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im still not better and empty inside
April 25, 2006
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I have a good support system when i use it..i work in a fiels where the support for recovery is at every cornor and breath that i take , yet at time i can feel so alone....seems that every year bout this time grief comes and just takes me under...no labe, no real reason that i can account for..however, i find myself searching for aanswers and a place of belonging...as i do this work i find that i haev come to another place of self will run riut again and have been playing god again in my life and the lives of other.....my problem and question is this.....How do you stop playing God ladys.....how do you surrender?

April 25, 2006
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Tina,

Surrender has always been a hard one for me too. Some people in meeting say, "Oh, it's easy, you just let go and let god."

It has never been easy for me. I find I hold on to things until I just can't stand it any longer.

I have gotten better with time, and my tolerance for chaos has gotten lower, meaning I give in quicker than I used to, but I say my # 1 motivator is pain and suffering.

I guess my main reason for this is fear and control. When I feel out of control, an am full of fear, and I stay full of fear worring about being out of control. Either way I go, I am almost always afraid and strive to be in control!!!

I find I often do not surrender a hard situation until the pain of staying in it surpasses the fear of moving out of it, or giving up the fight.

Like I said, I have gotten better, but that has come with slowly getting ME better, all of me, not just this one part.

The best thing that I do for me is be aware of myself, what is going on with me, my feelings, my fears...then I talk about them in therapy, or with my sponsor. Getting it all outside of my head helps me get a new perspective.

Good luck, Tina. How sober are you, by the way?

(((Hugs)))
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April 25, 2006
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Tina, it is best to open just one thread. You will get more responses and it will keep everything organized.

Also, the other side is the support side, where much more people frequest. You may try that side for added support and responses.

Also, late at night like this is usually the slow times, so if you do not get any immediate responses, don't give up...it will be busier in the morning and during the day!

Not trying to be bossy, just some FYI with helpful intentions.

WELCOME!!!!

So nice to meet you,

Free

April 28, 2006
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Tina, surrender is not a one-time act. It it truly "daily dying" to oneself in order for God to fulfill his work within us. It is a willful act of relinquishing my "right" to control the outcome of any situation, and leave it in prayer to God. I do it over and over again, until the burden begins to shift to His shoulders, and I stop going back and moving it back onto mine:)

It takes discipline, a willing heart, a determined mindset, and an obedient spirit. But is the most freeing thing in the world! I fail many times, yet the good news is I always get to start again. God understands our nature (He made us), and He wants to see us mature and grow in Him and His ways! It is good that you are asking this question. Ask Him...He will show you how!

Blessings, Plz~

May 5, 2006
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Tina...

I don't know what your personal belief system is? But I know that whenever I become overwhelmed with depression, fear and anxiety, it is because I have (once again) stopped trusting the Lord to be IN CONTROL of what happens to me and started taking back that burden (frantically trying to find a natural or carnal solution to my problems.) In short, I must remember that fear and depression are the exact opposite of faith and His peace & joy. The devil wants us fearful and "down;" that means we are not believing and trusting in Jesus to intervene and help us.

That's why the God says to us in the Bible that "without faith, it is impossible to please Him." It's true. He wants each of us to turn to him and trust him to "fix it," like a little child would turn to their mom or dad for protection and problem-fixing. Most of us has trouble doing this because our own, flesh & blood parents have failed us in this regard. But He will NOT fail us. It is impossible for Him to fail us.

So, step out on the water and let Him help you. He is right there, waiting to catch you up and see you through your struggles victoriously.

May 10, 2006
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Hi StronginHim...

I loved reading your post. You are so right. It couldn't be put any simpler than that.

I haven't known just how much of my faith to share with other hurting people in this forum. I just started here yesterday. You've helped me.

Would you please read my posts to SCARED? They are under the thread title of: MY MOTHER. Though at times I feel I give good wisdom from the Lord, I am also, at times, insecure enough to ask for feedback.

Thank you and Goc bless you...bob

May 10, 2006
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Hi StronginHim...

I loved reading your post. You are so right. It couldn't be put any simpler than that.

I haven't known just how much of my faith to share with other hurting people in this forum. I just started here yesterday. You've helped me.

Would you please read my posts to SCARED? They are under the thread title of: MY MOTHER. Though at times I feel I give good wisdom from the Lord, I am also, at times, insecure enough to ask for feedback.

Thank you and Goc bless you...bob

May 10, 2006
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Sure...I'll be glad to read what you posted to SCARED.

- Strong

May 10, 2006
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Your counsel to SCARED was great. I especially liked your closing exhortation: "...remember you are made in God's image...not your mother's."

That was powerful. I oughta staple that to my forehead, since I had a very painful relationship with my own mother.

Thanks!

- Strong

May 10, 2006
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Hi Strong...yes you are so very right. Learning here to lean on Him instead of my intellect and emotions...it makes a big difference.

God bless,
omw

May 10, 2006
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every time I slack off with my thoughts and prayers to God, I become weaker, but all i have to do is go back and read his work and talk to him and he takes me back in his arms, no questions asked!

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