Avatar
Please consider registering
guest
sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register
Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Match



Forum Options



Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
sp_TopicIcon
Go ahead, diagnose us
January 2, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
bevdee
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 259
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Well
put on the kettle and call the dogs, G_dude showed up,
too!!

January 2, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
bevdee
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 259
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Ok,
so my mom's refusal to pick up my aunt till her sugar was low
enough was brilliant. It worked, and the doctor recommended
intermediate care. Within three days, her sugar was down to 119,
and her gait was steadier. Trudy discovered that there are some old
friends from church there, as permanent residents. She has people
to talk to! She is able to concentrate on the dietary info they are
giving her.

She'll be out in a
couple of weeks.

January 2, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
bevdee
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 259
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Mom
has been sent, by Trudy, to the house to get personal belongings.
She has had to go in Trudy's room, and guess what?

She's a hoarder.
She found about 300 grocery bags stuffed behind the dehumidifier,
and around 100 cups from jello pudding. In the bathroom. I told her
to call the show, but she said, "I'd die first". Lol. I still
giggle when I really shouldn't. Patty's husband started on the
basement, where Trudy does her painting and sculpting. He found
maybe 50 soda can cardboard boxes. She saves these to collect
sticks from the yard in, then throws them in the dumpster. It
camoflauges the sticks. The trash pickup won;t take sticks, you
see. She gets over on somebody. lol.

January 2, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
Hepburn
Los Angeles, California
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 104
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Wow
bevdee. I've been reading along. Who knew your mother had some
pretty good ideas, huh?

Hoarders are very
interesting people. I only watched that show once, and that's all I
could take. My neighbor across the street from me is
one.

Well glad to hear
Trudy is go'n in.

January 3, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
CraigCo
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 39
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Gg -
are you lurking? Sucks that you haven't yet solved you nasal issues
yet.

What's the 'lose
15 lbs' thing about?

January 3, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
guest_guest
Guest
Guests

hi
Craig, yea. I cant believe it, but the congestion is still there.
Made this long trip and did all that to get the best surgeon to fix
it but its still there.

I still needed the
surgery. Its just disappointing that my main complaint hasnt been
solved. I'm gonna see the doctor again tomorrow. Yup it
sucks.

For the first few
days it was great. I slept real well and it was just amazing to be
able to sleep and dream.

The weight thing,
well, this is all started when I gained weight after I stopped
being a student and got a job. I started eating and gained 30 lbs.
That might be the reason. I'll have to try to lose 15 lbs to see
how things go.

January 3, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
bevdee
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 259
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Oh
G_dude, fess up, it's the Whoppers!!

I'm sorry the
surgery didn't cure you. Have you had a full allergy
screening?

January 3, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
bevdee
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 259
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Hey
Miss Hepburn,

It took me a
couple of beats to realise what Mom was doing. At first, I thought
she was just fed up with her sister, but as of last night, she is
helping her all she can. But she is making Trudy take tests!! lol.
(She's a retired teacher!!) Quizzing her as they learn about
glycemic index best foods, etc. She's making her work for it. But,
she is eating each evening meal with her, having the same food, so
she doesn't have to do it alone. And, that's kinda cool.

for
her.

The best part of
this, for me, is that I can see is that Mom stated boundaries. I
really don't think any of this would have happened until she had to
draw the line with my sister, who rehabbed from crack 3 years ago.
She still drinks, and manipulates people for money, attention. MY
sister. Mom finally drew the line, and won't let Sissy run all over
her.

It's been hard to
hear about and watch my mom go through this, without saying much. I
did it while Sissy was still on crack. I stopped taking her calls.
I stopped sending money, gifts that she could return for money, or
handmade gifts that she wouldn't take care of. Daddy was next, but
Mom was last. I spose moms usually are.

ANyway, it's been
an eye opener, especially the way my Aunt Patty lit into my mom
when it seemed like she was backing out of the game. Patty freaked
out.

January 3, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
bevdee
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 259
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Also,
the fact that I could state the boundary with my mom, and her
volunteering me... she accepted that, so she has learned to respect
a boundary, as well as stating one. 5 years ago, that would have
been huge drama in itself. "Oh Bevdee said she won't help those who
won't help themselves" or "Why are you trying to do me
in?"

Seriously. This
might seem like such a small thing, but it's really not. She also
accepted my apology for raising my voice when I sad "NO",
graciously, not injuriously, like she did in the past. The world
has tilted on its axis. lol. a little.

January 3, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
Hepburn
Los Angeles, California
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 104
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Wow.
Well, as long as the Polar Ice Caps don't melt. HA

Seems like a lot
of progress has been made. Not sure why this is but, because I'm a
mother things that happen with my kids are put on a different
level. When things happen with my sister or another family member,
it cuts very close to home. I think it puts ME back as the child or
sibling.

One would think it
would be that way when things happen with my kids. It's just
different. I don't know how to explain it. But your mother having
to deal with her sisters has reminded her of where HER place is in
her family dynamic.

January 3, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
guest_guest
Guest
Guests

hi
bevdee, thanks for that suggestion. I had a simple allergy test,
testing a few things. I'll ask the doctor about a "full allergy
test".

Yea well Whoppers,
why didnt I think of that!

I'll do anything
for good sleep. I'm on a mission now, I'm going to get this done, I
dont care what it takes. I'm gonna keep going.

January 3, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
CraigCo
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 39
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Gg -
are you lurking? Sucks that you haven't yet solved you nasal issues
yet.

What's the 'lose
15 lbs' thing about?

January 4, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
CraigCo
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 39
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I've
got adult ADD.

January 4, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
CraigCo
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 39
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I've
got...wait a minute! Di say that already?

January 4, 2011
12:00 am
Avatar
CraigCo
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 39
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Guest, Have you tried sleeping pills during the interim? Not
good, I know but you've got to get sleep somehow lest you blow a
gasket.

How bout huffin a
gagger? lol

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 247
Currently Online:
24
Guest(s)
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 110924
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38537
Posts: 714209
Newest Members:
delight1080, laticia1, Corties, patrickstayes, kevinkovalsky, izzy39
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2019 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved. Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer