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hey tump...r u around?
August 27, 2007
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Thank you tump...Twas a bad day and a bad night. I am trying to pump myself up for the hectic day that lies ahead.

August 27, 2007
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((((((((((GG))))))))))
((((((((((BEV))))))))))

August 28, 2007
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GG -

I guess that old man is being all nice today? You are in my thoughts this evening. Hope you have a good day tomorrow. (((Rouxlady)))

August 28, 2007
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Yes Tump, he is being nice as expected. I stayed to myself though because I was exhausted after last night and then a hectic day. Yet now it is after 2:00 a.m. and I am up. I woke about 30 min. ago to a dream and I am trying to relax and return to sleep before the alarm strikes at 5:40 a.m. Thank you for thinking about me; it means a LOT.

I have been thinking about you too and hope your life is running smoothly.

Miss you tump...

August 29, 2007
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Tump, just wondering how the problem with the squatters is going and how you are doing?

gg

August 29, 2007
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Roux

The sheriff went and talked to them, and there was no sign of them this weekend. I am hoping for the best. At worst, they are only showering, they never steal anything. But- STILL.

I'm doing ok. Niceman got back from out of town, and spent the night last night. Yesterday was like my Friday- I have these two days off. I want to go ahead and work all the hours they are willing to give me, at least 2 days a week, until the positions are filled.

I am tired today, trying to get things straightened up here. I have an appointment with the therapist tomorrow, and I am going to leave extra early in case that damned train is running through town when I get to that last town before the one the clinic is in.

How about you?

August 29, 2007
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Tump,

"But-STILL"...Yea, I understand. This is just not right, still an intrusion.

Enjoy your drive to the therapist tomorrow. On the whole, do you feel good about talking there?

I am back to the hectic work life, paperwork, paperwork!!! I am going to the therapist on the 6th to mainly discuss my marriage. I was sleeping so well the last few weeks, but not anymore. I hope that gets better real soon.

August 29, 2007
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Rouxlady,

I'm sorry you are not sleeping well. Do you reckon that's because of school, or the friction with your husband?

How did the transpo situation work out? Are you carpooling and walking? OR was there a compromise?

I feel better about talking to her. Less awkward. I'm kind of looking forward to it. I like the drive back. The lake is not up anymore, not up to the bridge on the highway like it was in June. I have been stopping at little stores, just to look around. Taking my time on the way back. If I cry during my appt? Mess up my mascara? I just go in anyway - those folks don't know me. I know that might sound silly, but it's kind of liberating.

August 29, 2007
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Tump,

I think my not sleeping well is because of my marriage and the impending trip to Houston. I guess my mind doesn't shut off when I am sleeping???

The transpo situation, not the best. We had a huge fight, biggest one ever over this. I got the car, but it turned out to be a hassle because I wouldn't get home until an hour later because I had to go and pick him up after work. Also, he had nowhere to go for lunch. So, he actually got to change his hours from 7:30-4:30. He drops me off at the carpool, has a car for lunch, and picks me up at Lowe's. The problem is that I have to wait for 25 min. and it is hot! It is the best sitz for us now. My son maybe able to buy his own car in Dec., and my h might take his. This is what I am hoping for. Right now I don't have enough alone time. I don't like to talk in the a.m. Sorry if I was too detailed.

I am glad you enjoy your drive to the therapist; that is probably therapy in itself. What you wrote about being silly? That is not silly, that is great! Glad to hear you bought some nice things for yourself too!

(((tump)))

August 29, 2007
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Rouxlady,

This is too bad about Lowe's. Can you go in, stroll and "window shop"? When you need something, like light bulbs, or anything for the house, you could buy it there, so the storepeople will consider you a customer. There are home improvement and how- to magazines you could pretend to read until your husband gets there, and it would be cooler. The only other thing I can think of for you is a pink parasol to block the sun!!

I bought a new comforter set, sheets, lamps for my bedroom. The comforter is satin-ish, big huge patchwork squares of gold, claret, wine and chocolate brown. I got the carpet shampooed in there today and the mattress turned- got it all pretty. Now I am going to look for some great big chocolate brown cushions, and also look around for a good deal on a comforter set for the full-size bed in the spare room. See, I am hoping real hard that the girl puppy is through with her chewing / nibbling phase. I got my kitchen table cleaned off, ironed, folded clothes, and cleaned out my car today. I'm so tired!! But now? I can let things go again!!

Maybe something will come through for you in this transpo situation. I hate it for you that it is so hot - get inside that building and pretend you are trying to decide on what toilet to buy.

(((Roux)))

August 29, 2007
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Tump, I do go in and window shop, pick out future paint samples, etc. With the stuff I carry, I get tired and need to sit and there is a bench near the garden dept. outside. I kind of rotate inside/outside. I don't like the sitz, but I guess it is the best for now and it could always be worse.

The bedroom stuff sounds so pretty! A new bedspread is a definite pick-me-up for me. I love brown! Sounds like you had a very productive day today. Good for you!

August 30, 2007
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Hoping here that therapy went okay for you today...(((tump)))

August 30, 2007
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Rouxlady

Thank you for asking. Therapy was different today. I've felt really bad since the appointment, and I'm trying to figure it out.

But I'm not going to figure it all out tonight, but I did want to thank you for asking. And for being my friend.

(((GG)))

August 30, 2007
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Just butting in here to say hello to you BEV and to you also GG...

Things have been stressful around here. Financial difficulties since the alimony and child support that was garnished had temporarily been discontinued which cannot be done without a court order.... SO I have missed two and possibly three payments..

I did not mention to him anything about not getting the money. I am sure that he expects me to mention it.. However, I cannot handle anymore stress because this man will take it out somehow on the boys and that is NoT fair to them.

My alimony ends next month according to my divorce agreement. Therefore, once that ends, I am going to go back to court to increase the child support. I do not have any other choice.

I had asked him if it was possible for me to bring the kids to him in the morning so that he could take them to school while I get to go into work earlier to get more hours. Know what his response was? Are you asking me or telling me... and then said that there are days that HE has to go into work earlier so he said he will let me know.
More than likely, he will make it where I cannot go in early. He will be scheduled 8-4:30pm so that even if he does get in work earlier than usual (he usually starts at 8:30 am and the kids go to school at the same time frame), he won't get out early enough to watch them after school either........ so basically, I will be screwed... that is nothing new.. This has been a battle since we separated and divorced.. and Yet he will whine and say that he does not get to do everyday things with the boys like take them to school....

That is why it is so difficult for me to get a teaching assistant job to get my feet back into teaching.. even that would be a good start for me. however, I cannot find anyone to watch them before and/or after school., and he would not pay for the child care expense. That is another provision that I want to mention in my motion papers to the judge.. for him to pay at least half of that expense if and when I do get child care...

This is how passive aggressive this man is: when he had the boys the other night he told the boys that he had a suprise for them. he said that he would pick them up after work the next night which was MY TIME with them. He never mentioned any of this to Me .. I heard it from my sons,. I did confront him and I told him that it was ok for them to go but if he ever wants to spend more time with them, to TELL ME FIRST.. THis way if I did in fact have something planned, I could just tell him that they could not make it... instead of having to tell the boys and them becoming not only disappointed but also it makes me look like the bad guy.... yup, passive aggressiveness.......

well, thanks for listening to me vent..

I love ya both

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((BEV)) ((GG))

August 30, 2007
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Tump, Sorry you are feeling bad after your appointment. Sometimes it takes relaxation and time to help sort it all out...best of luck!

Need, I see slugshit is living up to his name. Is it possible for you to get a t.a. job at the same school with your sons so they could go in with you and stay afterward w/you? There are some here at my school that do that. Take care as things have to work out somehow, maybe not how we plan though. Take care!!!

Love, gg

August 31, 2007
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I wish that there were some positions at my school for me to be able to go in at the same time and leave at the same time. I live in a very small town and the school has even hired three teachers that live here and two of which even went to this school as a student!!!

As far as slugshit, well, that exactly is what he is... the passive aggressive man that chooses to live his life on NOT DOING SOMETHING>..

Fortunately my parents have been very supportive and generous. They are going to be going on a trip for a month out west. Before they leave, they have managed to pay my rent for the month, gave me some money to pay some of the immediate bills that are due.. and some cash to have on hand for emergencies. I have not been this bad financially in a long time but unfortunately, things have been adding up... and hopefully work will give me some more hours and slugshit will have to pitch in and take the boys to school for me..
He saw my mother walking the other day and stopped. He said that I told him that they were going away for a month and she said yes, and he then said "so SHE only needs my help for a month".... What a rat! I cannot believe that he just ASSUMES that my parents will have to pick up his slack and take care of these kids. I know that my mother does not mind watching the boys when she can but she cannot commit to being here all the time to do so.. nor did i ever expect or demand that she does..

Sometimes I just wonder if it ever will be different with him? I doubt it cause he has been this way and has not made any efforts at all to make things easier for me which affects these boys as well.. He does not comprehend this at all.. THis is a man that when they first garnished his wages, he purposely cut his hours at work so that I would get a different amount of money each week. This continued for months. Then I finally talked to the probation officer who was in charge of my case and he called slugshit and told him that he still had to make up the difference in the amount of money that he was shorting me each week. Turns out that when he filed his income tax, it was automatically deposited into my account.. He thought that he was getting away with it, and he failed. ANd when he complained to me, I just told him that this was the set amount that HE AGREED to in the divorce proceedings.

It will all be okay..

Hope all is well with you and your family. How is school going? The boys first day is next Thursday. They have an annual first day of school parade. Since my town is so small, the families gather and we parade around town with signs that the kids make. It's a cool idea. I like this principal. She comes up with some good ideas that can get the families more involved with the kids.
My youngest, who is entering 2nd grade, is going to have the same teacher that he had for pre-k and kindergarten. She is a wonderful teacher. She incorporates the environment into her classroom. He really loves her a lot and feels so comfortable with her.. THis is a plus for him this year.
My oldest is entering 5th grade where he is going to be changing classes for different subject areas. He has an in-class support special ed teacher as an aide in the room during language arts and reading. He will continue to get pulled to the resource room for math and still has the same teacher that he has had since getting the resource room since 2nd grade.
He is looking forward to school. His confidence is better this year. I think having his godmother last year as his teacher helped him a lot in gaining the confidence that he has needed and helped boost his self-esteem.

take care
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September 1, 2007
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Thinking of you tump! (((bev)))

September 2, 2007
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Rouxlady,

Thanks for thinking of me. I've been either preoccupied or busy this week. It's a Holiday Weekend and everyone is out hurting themselves and coming to ER to get treated. So- I have been busy.

I still have alot of stuff going on with me, and I needed to kind of back away and inward to process alot of it.

How have you been?

September 2, 2007
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I have been busy with school and my thoughts. There just seems to be so much to process.

Don't work too hard tump!

September 2, 2007
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Rouxlady

I just woke up and saw your post. Surely you aren't doing schoolwork this weekend? If so- what a dedicated teacher you are! Please tell me you aren't doing schoolwork, and are having some kind of recreation this holiday.

I miss you. Maybe I can post tomorrow morning when I get home from work. Maybe (Wishful Thinking) tonight when I get to work and there's nothing to do. HA!

I hope that old man of yours is being nice to you.

(((GG)))

September 2, 2007
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No Tump, no schoolwork...I did TONS of that during the week. As for the weekend, I dislike holidays.

Today was nice as all my children were here for lunch. Now they are all gone and I am enjoying the peace. My h is being very nice, but he said something VERY rude last night. My son was lying on the couch at the time and said, "Dad, why do you have to be so mean?"

Hope tonight is a little easier for you... (((tump)))

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Roux

Last night was not easier, but it's over!! But not over when I wanted it to be. At 6 this morning, the back-up call tech called in to tell me he was sick. My relief got there at 7, but there was no one to cover the OR cases and the department, so I stayed until 11, when another tech came in. If it hadn't been this one particular tech, (I have worked with him in 2 other hospitals during the last 7 years) I might not have done it. I called every employee, and no one would even answer the phone! Not that I blame them, it's a holiday. Anyway- 16 hours. It was hard to stay awake to drive home.

It's good to hear you spent time with your family, even though Himself was actin up. (Himself! That's what Nana called Grampa when she was mad at him).

It's back to work for you tomorrow, huh?

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Wow tump, 16 hours...that had to be tough. Yep, back to work tomorrow, caught up on some sleep too.

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Rouxlady

Well, I am back from the real world. I have had to get caught up on things that I have procrastinated, but I think- I'm done. I start me last semester Monday, and I didn't want anything hanging over my head. I got all those mandatory CEUs knocked back for a little while, and I am out of danger with those. Yeehaww!!

I haven't been contemplating things too much. I needed a break from all the thinking. Know what I mean?

What have you been up to?

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Rouxlady, I have come up with an idea on how to handle the Squatter/intruder people- I got this suggestion today

HOW TO INSTALL A HOME SECURITY SYSTEM IN THE SOUTH:

1. Go to a secondhand store and buy a pair of men's work boots, used, size
14-16.

2. Place them on your front porch, along with a copy of Guns & Ammo
Magazine.

3. Put a few giant dog dishes next to the boots and magazine.

4. Leave a note on your door that reads:

Hey Bubba, Big Jim, Duke and Slim:

I went for more shotgun shells and to pick my check up from the
slaughterhouse.

Back in an hour. Don't mess with the pit bulls-- don't know what got into
them, but they attacked the mailman this morning and messed him up real
bad. I don't think Killer took part in it but it was hard to tell from all the blood.

Anyway, I locked all four of 'em in the house. Better wait out here on the porch.

"Cooter"

I wonder if that would work?

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