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Michigangirl - new boyfriend&religion
August 27, 2005
12:30 am
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mamacinnamon
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Hi: Will be glad to speak to you abot this here. Others will be glad also.

August 27, 2005
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Hi Michigangirl:

Sorry, but we are not allowed to quote scripture on the Support threads. So, here are some scriptures you might want to look up to help you make your decision. And, the decision is purely between you and God.

Mark 10 1-12

Matthew 19:4-6

Malachi 2;13-16

Geneses 2:18-25

Proverbs 5:15-19 and 18:22

1 Corinthians 7:1-16 and 13:1-8

Ephesians 5:22-23

Hebrewas 13:4

Here are a few verses on unsaved love ones:

2 Peter 3:9

1 Peter 3:1-2

1 Corinthians 7:13-16

1 Thessalonians 5:21-23

Isiah 50:10

Sorry I cannot type them out. My hands won't allow, but look these up, pray and consult the Lord, and then he'll give you the decision you need to make.

August 27, 2005
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Hi Michigangirl, (Hi Mama),

This is kind of a funny story (at least I thought it was funny) on a more serious subject....

I have a similar problem in my relationship with my b/f.

We have talked recently about the possiblities of getting married and having children. I told him that there were some things that we would have to talk about if we were going to talk about having kids.....he said "like what"?

I said "well, things like religion for example......like the fact that I am agnostic (not sure what I believe) and you are Catholic and believe in God."

His response....."well....that's easy......when we have kids, we just teach them that there is a God and they'll just be Catholic.....that's it."

My response....."Oy vey"

I'm glad we got to talk about this and came up with an amiable solution!

Perhaps you all may not see the humor in this....but I still laugh every time I think about it.

Good luck.....

Lolli

August 27, 2005
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Lolli:

I see the humor in it; also the thought of you sitting there thinkin "Duh, huh, who are you, you are tellin me what?"

Isn't it funny, not in a laughable sense, when we get into deep subjects, that are at the core of what makes us who we are, w/ our loved ones, we can sit there and wonder what dog drug him (or her) in from where?

I do hope ya'll got it worked out and are truly happy together today.

Michigangirl:

My first marriage was to an unbeliever. What a royal mess. Don't think you can save your partner. Not to say that your actions might change their way of thinking based on your actions and prayer. 1 Corinthians 7:1-16 talks about marriage and this subject specifically.

I do believe that you and he need to have ALL religious matters worked out before you marry. What religion or denonimation you and he will worship and in what will your children be raised in.

My second marriage I married a Christian man. We've had our ups and downs, but we know what or close to what the final ourcome will be and/or what path we will take during those times of hardship because we know what we believe and that it is the same. It's hard to fight when you the same religious beliefs and you practice what those beliefs are.

August 27, 2005
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Mich,

The Bible clearly states:

"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers."

I have been listening to believing women who admittedly and regretfully married unblievers thinking that they would change them. I recommend you not to do their mistakes. It is not easy to change people. If your bf does not plan to change now, do not expect him to change after marriage.

~Love, RAS~

August 27, 2005
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Hi, all-

I did not know that I couldn't discuss religious matters in that part of the forum, so I apologize.

Thank you to everyone that responded. This is a very difficult decision for me, one that is going to take some great thought. I will look up those scriptures, and pray and ask God to guide me as to the right answer. I have heard of that scripture, Ras, and I thought of it that last night. I am just so very confused, and most of all, worried. He saw that his response to my question upset me, and he said he was just being honest, would I rather him lie about it? Of course I said no. I am going to need some time to think this through for sure.

August 27, 2005
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Hi Mama,

Yes, I'm sure we will work it out when the time comes.

I guess we gotta give him credit for standing by his beliefs. The funny part to me was that there was no other option in his mind.

I can still picture him standing at the sink, doing the dishes while this conversation to took place. He was just so serious and matter of fact......"we'll just teach them there is a God and they'll be Catholic"......

It cracks me up.

Perhaps it's true when they say you marry your father......

I remember as a teenager I was asking my Dad (also Catholic) questions about religion, God, Jesus, etc. After going back and forth for a while I said....."but how do you KNOW"......

His response: "I don't know, it just is."

Again I say.....oy vey!

Love,
Lolli

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