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Inner Child healing
March 17, 2006
2:02 pm
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thanks for responding back. I bought Bradshaw's book you mention here about five years ago. Strange, I only skimmed it back then and never read it; just keep it for "security" to read some day.

I bought the book while doing counseling with a social work while trying to recognize my inner child and all the hurts of the past. Yet we/I never got much more into inner child work on myself as present life situations had to be dealt with.

I did however do an odd thing back then while trying to find some way to share happiness and playfulness with the inner child work. I bought a couple small bears that the appendages move and some material to sew for them to dress them up. ( did not want to get a "doll" to play with as she suggested, it seemed to strrange to me, so went for the bears as many women have them for collection where I lived. But, that idea got tossed when I found the bear I bought as a prop in an inappropriate picture taking session the ex h was doing for his sick leisure activities. That was sick of him.

Does doll bear colecting seem to be a part of this inner child work? I mean, why else would an adult have or collect these items?

So I should dust off Bradshaw's book and begin to delve into it. Five years ago I was not fully ready nor capable of that inner child stage. This must be the time.

Thank you for sharing with me.


See, guest-guest, it is all a matter of timing, the right time for you and to allow yourself time thru the process. It is all in the journey. The end of the road has not yet come. We are always changing (and evolving, hehehe), so allow and give yourself the time and space you need for the process.

To life!


March 17, 2006
5:12 pm

I'm in so much hurry and girls are passing by, how can I not hurry. Hmm. Hate the loneliness and really want a relationship.

I talked to the psych today, told him how much quickly I want to heal.

I think we have to do this inner child thing in a workshop with others. If you live in a bigger city, try to find if there's any workshops taking place.

March 17, 2006
8:24 pm

I think I got hit big time.

I was depressed when I had called her before. She called back later and said her guy had told her he had heard some rumours and would want to talk to her later.

I had told a friend of mine about her and me before. She asked me if I had told anything anything, I said no, no one except that guy who was my roomate.

I got worried and she told me not to worry and that it might be something else. She said "dont call me" and a silence.

She said she'll call me tomorrow. As whats happened before, she doesnt call when she says she does (cause she might not be feeling like calling).

Well I feel she's basically wanting to run away from me, far away. I can understand. its killing me. I've made my rule not to contact her before Wednesday no matter what. She might not call, she might.

Nothing is working and even this feels like a big rejection. Everything is spirilling down.

So I'm here, with my promise to stick to my rules. I have to follow my rules. If I break them, I'll be disobeying myself. Its very hard for me to stop thinking about this.

But tsk tsk, it had to come to this, that she's telling me not to call her, wow? It seems like that. No one wants to be around low energy people.

The problem is I called her when I was down and in the beginning of any relationship, the guy is usually tough - he hides his weaknesses and puts on a strong tough face. Thats how all relationships work, right? Later on, when the snare is set, the girl is his, he reveals his weaknesses slowly. No wonder there's a more than 50% divorce rate.

Guys have to play it tough in the begining otherwise more "tougher "competition can knock them out of the race. Thats how it is, isnt it?

Everything looks rosy in the beginning and later on everyone reveals their weaknesses.

I wish I was genuinely strong and confident.

March 18, 2006
7:09 pm

ok well I wrote a sorry email to her. I realized today she might have been mad at me. I dont want our friendship to suffer and hey yes, I'm gonna be doing the inner child. Yea I'm trying to drive two cars at the same time, but lets see what happens. I'm for sure keeping my car as first priority.

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