sexually violent pornography depicting images of women enjoying rape (Malamuth, N.M., and Donnerstien, E, 1984).
A comprehensive meta-analytical study done in 2000 combined 46 published studies from various academic journals to determine the effects of porn on sexual deviancy, sexual perpetration, attitudes regarding intimate relationships and attitudes regarding rape myths. The study found that exposure to pornography puts one at risk for developing sexually deviant tendencies, committing sexual offenses, experiencing difficulties in intimate relationships , and of greater acceptance of rape myths (Oddone-Paolucci et al, 2000). The researchers concluded that while porn is not likely a solitary influence in people¡¦s lives, exposure is an important factor that directly contributes to the development of sexually dysfunctional attitudes and behaviors.
In ¡§Introduction to Psychology¡¨, Coon and Mitterer list several examples of common rape myths:
ƒæ A woman who appears alone in public and dresses attractively is ¡§asking for it¡¨.
ľ When a woman says no, she really means yes.
ľ Many women who are raped actually enjoy it.
ľ If a woman goes home with a man on a first date she is interested in sex.
ľ If a woman is sexually active, she is probably lying when she says she is raped.
They go on to say, ¡§Men who believe rape myths are more likely to misread a woman¡¦s resistance to unwanted sexual advances.¡¨
In 1980, M. Burt coined the term ¡§rape myth¡¨ to describe a false belief system that women are partly responsible for their own attacks and because of this, rapists deserve less responsibility and punishment for their actions. Men who subscribe to this belief are less likely to empathize with the victims of rape and sexual assault, or to view the attack as harmful or traumatic. Women who believe rape myths are less likely to report their own rape, or to offer social support to other victims.
In a 1992 study done by Corne, Briere and Esses, a twist was added to traditional male focused studies by the conduction of a survey on 187 female university students regarding childhood exposure to porn, current sexual fantasies and support of popular rape myths. Forty-six percent of respondents reported exposure to porn as children and analysis showed that this exposure significantly related to rape type fantasies and rape myth beliefs in adulthood. This research concluded that early exposure to porn effects females by normalizing sexual aggression and by instilling the belief that sexual aggression and dehumanization should be accepted and desirable to women.
In order to see the whole picture, one must consider current rape statistics in correlation to statistics on pornography use and what has been discovered through research. It is estimated that 90 to 100 % of men and around 50 % of women use pornography. It has been shown that the effects of porn on men are increased sexual aggression and an increased belief in rape myths. It has also been shown that porn use in women normalizes male sexual aggression and induces a greater possibility of self-blame for sexual attacks and rape. A closer look at rape statistics paints a frightening picture:
ľ A woman is raped every six minutes in the United States (Coon and Mitterer, 2007).
ľ 1 in 4 American women are raped in their lifetime (UCSC Rape Prevention Education, 2006).
ľ 50 to 63 % of reported rapes are of women under the age of 18. 16 to 29% are of girls under the age of 12 (Hawthorn Legacy, 2006).
ľ 99% of forcible rapes involve a female victim and 96% of sexual offenders are male (Yello Dyno, US Dept. of Justice, 2006).
ľ In a study of 6,000 students at 32 colleges in the US, 42% of rape victims told no-one of their attack, and only 5% reported it to police (UCSC Rape Prevention and Education, 2006).
ľ 1 in 12 male students surveyed had committed acts that met the legal definition of rape or attempted rape (UCSC Rape Prevention and Education, 2006).
ľ In the above study, 84% of the males who had committed legally defined rape said that what they did was definitely not rape (UCSC Rape Prevention and Education, 2006).
So what does it all mean?
Empirical evidence has clearly demonstrated time and again that the existence of pornography both directly and indirectly affects rape and society¡¦s belief in rape myths. This information makes obvious the dramatic and tragically avoidable ramifications of pornography on society and the sexes.
According to the afore mentioned research, men who view porn are more likely to: a) blame victims for their own attack, b) minimize the physical and psychological trauma as a result of sexual assault, and c) view rapists as less responsible and as less deserving of punishment for their actions.
Does this mean that porn turns all men into rapists? Not necessarily. However the studies do show that porn lessens viewer¡¦s beliefs about the heinous impact of rape on a victim, and although it is highly unlikely that the majority of pornography consumers will in turn become rapists, what is the probability that these men will become law enforcement agents, emergency medical practitioners, or trial jurors? How will their decreased sensitivity and reduced ability to empathize with victims directly affect their ability to deal properly and respectfully with the women they serve?
Conclusion
It is apparent that scientific evidence overwhelmingly supports the hypothesis that the use of pornography negatively affects both men and women, and society as a whole. Women, as a group, bear the large majority of the damage done by pornography. The reality is that women are continuously portrayed as soulless, emotionless sexual objects to be bought and sold in film and magazine, to be used and abused in fulfillment of sexual ¡§fantasy¡¨. Porn usage leads to increased acceptance of beliefs that rape victims desire, seek out, enjoy and deserve their own attacks, and that women secretly long to be sexually humiliated, degraded and controlled. Pornography¡¦s influence on men reduces them to little more than animalistic barbarian, desensitizing them to the horrors of rape, warping their beliefs and expectations about sex and women, and cheating them out of realistic and fulfilling intimate sexual relationships with genuine loving partners.
And still, some believe that there is a rightful place for pornography in our society! That alone is the greatest tragedy of all, because so much could be avoided. How long will Americans continue to lie to ourselves and to cower under the blanket of denial? How is it possible that a country that boasts equal protection under law and equal rights for all can consistently uphold the rights of one group to the extent that another groups civil rights are trampled into the ground? How is that considered equal?
It is time to face the cold hard truth about porn. It is dirty, degrading and dangerous, and this is a fact that we as Americans, as human beings, can no longer afford to deny.

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American Booksellers Association v. Hudnut. 771 F. 2d 323 (7th Cir. 1985)
Attorney Generals Commission on Pornography. (1986). Final report, Department of Justice.
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Coon, D. and Mitterer, J.O. (2007) Introduction to Psychology: Gateways to mind and behavior. Belmont, CA: Thomason Wadsworth.
Corne, S., Briere, J., and Esses, L.M. (1992) Women¡¦s attitudes and fantasies about rape as a function of early exposure to porn. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 7(4), 454-461.
Donnerstein, E., Linz, D., and Penrod, S. (1987) The findings and recommendations of the Attorney General¡¦s Commission on Pornography: Do the psychological facts fit the fury? American Psychologist, 42,946-953.
Donnerstein, E., Linz, D. and Penrod, S. (1987) The question of pornography: Research findings and policy implications. New York: Free Press.
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