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I Want to go Back to my Cult....
April 2, 2010
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Worried_Dad
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I miss my "friends" so much.

April 2, 2010
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oh worried-dad. i'm so sorry. i know exactly how you feel. i feel the same about my church that i left a few weeks ago. miss SOME of the poeple.

April 2, 2010
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i bet youd feel better if you went to the Coffeehouse. they have like free food there n the bees are buzzimg in the garden.

April 2, 2010
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Are you drunk or stoned?

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April 3, 2010
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mmm no. are you?

April 3, 2010
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Lol

April 3, 2010
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(((lolli)))

April 4, 2010
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what cult was it? just curious

April 4, 2010
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Lillabit I wasn't asking you, I was asking worried dad!

Often times people seek solace in self medication and when it doesn't bring solace it drives us to seek out exactly that which hurt us in the first place.

Thus the question for wd

April 5, 2010
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((((Lillabit))))

April 5, 2010
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andii. i see. maybe the cult is the self medication.

April 5, 2010
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Ha! So this place has reached cult status?

Cults contain a lot of silent people. They enter, beleiving in the cult authority, and give their full support to that authority. They accept others who yeild to that authority then just mill about taking in all the info, share a meal at the communal table, nod, smile, hug. They discuss the weather and share the appropriate biblical quotations.

They talk a LOT about how horrible everything is "outside"....It's them. The crazy world and it's "people'! Not me!??

If you leave the "cult" it isn't very welcoming if you come back.

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April 5, 2010
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theirs comfort in th communion. people that say they blieve like you do.

April 5, 2010
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Fortunately the moment has passed. I remebered how "friendship" their only exists in the context of submission to the central authority.

April 7, 2010
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I was in one...I understand.

April 7, 2010
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wd

please define "friend"

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April 7, 2010
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oh if you do have friends who are outside the church, oh how they really work that in, they do not come out and say to not associate, at least in mine they didn't....but they did they did infact say that, in so many sublte ways that if you did, you felt as if you were a bad person, I do remember that.

April 7, 2010
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Hi BAREFOOTGIRL. Nice handle.

It's nice to meet another escapee from a cult. I often feel so stupid for having fallen for it. I understand that some serious technology was used on me to cloud my judgement. But still, I cringe when I think how gullible I was.

When I broke with the cult I lost every "friend" I had.

April 7, 2010
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I am sorry WD< what type of technology was used? I can remember when I first went to meet to learn more bout the church or cult or whatever it is...I was shown tapes on how everyone else was wrong on salvation and how only they were correct...today I have no religious afflication and nor do I care ever to have that again, too much stress.

April 7, 2010
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WD

Innuendos aside.Our conflicts aside too.

I recently went into archives and read some of what was happening here back in 2006 ( before i joined) and it was enlightening.

Lots of activity and very intelligent exchange. I feel like I'm parroting some of it and everyone's "bin there done that!" They've graduated AAC_rehab.

I read the GOP thread.

You didn't deserve the direction it took in some parts. Head games is what you got.

I feel for you in your present situation at home. The recent posts you've made are cry for help.

I'm sorry you feel abandoned here.I'm sorry this place has turned into what it is now. Maybe I'm partly to blame? IDK.

This place needs a Psyche_ENEMA!

Hope i'm not tooooooo off base.;0/

Be Well!

April 7, 2010
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Hello MsGuided

Yes, what a rich history I have with this remarkable community.

You are correct.

When I am in distress it is my habit to seek help.

I am not aware that you owe me any apology. I am grateful, even honored that you went to the trouble of reviewing my posting history. I am gratified that your review of my posting history seems to leave you with a somewhat positive view of me as a person. My experience of you is that you have, overall, been a pretty decent and wise, helpful person to me. Thank you for helping me.

You are not responsible for or obliged to apologize for the behavior of this community or any member in it except for yourself.

I am very grateful to this community for saving my miserable life. I have learned a lot here. It's like free college.

April 7, 2010
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WD...I have two friends in life, but for the most part of my life, I had no one, not one, then I had one good friend for about ten years who just up and left me...never heard from her again...I then finally made two friends who are nice enough and have for the most part been good to me...

But for over 40 years, I was pretty much on my own in life, I met my hubby at age 29 and he is good to me and is dependable and kind and is as close as he can be to anyone, but still has a wall and always will I suppose as that is his nature...

I had to learn to be my own best friend in life, I used to cry and try too hard when younger, was very clingy or just too much by myself...I leanred a long time ago to not trust people too much, cause you get hurt, and sadly that is true for the most part too...

You really need to find that inner peace for yourself by yourself, no one else can do that for you or should...not sure if I had explained this right nor not, but its something you can do, something that can give you peace of mind and something worth going for....

But the road there is lonely and sad and often hard to travel, I know, I sometimes reflect on that road and sometimes I still that, but over time it has gotten better, life is like that sometimes....

Things are bad then they are good again...but never remain the same.

April 7, 2010
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Hello andii,

I don't know you very well but boy do you ever ask some hard questions.

You wrote: "please define 'friend.'"

Dang, of all the things I know the definitions of, I have never really truly spelled that one out for myself.

Not withstanding the river of words that wants to come out of my mouth in response to your question, I think it would be better if I told you the truth. The truth is jeez, I dunno.

April 7, 2010
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wd,

You had called them your friends, I was curious as to why.

When I separated from my husband, I really missed him, but I would never, ever call him a friend.

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April 8, 2010
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Hi andii,

Well, they were my friends. We really enjoyed each other's company. We cooked for each other.

When someone had to move we would have a moving party.

We threw surprise birthday partied for each other. We went camping together.

We had music parties together.

We would go camping together.

We attended each other's weddings.

When my girflfriend was being stalked a group of friends banded together to help track the bastard down.

When my child was born my friends were at the hospital--in the delivery room even. And soon after, when me and "D" and tiny "J" were holed up in our nest together my friends delivered food to our door. And they all chipped in to purchase us a year of diaper service.

We tried to help each other with life problems.

Friends.

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