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Just sex or is it more? part 2 :o)
August 23, 2006
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Love you guys..on line talking to one of my pof guys...

August 23, 2006
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Passed Mr 22 two times tonight..go figure..the last time..I texted him..just passed you..no response..

I got home..and sent one that said I won't bother him anymore..f-him!!!!

Love you guys...I'm just keeping busy on line..got a couple little hottie boys..emailing me. I didn't email back one..for two days.. I wanted him to wonder..plus, he's 24 and hotter that..hot!! I'm sure he know its. He has some COCK..rooster name. THe Cock of the walk..I'm sure. lol..A little boy, I'm sure..I emailed him back.."how do I get abs like those, before I'm 40..any suggestions?" says, he doesn't like imature little girls..yah right..I've heard that before. Stupid little boys..I tell you..but he may be fun to talk to..you just never know...

I'm good..going to sleep..will talk tomorrow..love Soul

August 23, 2006
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Keep your fingers busy online Soul and stop texting!!!!!!!! You are asking for heartache my dear.

Somepeople are just too attracted to each other so that there is not way to just be friends they are just drawn to each other so powerfully. i have an ex likethat and there is no way we could be in the same room alone together even if I was married and he was married. ( I know, it happened) In that situation I ran like the wind, cryed alot and cryed hard, but I got over it and still would have that attraction to him and still would cause myself pain.

Hey, good luck with the hotties but you know your heart, Soul, it doesn't always obey you. Maybe you bettter work on the men that there is a potential future with. Plus, its possible the older guys can be good in bed too. I have discovered the beauty of the divorced man. They have been with a woman long enough to know what to do in bed.

X took his profile down. YAY for me. we talked about 2 hours last night on the phone. i know, Chinita I am supposed to be taking it slow, but I really, really am into him. He is as bad as i am and I keep having to slow him down. I see why he was married 3 times, he is an incredible romantic and dives in head first. Its difficult not to get caught up in it but, I am trying. I just want to be with him like 24-7, and that is weird for me. I usually want to be alone.

So anyways girls, so far so good. I am having fun and thinking about him way too much. Not obsessing about the future though, just replaying saterday night in my head and smiling.

I hope you ladies have an okay day. i'll check back later.

Light

August 23, 2006
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Oh where, Oh where, is Light???

Soul u too???

It's ok I know how it is doing normal things. I Miss U 2!!!

M well girl's he's working his way to me. He texted me a pic. with out a shirt OMG!!! that body is just too much!!! he just brought the heat to him. I LOVE chest and girl he's got the kind I like!!! We talk everyday but it seems so innocent maybe because I've known him for so long. He said he could seem himself settling down with a girl like me and marrying me :0!!! WHAT!!! I started laughing and he said he was serious.

Anyways ladies check in when u have chance.

I want to hear the scoop on"X"? and are u talking to anybody else????

Soul I want to hear the scoop on your POF friends?

August 23, 2006
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How funny we were posting at the same time.

Light: WOW he put it on u!!! that's cool I'm happy for u and u seem to really dig X it's big difference from J. Good I'm happy your happy.

Soul u just stay busy and this time around start being picky. Look for someone that's at your level, someone that can offer u something in Life, I better take my own advice. It's a thought.

Take Care Ladies!!!

Keep Your Heads Up!!! No matter what!!

August 23, 2006
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Chinita: M sounds like maybe he is keeper, huh? I think you ought to think seriously about that. I thought at first you weren't too into him, but you are thinking differently now???

I never knew how much I would like a nice chest. X is just thick and strong. Its sooooooo sexy. I have never been with anyone that I just thought they were the hottest thing alive. My x had nice eyes and was nice looking but I never felt like thi s about him sexually. mmmmmmmm . ..I am not gonna make it a week without seeing him. I need a babysitter NOW!

Last night he was saying how much he wante dto see me and made it very clear he wanted the package deal: Me and my daughter. He says he knew that about he when we meet and if my ex wants to meet him to see if he is okay to be around Jordie he is fine doing that. I just think that's crazy. And so nice! He told me that he is still friends with wife #2 and she is engaged and he is walking her down the aisle on her wedding day. what a guy.

I'm losin' it girls. Out of my mind.

Light

August 23, 2006
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Hi ladies...

Light..that is awesome..and a very good sign..that he took his profiel down. He sounds sincere..and gosh..you soooo deserve the lovin' and attention. I say.. go for it!!!!!

China...very cool about M. A little attention never hurt anybody..eh??

Onward and upward ladies...

I've been talking to two real nice guys..my age..they are both a ways away..like them both.

steve..44..ex druggy..revoreing addict alky..a little more into me..then maybe I am into him. Red flag...gambling.

tatoo designer..41..yonger then treeclimber..but looks older..I can talk to him..much easier than the other guy..he's just sweet. They both are actually. Red flag..alcohol. He came in at 3am from the bar lasst night..and sent me a funny cute..message...but he drinks quit a bit..maybe too much. Then again..so do I..so..

Oh, and little hottie boy..I talked to him today..said he's a personal trainer..and if I want he will helo me get that hot body before I'm 40. Seriously, thinking about it. I would love to have a personal trainer. He had to go..so I'll have to see how much a personal trainer costs. I think I just might do it!!!! My goal..to have the hottest body I've ever had before 5-1-2007..my 40th bday..

Love you guys..as always..Soul

August 23, 2006
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can i ask u girls a guestion? i was married to same ole guy for twenty three years. he really had no interest in me sexually. it was all about him. are most guys like that? i always had the ides men really liked sex. and like pleasing a woman. someone set me straight here. are most men just out for themselves? i have worried that i am the one who has the wrong idea of how men are in bed.

August 23, 2006
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guppy- my ex was the same in bed most of the time. He really did'ny care if I liked it or not and as a result I lost interest and thought I didn't care for sex. I was with the same man for 15 years, married 14.

Okay, Now I met a guy who is all about pleasing a woman, and would never ask me to reciprocate the attention. Suddenly, i think sex is pretty great.

So I guess the anwser is every man is different just like every woman is different. Some men are all about them, some are all about her, some are good, some are unskilled. Its all different, with every man.

You just can't expect to much from a guy and hope to be pleasently suprised.

Are you seperated from the guy of 20 some years now? I don't know your story. Are you starting to date again and this is why the question has come up??

Nice to hear from you guppy?? Whats this I hear about you and seeker?? lol

Light

August 23, 2006
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Gup: Things heating up????

I've had a few great lovers in my time and lots of lousy ones (like the last one- Senor).

The great ones were into taking the time of pleasing me- lots of foreplay- knew what to do- what the "hot spots" were and how to build up the sensations.

The lousy ones- like Senor- were into doing just enough to prep me- so they could accomplish their goal- put it in- and then he was Speedy Gonzales- for him, and left me behind.

Is this turning into the sex thread again???

SD

August 23, 2006
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Light: Please be careful. I don't want to put a damper on things- your guy sounds great- but I have been reading my Liar book, and one of the things they caution about is when a guy expresses caring about your kids- just to get in the door with you. Please be cautious- I know its hard when the extreme attraction is there- just be a little bit skeptical with what he says, OK? Its still very early in the game w/ this guy. Just trying to watch your back.

SD

August 23, 2006
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Guppy: I agree there are all kinds of differ. men out there. You never know till u get them in bed.

Wait I'll be right back Ladies!!!

I gotta grab something to eat, I'll be back in a flash!!!

August 23, 2006
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Ok I'm back.

Well it's nice to see some different faces here.

Hi!!! Guppy & SD!!!!!!!!

Guppy: So true there's all kinds of men out there. Not all of them are lousy. Believe me I've had my experiences. Don't worry you'll find the right one that can satisfy your needs.

I'm feeling GREAT today maybe too much damm coffee!!!

Light: slow it down ok. You take this time to get to know him and try not to believe everything he says. I don't want to see anything happen to that big heart of yours. SLOW!!!

SD: what liar book??? maybe I need to read that? So what happen with Senor???

Soul: you just shop around and see what opportunites come your way. Hey your Single so just have fun. Put that big heart of yours on hold for now and just have FUN!!!

Love Ya!!!

Gotta go Lunch is over.

Have a wonderful Day Ladies!!!

August 23, 2006
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Hi Chinita: The book is called "101 Lies Men Tell Women and Why Women Believe them" by Dory Hollander, PhD. Its very revealing, and gives a bit of perspective of whats going on in guy's heads. They sure don't think like we do.

Senor did a disappearing act, and this time I let him go. I don't even want to hear the excuses. This after a night of I Love You's, blah, blah, blah.

I'm just in a bad mood as far as men right now. Once that stupid little glow goes away, I start to look at situations differently and don't trust any of the suckers, ya know?

SD

August 23, 2006
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Hey Guppy and Sd..nice to see you two 🙂

Sd...bye bye..Senor El Stupido...ribbett..

Guppy... I agree with what the others say. I've had lousy..and awesome. Some start out lousy..and in time..with communication..get awesome..some never get better. I feel it's just depends on the two individuals..the chemistry..the desire..the communication.

Gee, I hope that didn't sound like I've had a whole bunch...lol...really..3 long term relationships..in 20 years..until last summer. I've never really been single for any amount of time..and have probably been having a little too much fun. In my defense..I really like and hoped for a relationship..out of any of the guys I've slept with.. in the past year..with the exception of Mr 22..who I didn't sleep with the first night..jsut messed around doing other things..Because I knew If I did..it would be a one night stand..and then turned into the mess it is..lol..

Light..I don't know..I trust your guy..it seems more than the others..I think he's sincere. But, I don't know..maybe I'm just a gullalbe sucker!! lol...

CHina..It's so nice to hera you doing and feeling so well today. Lvoe you honey..when you going out again.

I wasn't going to go out Sat..but decided..what the hell!!! I'm going to anyway..so look OUT..here I come.....woohoo...

Lvoe Soul

Just got a letter from B today..I haven't decided whether to post it here..or start a thread. It left me in tears...now what??????

August 23, 2006
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I know ladies. My inner alarm is firing off in between bouts of going ga-ga over the guy.

I don't know if is because there is something off about him or because I think the only reason a guy could like me is because they are using me for something. Or because I have my own trust issues.

One thing is that he is very expressive, and I am not used to hearing these things he says, it makes me uncomfortable.

He didn't necessarily express concern or a desire to be a "family" he just said that he wanted me to know he didn't mind doing stuff with me and my daughter.

I don't want to have him meet her until I know more about him. When I am away from him i get suspitious, but when ii am with him I feel better and like he is sincere. its is an uneasy feeling I have on and off about this.

Also, I haven't had these romantic feelings for someone for over a decade, I am unfamiliar with this, and feeling cautious. I think I might have to tell him to turn it down just a notch. Don't know.

I don't want a liar book because then I would think every man is like that, as i am so suspitious of everyones motives. i would be a basket case!!

Thanks everybody for the thoughts. i am confused!!

Light

August 23, 2006
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Hi light..

Just take it one step at a time.. just like with Mr 22..I believe we meet people for a reason..and need to learn new things aobut ourselves..in order to grow..and be happier. Another stepping stone..right..so, don't worry..just enjoy..and let it happen..how ever idt does..take the attention..the compiments..and feel good. You deserve it!

I'm emotional today..just got a text from Mr 22..put it on my other thread. 🙁 I will bawl a while..and then I'll move on..until the next tiem...lol...

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Just posted B's letter on the Mr 22 thread...

August 23, 2006
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GUESS WHO called me YG at 1:30 a.m. I didn't even hear the phone I was knocked out but my room mate seen it on the id. Hummmmmmm! wonder what the lil boy wants??? probably a booty call but nope sorry he missed the bus a long time ago 🙂

I'll keep u guys posted.

M well he texts me right when he wakes up, cute huh? I think I'm going to tell him straight out I'm not ready for relationship not just yet.

Hey Light just try and limit your feelings when u talk to him don't expose too much. But yes tell him to slow it up. As for Jordie BIG NO-NO u should wait for a while before including her. Just my opinion, ok?

SD: Senor didn't leave any closure??? what a punk if he didn't. I'll look into that book gotta get some knowledge. I'm a BIG SUCKER for Love but this time I'm trying to just go easy on my heart because can't take anymore heartache.

Soul I'll go check it out.

Ok gotta go still at work!!!!!!!1

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Gee, thanks for all of your input. Are things heating up? u say? Mormons dont believe in sex before marriage. (he is) i am just asking because i worry that i was the cause of the problem in my marriage. Suppose i will never know for sure unitll i have someone else to compare it to. My ex used to say things like if he had to think about me , it ruined it for him and stuff like that. He just acted like i repulsed him in some way. but he had no problem demanding and pouting like a two year old to have his way there.(blow jobs) But he said women were too disgusting for him to want to recipricate. The whole thing had to be all about him or he said i was being selfious and a bitch. The whole thing ended up disgusting me over time. He ended up wrecking my self esteem and practically destroyed any feelings of feminity i have. i am just worried i am really a flop and dont even know it.

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Soul: I read your thread and feel that this is just the closure you needed. You know he cared enough to respect your feelings by saying goodbye. Don't compare your feelings for him vs. his feelings for you. that does no good. the circumstances in which you both experienced each other were completely different.

The letter B sent you. Very sweet, very kind. But also know they are just words. He has never actually shown any evidence of behaving in the manner he says ( unless I have missed something). Until you see the action behind the words, use caution. The guys in the situation B is in, use these words to hold women to them, and the man in the letters may never materialize. He may of course mean the words, but lack what it takes to make it happen

CHINITA: OMG!!!! Keep your panties on!! BOOTY CALL ALERT!! Keep us posted about YG! he broke your heart and you are just starting to heal, don't let him set you back, okay?

I think you are right about X meeting Jordan. What about him coming over aftre she goes to bed? I don't mean for sex necessarily, I just mean to visit ( ya never know though)? I just don't know.

Guppy: Your husband sounds like he was a jerk ( sorry)! A woman is not discusting and if he thinks they are he had no business marrying one. You, my dear, may in fact be very skilled in bed and you have no idea. Don't let him make you feel less feminine. You sound like a great woman.

Light

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thanks light-but it was a long process of slow degredation. i am afraid that i am not so whole anymore. he used to say my breast disgusted him. (breasfed my kids) so i got implants. he never touched them again. everything was a fight. he never touched me with his hands. anything i wanted , he refused. and the turn around was he would come back on me and demand stuff like anal sex. which i refused. if he coundn't stomach touching the feminine part of me, he damn sure wasn't going anywhere else. He used to tell me he couldn't let me orgasm because it made him do it and that was my fault because we didn't do it everyday. i tried initiateing it everyday for awhile. nothing changed. except he acted superior and still a shit. it wasn't untill i spent enough time by myself that i learned to please myself without insults and fights that i felt some peace. I will be honest, he warped me enough that the idea of having to will and deal with a man again in the sexual arena makes my chest hurt and i feel sick. I would rather spend the rest of my life by myself than have to ever be insulted, neglected and put down like that again. There have been times i have thought about hooking up with someone just to get over the trauma, and honestly to be able to put some of the trauma behind me, but i dont have the guts.......

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This will be real quick I'm about out here (work)

Light whatever u do that Jordie doesn't know is fine. Just be careful and quiet, ok. What she doesn't know won't hurt her and just keep it like that for a while.

(((Guppy)))
I will give my input as soon as I get home. He's an ASS.... for doing that.

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guppy: Your husband was horrible. Any man who treats a woman like that- let alone his wife- should be castrated!!! A man in love will do just about anything to please his woman, and many love oral sex. Since thats my favorite thing, if they don't do it (or are really really bad at it- like Senor) they have to hit the road. Because when they want to get their rocks off, it works both ways. Senor never got that part. He thought if he pumped away forever- and as fast as Speedy Gonzales- that I should have an O- even when I told him I don't work that way. So he was blaming me for the problem. (It is rather humoroous now to think about it). I've been with enough guys to know I have no problem with that- if they know what they are doing. Same with your husband.

Do you ever listen to a radio program called "Love Line" with Dr. Drew Pinsky? I listen sometimes and he has said numerous times that if a man won't do oral then he's not really into you, and is selfish. I tend to agree.

I've even had some flings where the guy was an excellent lover- it all has to do w/ technique, and some guys are just lousy at it and always will be.

I'm sorry you had that miserable experience, but all men are definitely NOT that way. I think if you find a caring, sensitive and experienced man, you'll be surpirsed beyond belief what a difference there can be.

(((Guppy)))

Man oh man.

SD

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Sd-thank you for your encouragement. i can honestly tell u that S's circumstances( he's not divorced yet) and faith (no marriage, no sex) which makes him not a threat to me has allowed me the chance to get to know him and him me. In any other circumstance i would have already backpaddled out to sea and left the whole thing behind me. We spent a few hours talking about sex one night and a few days later i tried my damndest to get rid of him. i went so far as to go beserk on the dating thread and he still stayed put. At the time i was more frustrated than he could even begin to guess. The smartest thing he did was back off of me and give me some space. I think he realized after awhile that he came within a nat's ass of seeing my dust trail. =]

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