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I watched someone die this morning
August 12, 2008
11:39 pm
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It was so strange.

My part of campus is just labs, not clinics.

Me and “M” a cardiologist doing a postdoctoral fellowship in my lab were headed down to the basement to get some glassware washed. We got on the elevator at the 3rd floor, our floor.

Already on the elevator was a secretary from downstairs. She was frantic about how the person she was supposed to escort to an MRI study had just collapsed in the lobby.

So of course we got off at the lobby.

The guy was not breathing, and white as a sheet. The radiologist from downstairs already had the auto-defibrillator leads attached to him. “M” jumped in and started CPR, looking through the crash cart for intubation supplies.

The machine gave him several shocks, and “M” really tried, but the guy’s heart just wouldn’t come back online.

Took about 20 minutes for 911 to take effect—National guard and paramedics showed up at the same time. We had like four doctors, the National guard and the paramedics all in each other’s way trying to revive the guy. Like 50 people in the lobby.

After about 40 minutes, they gave up.

His body stayed in the lobby for like five hours after that.

It isn’t unusual that people with serious cardiac problems volunteer for MRI studies at my campus. But we never had anyone code on us before.

Sudden cardiac death.. Just, “bang” and he was gone.

It does kind of bring to the foreground what the significance of the research we (me and everyone in the building) are all doing is about. Cardiovascular disease. How to save people.

It’s been a long time since I saw someone die. Kind of makes me feel...shaky.

George Bush says we are spending too much money researching cardiovascular disease. I disagree.

August 13, 2008
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((((Worried_Dad))))

August 13, 2008
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(((WoriedDad)))

Whatever George Bush!!

August 13, 2008
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Thanks guys.

Just makes me feel. All strange.

Very very strange.

I don't think there is anything wrong with me praying about something like this.

Lots of guys would.

August 13, 2008
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Wow, is all I can say. Thats life. One moment here, the next, gone. Amazing, I mean, everyone's gotta die one day. One day we'll all be gone, poof, like that. How old was he?

What are you praying for, WD?

You're feeling strange because you someone's life came to an end. Its hard, actually about impossible to imagine that happening for ourselves when we're so busy and involved with life.

August 13, 2008
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((((Worried_Dad))))

I don't know what I can say to provide some comfort.

Just know that we hear you and sympathize.

Not that it matters one way or the other, but I feel that if praying helps you in a time like this, then by all means, do so.

tBt

August 13, 2008
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As a minister (and former police chaplain), I have had the opportunity (and -- sometimes --privilege) of being present when many passed from this Life to the Next. Although I have come to peace with it over the years, I still find such moments have a deeply profound and personal impact on me. Death is a reminder of our own mortality, as well as the importance of our values/priorities and our personal faith. And I always experience deep empathy for the grief of those loved ones, left behind.

Because of my faith, I do not fear death when my own time finally comes. However, each death increases my awareness of the frailty and brevity of this Life and the importance of preparing for what lies ahead, as well as preparing my own, precious loved ones for my own departure one day. My own affairs are in order and my nearest and dearest have their own faith that the parting is temporary to sustain them in their grief. That knowledge is a great comfort to me.

I read once that you were considering a future in ministry. Not only is facing death a part of such a calling, but also ministering to the loved ones and acquaintances left behind.

- Ma Strong

August 13, 2008
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((wd)) watching someone die is an awe-inspiring experience and would make anyone think deeply on life and death.
I hope you continue your work.

August 14, 2008
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(((wd)))

That time continuum- alive one moment and not the next....it's just plain freaky.

I wish I knew what to say.

free

August 14, 2008
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((WD)) wow, i never seen anyone die in front of my eyes.

I really don't know what to say except hope you are doing well.

August 14, 2008
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My mom died in my arms..from ovarian cancer.

I know things have to be "tested," et. al. However, there is an approved test in Great Britain that detects ovarian cancer in stage I. It is a test that pricks your finger and tests the blood for protein.

The test has not been approved in the US. Why? I think all the big who-ha companies are trying to get the patent.

Disgusting. When doctors find Ovarian Cancer it is almost always in stage III or IV. My mom was stage IV, my sister was stage III (but survived).

I have no idea how monies are pilfered out...but it is very sad that Bush thinks too much is being spent on research for cardiovascular disease.

August 14, 2008
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I watched my dad die from cancer that was in his brain, his lungs, his organs, just about everywhere. He found out and 6 short weeks later, at about 8pm on a Saturday night he left this world for his reward in Heaven. It's the only time in my life I've witnessed death...and it shook me to the core of who I was. It took me a couple of years before I found my way again. In any case I came away from it with the opinion that there was a miracle in his death, as there was a miracle in both my childrens' birth.

August 14, 2008
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On the day that I went to see a lawyer about filing for divorce, I had stopped over at my parent's house afterwards to pick up my sons..

My neighbor-- my youngest son's godfather- had been walking with a friend of his. They stopped over at his brother's house to sit -- which happens to be next door to my parent's house...

Well, the friend came running over to my parent's house yelling "It's J ... he collapsed..."

Knowing that J is a type1 diabetic, without even seeing him, I told my mother to call 911 and his wife immediately. I grabbed some orange juice and poured sugar in the glass. (His wife used to show me what to do in case he ever went into a diabetic coma)....

I ran over there.... The police car arrived at the same time.

J was slumped over sitting in the chair.

Me, the cop and his friend helped lay him down on the ground. I held his head. I leaned up next to him and told him that it was Me.. told him his wife was on her way.. The last thing he said to me as I was holding him "take care of yourself and those boys".... (knowing that I was about to file for divorce)

As I held him, the cop accessed him. He came with the auto defibulator. He administered CPR.. The ambulance arrived. He later passed away in route to the hospital...

That was definitely a turning point in my life....

At the wake, his brother-in-law stood up and thanked me. He said that I was like a daughter to J.. (He never had children)....

He was a very special man in my life.

When my son was young and needed physical therapy, he was the person I took along for the sessions. For some reason, my son responded to him. They had such a bond.

Then after my second son was born, we asked him and his wife to be the godparents. They were at the hospital after his birth. He had been admitted into the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. Even though they were not immediate family, the hospital allowed for them both to go into the room to see him. I can remember J walking right up to his incubator.. taking his hand and placing it on the incubator.

I still cannot ever get the image of him that day that I saw him sitting there slumped over in the chair.. or me having my hands underneath his head while the cop had listened for breath sounds.

I was so strong that day... but after the ambulance pulled away, I knew that J had passed... I knew it.

His wife called and told us. She thanked me for being the last person that he was with when he passed.

What an honor.

August 14, 2008
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