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how do you explain death to a child
March 3, 2009
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Last Wensday my mother in law passed away. As if there wasnt enough struggle in our relationship we are now trying to cope with the loss of a mother. And I have to say it is very hard times right now. The shape that we found her in will last in our memories i guess forever. We were very close and she thought our children hung the moon. My son is only 4 and very confused right now. I feel like a terrible mother and have no idea how to explain this to him. We let him stay at the visitation for only a few hours till my mom could come and get them and he thinks that nannie is asleep. Why wont she wake up mommy? I had made the mistake of telling her that she was in heaven with Jesus before the funeral and afterwards he said no shes not shes right here. The nite she died he asked me did Jesus have a phone? He is so little and I feel like Im making so many mistakes already. I dont know how to answer his questions. The death was such a sock to us all we are still trying to answer our own questions. My husband is really taking it hard. He lost his father several years ago to cancer. Tell you the truth it was a lot easier then than now because we were prepared for the death. We are both so exausted and still have her house to clean. We start to dose off and something jolts us back awake. My little boy is verry confused and I was just wondering does anyone have any thoughts on explaining that nannie is not coming back?

March 3, 2009
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I am so sorry for your loss sweetheart what I would do I have a 2, 5 and 6 yearold is tell them that yes grandmas body is here but her spirit is with Jesus and she is happy there. I havent been in that situation so I have no idea what he would ask yet or if that even helps but just explain that its our spirit that brings us to life. Sorry if im not any help ((((Wifemother)))

March 3, 2009
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If you beleive in god then maybe visit a nearby church and ask a priest for help and guidance.

Or look online.

Google "How to explain death to a child"

I found this and there's more sites

http://www.hospicenet.org/html.....lking.html

I'm not experienced with this but i hope this helps a bit ((wifemother))

March 3, 2009
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In addition to the other posts, I think you are doing well with the explanations. I also think it's okay to answer the questions he asks and hopefully, paint a happy picture of where the grandparents are right now. My sincere condolences to you and your family!! Hang in there!!

March 3, 2009
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It feels like my life our life is just crumbling away. My husband just laid on top of the casket and bawled. His siblings havent been much help as far as taking care of her and still arent much help. We have already told them we dont want to go back to her house without everyone else being there to help clean and get rid of things but they just act like its our responsiblity to do it weather or not they are there. I just wish it was over with so we could move on from here. The hard part is still to come.

March 3, 2009
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((((WifeMother))))

March 3, 2009
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Thanks for all the support. My husband is at work right now and I have occupied my time today until now. Lack of sleep and every thing else has turned us into zombies or something. I am trying really hard to be patient with the kids but noise runs through me. I feel like I am constantly yelling at the kids and its not their fault. Kids will be kids and play and make noise. My husbands the same way just any little thing and he jumps through the roof.

March 3, 2009
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is there anyone that can watch them so that you can have a nap?

March 3, 2009
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My mother helps when she can. She was a huge help during the funeral with them. I...we dont sleep much anyway

March 3, 2009
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((((WifeMother))))) Things will get better sweetheart.

March 3, 2009
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Thanks Randomwomen2,
I have to pick up my husband soon I will try to post later on. You guys keep us in your prayers...if you do with out friends it wwoould be imposible

March 3, 2009
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You and your family are in my prayers sweetheart

March 3, 2009
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I have been through the death of two grandfathers with my daughter who is now 11. The first time she was 6 and the second time 10.

We talked about how sick Pop had been all of her life on the first one. He is now in heaven with a healed body and he is playing with our dog that we lost the year before.

When Papa died last year I was next to worthless, as it was my father. Cat had dealt with death before and had a better understanding. It upset her more the second time. She became worried that something would happen to her dad or me.

Did Nannie have a pet that died or could you explain that Nannie went to heaven to be with Grandpa?

I hope the following words help you as they did me. *BLATANT PLAGERISM*

From the Marianist Mission: I AM FREE

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free
I'm following the path God laid for me. I took God's hand when I heard the call. I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day to laugh, to love, to work, or play. Tasks left undone must stay that way. I found that place at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void, Then fill it with remembered joy. A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss. Ah yes, these things, I too, will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow. I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow. My life's been full, I've savored much, Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch.

Perhaps my time seemed all too brief; don't lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your heard and share with me- God wanted me now, God set me free.

Bitsy

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