Avatar
Please consider registering
guest
sp_LogInOut Log In
Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Match



Forum Options



Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
The forums are currently locked and only available for read only access
sp_TopicIcon
Need someone's Perspective
June 20, 2011
6:08 am
Avatar
LuLuLemon02
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: 0
Member Since:
June 20, 2011
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I go to school in Ontario and I had met this guy through a friend who lives in Indiana. He was looking at going to school here but was undecided. Anyways, we really hit it off and kept in contact through skype and phone for a while until we really started to have feelings for each other. During this time period his passport expired and he had to get it renewed b/c  there was some sort of restriction on it and a bunch of paper work needed to be sent away in order to rectify the issue.  While this problem was being cleared up he told me he loved me and wanted to go to school here, he even got accepted into 3 different schools, I also drove down there to see him about once or twice a month and everthing was looking great for this last past year.  He even said that he should be here with me by the end of the summer...

   Then, last Sunday he tells me he wants to break up but only because he wants to focus on his career and not a relationship, especially not ours becauae he has no idea when he was going to get his passport... but then the day after he he breaks up with me the restriction on his passport is removed and he is able to get it. Upon receiving this, he says he still wants to come here and visit with me and such but as a friend? However he says he still loves me and misses me and had he not have these feelings about setting the stage for his career we would still be together? I am really confused. I'm not sure what to make of all of this. If he still feels the same way and all why would he does this? I am really hurt and have been feeling so depressed for the last while as I put sooo much into this relationship. I can't tell if he is being sincere to me or not. He is still even text msging me and everything every day and plans on visiting me in less than a month...i'm so hurt and confused. 🙁  

June 20, 2011
1:01 pm
Avatar
ShiningLight
Admin
Forum Posts: 572
Member Since:
February 9, 2011
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Hi LuLuLemon02,

 

Welcome to AAC. You can always decide what's the best thing to do. It's either you move on or continue to dwell on the situation which caused you pain and confusions. In order for you to move on, you need space and time to think things over. If talking to him personally makes you feeling better then go ahead and make the necessary appointments but you have to lessen your expectations and prepare yourself to what's gonna happen after the conversation. If he's not responding at all then it's really time to let go. Anyway, both of you are still young. Just focus on your studies first and you'll soon find out other opportunities and options in life. Cheer up and be happy. Smile

September 13, 2012
11:46 pm
Avatar
Curtis Baker
Canada
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 62
Member Since:
July 7, 2012
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

You have to think about your life and about your future .Cash the opportunity coming in your way. All the best for your future.

October 6, 2012
5:34 am
Avatar
JamesMartin
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 4
Member Since:
October 6, 2012
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

You should try talking to your friend about basic problems and your doubts because living like this is not good for your relation.

February 4, 2013
12:30 am
Avatar
aaronwebvizards
Costa Mesa, CA
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 61
Member Since:
January 25, 2013
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

It's really confusing but I think some where down the line he loves you and want to be with you. may be because of some previous issue as you mentioned about Passport problem he was unable to concentrate on you. You need to give some time his friendship and let us know what you are feeling for him. Because friendship is a good thing which can give you time to know each other.,

March 21, 2013
2:11 am
Avatar
Dave Jed
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: 1
Member Since:
March 21, 2013
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I have found writing letters to be an effective method of communication since you can write what you feel and process it without the person interrupting you and there is no reactivity involved. After you are done wrting you can decide to send it or not....Surprised

March 21, 2013
3:28 am
Avatar
onedaythiswillpass
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 1134
Member Since:
January 18, 2012
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Lu Lu,

it's a tough spot you are in for sure.  To me it seems that somehow his feelings got changed slightly over time but for what reason it is unclear to both me & you.  Don't let go of him since you are friends and you obviously have feelings for him.  Take it one day at a time & eventually whatever will be will be.  As the old song goes: the future is not ours to see.....Wink

 

Meanwhile, keep smilingSmile

 

One Day

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 349
Currently Online:
31
Guest(s)
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 111165
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38716
Posts: 714574
Newest Members:
anissafield, Aemorph, CaitlynForlong, AndrinNetzer, MaarcusPedersen, MarcusPedersen
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2021 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved.
Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer | Do Not Sell My Personal Information