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Marraige: An immature, emotional and unrealistic contract
October 24, 2004
5:18 pm
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Worried Dad,

Brake fluid adn chlorox? I feel like I missed something. Please update.

Although not about marriage you ask why any rational person would choose to have children?

Two points - The silly - who cares if the rational or irrational person decides to have children. My parents were irrational, they had me and now I'm here posting to you.

The more thoughtful - Unconsciously, I think when we are younger we want to reproduce. This is inside of us - biological. The rare person overcomes that with consciousness, choosing to have or not have.

I guess if we have the glass half full half empty, and we look at the world as the half empty (negative, declining, etc.) we would consciously choose not to have children. However, looking at the world half full (positive, etc.) we would choose to have children.

I was told that we do not need our wisdom teeth because over time our mouths have changed. Evolved.

I think our instincts can evolve as well.

A bit of rambling but please don't forget about the brake fluid and chlorox.

October 24, 2004
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Well if you ask me, brake fluid and clorox will cause a harmful chemical reaction which I suppose is your point!

Children.....your life is never your own anymore, you become suddenly stupid as a parent to them, expenses are through the roof, parent teacher meetings, first periods, sexual lifestyle choices, are they using birth control!!!!!?????!!!!!

I am only descibing my life right now and would I change it?....Not in a million years.

I did not even like kids before I had them! In fact, people were shocked when I was pregnant. The difference was I was fortunate to choose getting pregnant. I was fortunate to grow with them, learn from them and enjoy them!

I truly believe people have a conception about kids as being alien scary ceatures and my question would be, what do you think you started out as? Aren't you at least glad someone chose to have you?

Children are not posessions! They are just younger people with out the insight of adults. Of course they make bad decisions! its how we learn to make good ones!! or not! All someone has to do is believe in them and ,man, they take off!! Just a bit of positive reinforcement and forget the damn negative thoughts...they are worthless to the productivity of a child.

My glass is always half full and I believe will always stay that way!!

October 29, 2004
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I'll tell ya, there are times I wonder: why on earth did I choose to experience puberty all over again? Not once. But twice now, with the third one coming up. It was hell the first time when I went through it myself, and it's hell at times right now with two more. I'm sure the third isn't gonna be a picnic. They show the same pain I felt, and there's little I can do to alleviate it. It's puberty. it sucks.

i really wanted to have kids. And I'm glad I did. There's something about kids- maybe it's their innocence or love for life, I don't know, that really draws me to them. they make me laugh more times than they make me cry. They grow, and I see a part of myself in them- is that narcissistic or something? I don't know. But I sure enjoy being around kids. Breaks are cherished as well, however. Adult conversation is priceless.

Pregnancy was awesome. It's just such a trip. So was childbirth and their infancy. I used to rock them and sing to them in the late hours in the dark. Breastfeeding is something I'll always cherish.

The experience, wd, for the most part, is pretty awesome I guess. Sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like had I never had kids. Who I'd be, and what I'd value. With kids, it's all about them. What my being on this earth can do for them, has great value to me.

But what if I never had any? Ah, ya got me thinking.

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October 29, 2004
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I don't think anyone would have kids if they were already aware of the immense nature of the project. That's why you just hurtle headlong into it without thinking. My sister always says, if you stop and think too much you get terrified.

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