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Hurt People Hurt People
June 29, 2010
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Well,
blow me over with a feather. Craigco and I are going to be nice to
each other 😉

Bitsy

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ahahaha..he's too frikken busy.

In and out like a
minute man. DOH!

( and he knows
what's good for him.LOL)

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I am
exhausted. Tonight my friend Robbie is hurting. If any of you are
around please check in on her on the other side.

Bitsy

June 30, 2010
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Who's
blowin what now??

June 30, 2010
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You're gonna burn, CC. Getting on my knees to pray for you.
~Mary

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A MAN
arrives and look what happens!

Too much estrogen
here anyway,HA!

June 30, 2010
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That
was my ex-husband's solution to everything. Yesterday I was getting
the oil changed and the tires rotated and balanced on my xterra and
Dr. Oz was on tv talking about how so many of us are walking around
with tapeworms and pin worm and it was disgusting and suddenly I
was transported back many years when ex-h used to tell me I needed
a Dr. X's Worm Treatment. yuckapoo ewwww. Is it any wonder I lost
interest in sex with him????

Bitsy

June 30, 2010
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lol @
Bitsy!

July 1, 2010
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Oops,
it was only a question. Just rrying to clarify. hehe Sounds like
your ex knew how to throw on the charm!

M - I'm drowning
in estrogen. Guess I'm going to either sink or swim.

Mary, Lol On your
kness, huh? Way 2 funny! Burn baby burn - disco inferno!

Oh Hi Desty!
Missed your post earlier. Just Alzheimers or some sort of dementia
kickin in. Skewz me!

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Hi
guys. I went on line and found a male massage therapist. He has a
house on the river and does the massages on a screened porch with
the river flowing by. I talked to him and he does Thai massage
maofacial (sp?) massage and a few other thing. I have an
appointment at 3pm today!!!! Lest you guys think I have gone off
for the "happy ending" in the conversation he said something about
being on the way home from the vets office. He and his wife raise
spaniels and they are currently training a lab as a seeing eye
dog.

I can hardly wait.
I really want this tension gone from my neck back arm and
shoulders.

I am just calling
this part of my healing process....

Bitsy

July 1, 2010
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OMG!
The best massage ever! one and a half HOURS. He is a retired
engineer and this is his retirement job. He had me stand and he
looked at how I was holding my hands at my side. He gave me some
breathing exercises to expand my upper chest (don't stick out your
breasts) Gave me suggestions on detoxifying my system. I SWEAR I
could feel things flow out of my muscles. You know how they always
say you have these crystalline things that are toxins along your
muscles. At one point he rolled me into a ball and stretched out my
spine. He kept going back to my feet and lining them up to make
sure they were even. I am like an addict now...I have to find the
money for my next "fix"

Bitsy

July 2, 2010
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I've
been away too long!

Just want to say I
miss and appreciate ALL y'all for all you did for me, when this
site was the most important thing for me too, for a looooooong
time.

Hugs to my
girls!

H-gal

July 2, 2010
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Hello
Honolulugal,

When I first came
here you were very kind to me and helped me a lot. I appreciate
that.

Bitsy

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Hurt
people hurt people. Misery loves company. When I was my most hurt,
I imagined slights where there were none. Now, I have to step back
and see if what I perceive as criticism really is- or if I'm just
being hypersensitive. So, sometimes - I have a delayed reaction.
Sometimes that works ok - like at work, where there's really no
time for all the.... drama, the resolution of issues, hashing it
out. By the time I get around to processing it, the time has
passed. I'm mostly the same way in my personal relationships.
Taking my past hurts into consideration, I mull things over before
I address them.

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Well
put on the kettle and call the dogs!!! Honolulugal has come to
town!!! Good to see you!!!

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Chinadoll,

I walked away
because we didn't have much history. If she's really a good friend,
if the friendship is worth salvaging, there might be a way to break
through her misery. Ask her if anything's wrong and if you can
help. Just don't be surprised if she lashes out again. Don't be
hurt, ya know?

July 3, 2010
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Its
not only hurt people who hurt. Its bad people, often desguising
themselves as hurt people, who do the most damage(I would
think).

How do you tell
the difference.

I have been to the
sites on Narcissism, Malignant N's and all... They seem to be
everywere.

July 3, 2010
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Bitsy,

Thanks again for
this article.

I'm still not
balanced in this area. Before, I used to get really angry and rage.
I worked on getting rid of that behavior. Now I almost question
myself too much so I don't revert back to the rages. I'm looking
forward to the day when I can process this better.

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Hello
guys and dolls, I am glad this thread is still going and that
people are finding healing. Formerly, yes. Bad people intentionally
hurt people, but in some ways they had to be damaged themselves to
turn into the bad people they are.

Lanigirl, I
answered your question on the other side. Not sure if it was a
question or statement, but I told you what I thought.

From Positive
Affirmations for Adult Children of Alcoholics July 5
meditation:

AS A HELPER, I
RECOGNIZE THE HEALING POWER IN ALL,

Every so often,
the enormity and complexity of my work give me the impression that
there is little I can really do to help other people. I may become
frustrated and overwhelmed with the problems of others. And, with
this powerlessness, I may become controlling.

As a helper, I
must not lose sight of the fact that I am not a guru-I am a
catalyst. It is not my job to provide others with "The Answers"/
Rather, I can be a powerful change agent, providing others with
opportunities to discover their own solutions.

When I impose my
beliefs on my clients, I inhibit the growth process. I can and will
allow othrs the dignity of self-discovery. If others disagree or
choose alternatives that I don't agree iwth, I will not become
enraged at their disobedience.

I believe in the
inherent beauty and strength in all human beings, and I will not
assume that I know what is best for everyone. Instead, I will model
decisiveness, strength, security, and inner peace that will
reverberate to those around me.

Wow! Powerful
words for me to hear. Just this week at long time (20years) friend
of mine called with a real estate question. She is an agent with
another company. The company is falling apart and asked the last
agent who earned a commission if they could pay her on
installments. My friend was frustrated with a couple she had been
working with. By the time we got off the phone, I was meeting her
clients to write the offer up myself, knowing my company could pay
the commission, sending her on an interview with another company,
and calling the broker of the other company to tell her my friend
was on the way. How come it is so much easier to fix other peoples
problems rather than our own?

Bitsy

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Just
wanted to bum this up for anyone who may not have seen today's
post. The first post are the most important in my
opinion.

Be well everyone.
Goodnight.

Bitsy

July 5, 2010
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I am
so depressed about the oil, the economy, everything. I am sorry,
but I've nothing left to give...

Bitsy

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Yes
you do, a great deal.

Every time you
separate your garbage and use the recycle bin you are giving. Every
time you purchase items from companies that use recycled material
you are giving. When you take the time to drive items to a thrift
store instead of puting in the trash for the landfills, you are
giving. When you sign petitions (you signed the anti whaling
petition Bitsy and we son!!!), you are giving. Every time you pick
up trash plastic aluminum and cigarette butts when at the beach or
park, when you dispose of paint and used oil appropriately, when
you head to the polls to vote, you are giving.

so much more, that
seems so small, we can do, and we are giving. You might not have 5
million dollars to purchase a boat like the Bob barker for the Sea
Shepherd Crew, you might not have the authority to clean up the oil
spill.

But you've a great
deal to give.

Those who don't
care, those who throw in the towel and stop caring, they take,
because the world suffers the loss of all they have to
give.

(((Bitsy)))

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Thank
you Andii, I just can't describe what it does to me that I feel
like no one cares about the oil gushing. I was online reading some
of the news sites and people are still blaming George Bush for
this. By tht logic we need to go back and blame Bill Clinton, Bush
1, Reagan, Carter, Ford, Nixon, etc. I just want to go bang my head
against a wall. I am so frustrated. DO SOMETHING.

Bitsy

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That
was a great post, andii. What do I do? I give my old clothes to
nursing homes. If they're too messed up, I save the buttons, and
try to save what fabric I can to put in a quilt.

There is no
recycling pick-up here. We have to drive our cans to the can man. I
save soup (tin) cans and take them out there, too. They bring in
around the same amount as soda cans. If I pick something in a
plastic container, I look at the container to see if it can be
re-used. Kibbles n Bits have a great plastic gallon container with
handles. I use them to store water in, give some of them to
WranglerB to scoop chicken feed out of the bins. Some lunch meat
and cheeses come in plastic tubs that have lids, so I use those
over and over, cause I carry my meals to work. Taking a lesson from
my Gramma, I save bread wrappers to use as baggies. That saves me
money, and helps the earth a little. I re-use jars. I make salsa
and use them to store it in.

I don't litter. I
quit using so much bleach. It's little stuff, but done
collectively, it can make a difference.

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Thanks guys for helping me out of a low spot. I went and logged
on to Flylady and started getting my house in order. Not as bad as
I thought it was.

I am going to get
back on my realage meal plan. I feel kind of bloated from the past
few weeks.

I guess I was just
having one of those "glass is half empty" moments.

Bitsy

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