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1:45 pm
September 30, 2010
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I have learned in life to pay attention to anyone that I am attracted to who I think needs to be controlled or I think needs to be set straight. In the name of self care I realize that if I allow myself to be drawn to someone like that then the person who needs some self control and straightening out is me.
Being serious about my recover means not choosing to engage with unhealthy people. Once I choose to engage it is proof that I am as bad off as they are.
1:46 pm
September 30, 2010
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Bitsy- I love your brand new attitude. Your positive vibes are having a good affect on me today.
2:31 pm
September 24, 2010
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yea. I love Bitsy's new shtuff 2.
Well i think she just had to dig it up, got tired a few times, then resumed.
"I can handle critisism with EASE"
That mantra is an excellent tool.
I like all of your new Shtuff.Hep, Destiny also
U both have dealt with situations in your lives that were harming you. YEAY!
( My shtuff here? not so much that i engaged at that length. I felt REALLY attacked)
All i can say is I'll try to do better next time.
Be Well!
3:07 pm
September 29, 2010
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I felt it for you too, MsG.
There's a grey area between "setting someone straight" and "accountability".
Like your Mantra MsG. I'm stealing it.
4:23 pm
September 27, 2010
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Dudettes, Good stuff.
Came home for luch today & am waiting for my son whom Im working with this week to finish up & then it's back to work. Had some time to kill so thot I'd check in.
Yea Bitsy - this new attitude sure looks good on ya.
Had a store clerk who came across as a bit short with me yesterday so I responded in kind. Didn't need to tho I realize. Guess I took it personal which of course I shouldn't have. It was her 'shite' as they'd say & not really about me. My son was there with me & saw my being curt as inappropriate & afterward told me so. I responded by defending my position but ultimately realized my mistake. He was right & I knew it inside. Somewhat humbling but ultimately it feels good to just own my part in the exchange & fess up.
It might sound petty in the whole scheme of things but thot it was an important reminder for me to just strive to be decent when dealing with others. Who knows what they are experiencing in life, We're only human & bound to make mistakes. Hmm..reminds me of the lyrics to that Rick Ross song - 'I'm only human'.
Later kids - be well!
4:45 pm
September 24, 2010
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Hey CC . Good to see ya drop in.
My son puts me in check at times too.hehe
I wonder how he'll be at my age? I hope he has kids to set him straight too.
Later dude. ;0)
6:52 pm
September 27, 2010
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Yup I felt for you too MsG. That was pretty gnarly. You done good! (taking lessons here) Glad your boat is still right side up!
🙂
7:01 pm
September 24, 2010
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yea andii U jester!?
U don't want to go there or use the lesson.I would understand if the same thing happened to u tho.
I've been bailing my entrails out of that boat most of the day. It takes a while to hoist the sails and get back up to speed.
7:44 pm
September 30, 2010
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MsGuided- Thank you.
Hi Craig co.
7:49 pm
September 27, 2010
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Well, blow me over with a feather. Craigco and I are going to be nice to each other 😉
Bitsy
8:38 pm
September 24, 2010
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ahahaha..he's too frikken busy.
In and out like a minute man.
DOH!
( and he knows what's good for him.LOL)
11:09 pm
September 27, 2010
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I am exhausted. Tonight my friend Robbie is hurting. If any of you are around please check in on her on the other side.
Bitsy
3:30 am
September 27, 2010
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Who's blowin what now??
7:11 pm
September 29, 2010
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You're gonna burn, CC. Getting on my knees to pray for you. ~Mary
7:32 pm
September 24, 2010
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A MAN arrives and look what happens!
Too much estrogen here anyway,HA!
10:01 pm
September 27, 2010
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That was my ex-husband's solution to everything. Yesterday I was getting the oil changed and the tires rotated and balanced on my xterra and Dr. Oz was on tv talking about how so many of us are walking around with tapeworms and pin worm and it was disgusting and suddenly I was transported back many years when ex-h used to tell me I needed a Dr. X's Worm Treatment. yuckapoo ewwww. Is it any wonder I lost interest in sex with him????
Bitsy
11:58 pm
September 27, 2010
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lol @ Bitsy!
12:31 am
September 27, 2010
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Oops, it was only a question. Just rrying to clarify. hehe Sounds like your ex knew how to throw on the charm!
M - I'm drowning in estrogen. Guess I'm going to either sink or swim.
Mary, Lol On your kness, huh? Way 2 funny! Burn baby burn - disco inferno!
Oh Hi Desty! Missed your post earlier.
Just Alzheimers or some sort of dementia kickin in. Skewz me!
3:27 pm
September 27, 2010
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Hi guys. I went on line and found a male massage therapist. He has a house on the river and does the massages on a screened porch with the river flowing by. I talked to him and he does Thai massage maofacial (sp?) massage and a few other thing. I have an appointment at 3pm today!!!! Lest you guys think I have gone off for the "happy ending" in the conversation he said something about being on the way home from the vets office. He and his wife raise spaniels and they are currently training a lab as a seeing eye dog.
I can hardly wait. I really want this tension gone from my neck back arm and shoulders.
I am just calling this part of my healing process....
Bitsy
8:00 pm
September 27, 2010
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OMG! The best massage ever! one and a half HOURS. He is a retired engineer and this is his retirement job. He had me stand and he looked at how I was holding my hands at my side. He gave me some breathing exercises to expand my upper chest (don't stick out your breasts) Gave me suggestions on detoxifying my system. I SWEAR I could feel things flow out of my muscles. You know how they always say you have these crystalline things that are toxins along your muscles. At one point he rolled me into a ball and stretched out my spine. He kept going back to my feet and lining them up to make sure they were even. I am like an addict now...I have to find the money for my next "fix"
Bitsy
3:19 am
September 30, 2010
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I've been away too long!
Just want to say I miss and appreciate ALL y'all for all you did for me, when this site was the most important thing for me too, for a looooooong time.
Hugs to my girls!
H-gal
7:09 am
September 27, 2010
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Hello Honolulugal,
When I first came here you were very kind to me and helped me a lot. I appreciate that.
Bitsy
11:11 am
September 30, 2010
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Hurt people hurt people. Misery loves company. When I was my most hurt, I imagined slights where there were none. Now, I have to step back and see if what I perceive as criticism really is- or if I'm just being hypersensitive. So, sometimes - I have a delayed reaction. Sometimes that works ok - like at work, where there's really no time for all the.... drama, the resolution of issues, hashing it out. By the time I get around to processing it, the time has passed. I'm mostly the same way in my personal relationships. Taking my past hurts into consideration, I mull things over before I address them.
11:12 am
September 30, 2010
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Well put on the kettle and call the dogs!!! Honolulugal has come to town!!! Good to see you!!!
11:23 am
September 30, 2010
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Chinadoll,
I walked away because we didn't have much history. If she's really a good friend, if the friendship is worth salvaging, there might be a way to break through her misery. Ask her if anything's wrong and if you can help. Just don't be surprised if she lashes out again. Don't be hurt, ya know?
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