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inter racial relationship
December 1, 1999
1:14 am
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scootch
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Im a white male and I have a colored girl friend. How do I tell my family I got a colored girlfriend when they will not accept it? Or should I tell them at all?

December 1, 1999
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yesterday I talked to a distressed mom of a grown son. She suspects he might be gay and does not tell her. But she said it upset her more not to be told, than really knowing would. So I'd suggest you tell your family. You might want to consider first wether you choose your partner for, well, partnership reasons or because you want to upset sombody in your family?
Good luck! Eve

December 3, 1999
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scootch,

While I have little experience or knowledge of these situations, I can make assumptions or guesses about what might happen:

1) Upset/alienate your family?
2) Be a sign/source of strength for YOU within your family
3) Be a sign of love, respect, and commitment for your girlfriend
4) Make the relationship more "real", therefore increase its meaning and value for both of you

- SC

December 3, 1999
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Scootch.
Racial prejudice is largely based on fear and ignorance; stereotyping races from the negative aspects that we see on the media doesn't help in overcoming this fear of the differences in the races.

You may find that when your family gets to know your lady, their fears will be dispelled; they may warm to her.

My partner's beautiful daughter is living with a chinese guy. He is a fair dinkum Aussie, just as I am. I have found the cultural differences to be very shallow indeed. Incidentally she is just as well accepted into the guy's family. She uses chopsticks like a professional.

Wow! Just think how you will be helping society integrate by bringing your two families together. The world is too small for us all not to learn how.

Maybe its a case of gently does it for the start though.

April 4, 2000
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First of all don't tell your familly she is colored! She has a name & a name for her race. Neither of which is colored. Sounds like you have some issues with your family other than who you are dating

April 20, 2000
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Give them a chance. Unless you are open and honest how can they grow at all. There may be huge problems but maybe they will suprise you.

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