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Hurt by him
January 22, 2008
5:37 pm
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For 5 years straight, I prayed prayers from the book "The Power of A Praying Wife"
by Stormy O'martian, several times a day, every day.

Finally, one day out of total frustration and desparation I prayed: "God, why won't you help me help him?" God answered me for the first time without a doubt in my mind.

He said:"Yu can't help him,you can't fix him, help yourself" Being the typical co-dependant that I am...I stopped praying!

Needless to say, things got worse and worse.
It probably took another 8 years before I began praying for the strength and courage to walk away from him and even then,it took 3 tries before I got away for good. And now it's only been 5 months. But I know that I will die if I ever let him back in my life!

The point is, I didn't like what God was telling me! I wanted God to fix him so we could be together. However, that wasn't God's plan. That wasn't an option.

It's confusing to me, because I know it wasn't by accident that we were put together...it was all part of a bigger picture...my ex is who brought me to Christ!

I pray for my ex. I hope God has a plan for him too. He's a sick,angry,violent man and he has lived an extremely self-destructive life. But he needs to let God help him!

Whoever said God works in mysterious ways wasn't kidding!

I hope this will help you sort out the confusion.

God Bless! bbc

January 24, 2008
9:32 pm
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Dear BBC,

I am struggling with the same thing. I keep asking God (and Patrick) to fix himself so we can fix us. I feel som bad sometimes I just feel like I am going to die and I compulsively go to see him. We are living apart and have been apart after only 8 weeks married. I thought that we were so happy and I was on cloud nine until he said, after 6 weeks he felt he made a mistake. He still loves me, its him, blah blah blah. My codependency issues are out of control and he is just beginning to get counseling for his. My counselor says to stay away from him. His counselor hasn't said much about us yet. He continues to say he is working towards fixing him so there can be an us but each time he says it there is less conviction and I keep pushing for some affirmations that I am not waiting for nothing. I couldn't DO anything about a divorce yet anyway. I am not ready. I am married but have no marriage. I could use some insite. Thank you.

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