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Im kind of an asshole. What do I do?
June 23, 2014
5:17 pm
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Im going into highschool now and I feel like i need change this about myself. Its been pointed out to mee that Im a jerk or an asshole quite a few times. I had just disregarded these remarks earlier but now i am realizing there might be some truth behind those accusations. Lately Ive been noticing how people react to me while im around them. There are some people who are extremely outgoing and are liked by everyone. I am desperately trying to be one of them but its not really working. Whenever I try to fit in  or say something funny it always comes out as something hurtful to someone else. It has become an impulse and I say things(to everyone i talk to) that are really hurtful but they don't seem so at the moment. Only later do i realize what an asshole I am. I have very few friends and i can see that when im around people, they treat me as a burden, like they dont want  to deal with me. Every time im in a new group of people they end up hating me  and as far as i know i have'nt done anything. Ive tried to control what i say but no matter how hard i try i always  end up looking like an asshole, and i don't know what i did; i was just behaving normlly. Im not the most social person, have very few friends, and on top of that, its been pointed out to me by everyone that im a jerk. How can I stop? Please help, I just want to fit in with everybody else and i dont understand whats going wrong. Personal questions are ok.

June 24, 2014
3:51 am
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Dear Poster,

all that you can do is to try to be yourself.  If you are not intentionally saying things to hurt others, then it might be that people do not perceive you for who you really are.  You might not fit into the "norm" because you are very different.  Too bad for those people that refuse to try to see you for who you are because you are different from them.  Unless you are setting out to hurt others, I don't know why you are calling yourself an asshole.  Just be quiet around others and when you can, do what you want that makes you happy so long as it does not hurt others.  Don't try to make others like you or see who you are because it's obvious from your post that they are incapable of seeing which is not your fault.


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June 25, 2014
6:46 am
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Right, just be yourself. Don't try to force yourself for being someone that you're not supposed to be. Anyway, real and true people can accept who you really are and if given the chance, those are friends for keep. If you think you're being too tactless, well saying sorry with sincerity can be of great help cause it's not like you really meant on hurting others with your words but it's just that you're being honest of how you really feel and that's who you are so be natural.

August 16, 2014
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Everybody is different and you cannot please everyone to like you. You see, you only met the real friends who could accept you for who are. When it comes to that quality is better than quantity. They may have been nice to you in front but at your back, they hated you.

September 19, 2014
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sight is more than you can manage and you despise the way that your specialist
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