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September 30, 2010

How
do you deal with someone who holds a grudge and can not stop
finding out your fault and pointing them out to you all time? I
have someone in my life who acts like a child and constantly tells
me what I do wrong and why she does not like me...I think this has
alot more to do with her than with me, for the things she picks at
are from a very long time ago but she holds onto this anger and
brings things up that are so trivial and stupid... how long must I
suffer here in silence? I let go of my grievances pretty fast, i
always give the benefit of the doubt and am I quick to forgive,
maybe too soon, so why can't someone else do that for me
once???
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September 30, 2010

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January 5, 2011

BFG,
you asked how to deal with someone who holds grudges and points out
faults? My answer is I don't. I refuse to allow people like that in
my life anymore. You said that you are quick to forgive and wonder
why someone can't do that for you? There are people who do not have
the skills to be in a relationship. There is not anything I can do
about that. All I can do is recognize it, let them go, and
gravitate towards people who I can develop a relationship with
based on equality, intimacy, and balance.
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September 27, 2010

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September 30, 2010

thank
you for your input guys:) I think Chrisitans are the worse, then
again I was abused within the religion, so I guess that makes my
view of them kinda of distorted maybe, I have met maybe two or
three christians in my life who were very kind good hearted people
who did not use their religion to hurt me, most did... I hear what
your saying puptent, that to move away from them is the best thing
to do and you know it is...I need to do that, alot more often.
Craig...good to see you again:)
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September 27, 2010

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January 5, 2011

BFG,
I believe that Jesus came to this Earth with an important message.
I have observed first hand a number of people who replace his
teachings with reality, distort the meaning of words and use it as
a way to lure people so they can use them for sex and money, etc. I
do not judge Jesus coming to earth by these type of
people.
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January 5, 2011

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January 5, 2011

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September 30, 2010

I
just read a website of a church that a new friend, will she will be
more of an acquiatance now to me, that said the following... Be
agressive to save the "unchurched" and Be bold to help the immature
in Christ. And do good in your community, serve god by serving
man...
Can we say
brainwashing?!
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September 24, 2010

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September 30, 2010

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September 30, 2010

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January 5, 2011

BFG,
if only a persons desire to "save" others would begin with
themselves, and their children and their lives, things they can
control the world might actually be a better place. Whenever you
make "others" a priority and see them as extensions of your desires
that's when things can fall apart. Anyone who sees human beings as
incapable of deciding their own fate and/or incapable of being
responsible for themselves is not thinking very clearly.
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January 5, 2011

onlyboringontheoutside, I use the fact that someone is
irritating me as a red flag to move away from their negative energy
towards a more positive light. Sociopaths for example target people
because of what is going on inside of there minds, i.e. the need to
use others as a means to their ends, has nothing to do with the
intended victim.
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September 30, 2010

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September 24, 2010

Of
course not, that's not what I'm saying at all. It's just some
people push our buttons and others don't, even when the behavior is
identical between irritating person #1 and irritating person #2.
It's our choice how we react to it. We can let it get to us, or
move away from it, or just let it fall away from us. Just because
someone offers you their "gifts" does not mean you are obligated to
pick it up and carry it around with you. 🙂
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January 5, 2011

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September 24, 2010

Sure,
puptent. One thing I ask of you... if you see me post something
that bugs you and you want to call me on it, please address me,
rather than saying "I wish people would do x y z". Intent can be
lost in writing sometimes, and a general statement like "I wish
people would just..." is vague as to whether you're talking to me
or referring to something or someone else, and when I see comments
like that, I feel nervous about posting again. However, a direct
"OBOTO, your comment affected me as a, b, c, is this really what
you meant?" would tip me off that I need to explain further. And I
will do my best.
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January 5, 2011

obo,
truthfully my post was not directed at you it was how I feel in
general about the flow of info. on this site. For safety sake I try
to remind my self to use "I" statements when sharing (I feel; I
believe). I try to refrain from commenting on what others share so
they can experience their own feelings.
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September 24, 2010

Ah,
OK. Thanks for the clarification, puptent. My perspective regarding
flow on the site is a little different from yours. I assume that
when people share on the site and especially when they ask
questions about how to handle certain situations or feelings, that
they are asking for direct feedback, theories, and ideas. As they
say, take what works and leave the rest.
Barefootgirl,
sorry for the temporary diversion of topic. Back to the more
relevant stuff now. 🙂
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