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February 19, 2006
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Grrr ! I may not be on here for awhile again but, but Wow! I just have to let some of this out or just put it out there.

I havnt really taken the time to read more then a few threads on here today so this is not aimed at any one. 🙂

Small town interepersonal politics is allot like work place politics when living in a large city, so many can relate.

I ask my self anything that I am posting so I cannot expect any less from the people who live and work around me or I may just expect to much ?

Drugs and Booze : Why the hell do so called adults insist on trying to impress kids with old party stories ?

Why would someone in what is Supposed to be in a Hm? well leadership position have to bring their still present party habits up with kids ? Are they insecure and bored ? Emotionally incompetent Ass's ?

How would I feel if 1.00.000 people in the rich country next door kept thinking that the small, tiny, little insignificant little $10, $50, $1000 or more a month these resposible partiers are throwing in the pot of some jerk that is part of the slave,drug trade to give them more control over the people living their region of the world ?

How would I feel if I had the guts to ask myself - what could I be doing with my time if I wasnt waiting for Joe or Jill to get back with that bag of, grass,coke.smack.

What could that person that is selling the drugs be doing for real with their time if they wernt on some little head trip that - " hey Im a nice person. Im not killing anyone or with a gang ? "

What could I be doing if I wasnt sitting here fantisizing about what a good Joe or Jill I am with "Just alittle glow " going ? "Im a good person and and and I Care."

Where the Hell is my Dumb A%# bosses head when he keeps bring up drugs or offering some and I keep turning him down? The guy comes to work on his day off and talks to the owner and he is so drunk and whinning. Where the heck was he when I was pushing it on my 20th hour of the day trying to save and maintain what I worked on for over a Decade ? He was Drunk, Stoned and whinning. Thats where he was ! Where were these people when I kept my mouth shut and stock piled drygoods and cans of tune incase I got sick of working in this job, just like I did with the last place and I have to tell him to take this job and shove it ! Where do some people get off on running their mouths about things they dont even have a clue about ?

Advice : Dont give a complete answer to someone that is running their mouth. Dont give them any answer and just walk away. Dont let them know what you are really thinking they could be confused or trying to play you...They may not even know any better or just be plain old Ignorant. If you are unsure of what a person is up to and how much information to give them - error on the the side of caution. Even if no one gets it or see's where you are coming from and you are out numbered. PERSERVER ! When the jerks in your life are running around and covering their A--'s PERSERVER !!! Let them wear themselves out. Let them talk. Once it comes out of their mouths, they cant take it back. Dont let people push your Buttons. Its hard but dont let them. If someone is in a rut dont get mad at them. We have all been there. PERSERVER !

In my present situation I have to ask myself, what is the character of a person that tries to use afew years of my past 25 years ago of my hard partying youth against me to keep me inline ? To ply me or try to play me ? What is the Character of the people that side with them ? What is the Character of anyone that would take the time to even Listen to them ? Other people see but may not be able to do anything until your detractors leave themselves open. Many may want a shot at them as bad as you do and they will take it.

People If you are the one: who has been telling the truth for years. Getting up in the middle of the night to work towards a goal that others dont seem to see or dont care. Staying up all night to work on something to make your life and the lives of others better and then going to your 40 hour a week job on a few hours of sleep. PERSERVER ! 1 millimeter,one inch, one foot at a time. That is all that counts........... Even if some people do not get it.

What you are thinking right now could and can change your future !

Dont Worry about the Past. Dont settle for someone elses expectations for you that are lower then what you Expect of yourself. Dont Gloat! 🙂 Dont look back. When someone tries to get me to jump on the band wagon about what they think they perceive about someone elses life I tell them flat out - I do not know enough about the stituation to even coment on it and am not going to go there and yes I do care but I also care enough not to contibute to petty gossip if I dont know the facts.

To anyone out there that is the talk of the work place, the talk of the town. Talk is just that-Talk. Most of the people that are doing the talking do not have a personal stake in what they are talking about and they are just hidding from working on their own lives. Try laying that one on the town gossip in a small back woods town ! :0 000 LOL

You Got it ! This is my allaboutcounseling Victory Dance.
After 3 Decades of feeling like I was treated like a stray or junkyard dog no one would touch. After working on my art form for over a decade it is getting out there. 🙂 ROLF The self Congatulatory types can talk all they want - but when that time comes that they have to back it up with Facts - What goes around comes around ! And Im to busy to worry about it.

1 mile = 5280 Feet 1 inch, 1 Foot , 1 yard at a time. 1 second, 1 Minute , 1 Hour , 1 Day at a time.

When your fingers feel like Bloody Stumps , just from crawling that last inch and you think its over. Your probably thinking to much-get to work on yourself. 🙂

What is a life woth ?

It doesnt matter if your a single mom. drunken monster or the town hooker. You have a life that is yours and yours alone and it is worth as much as anyone elses. That next inch may be the over th finish line and you just havnt noticed where you are yet.

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February 20, 2006
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Hi DTN,

I hope the rant was really theraputic for you!

I've read it a few times and mostly I don't get it...(BUT that's OK because a good rant only has to make sense in the mind of the ranter). However, there were some KEY moments where I bore powerful witness to your truth.

Such As:

"What you are thinking right now could and can change your future !"

And:

"Dont Worry about the Past. Dont settle for someone elses expectations for you that are lower then what you Expect of yourself. Dont Gloat! 🙂 Dont look back. When someone tries to get meu to jump on the band wagon about what they think they perceive about someone elses life I tell them flat out - I do not know enough about the stituation to even coment on it and am not going to go there and yes I do care but I also care enough not to contibute to petty gossip if I dont know the facts."

I ESPECIALLY APPRECIATED THIS:

"To anyone out there that is the talk of the work place, the talk of the town. Talk is just that-Talk. Most of the people that are doing the talking do not have a personal stake in what they are talking about and they are just hidding from working on their own lives."

How true that is friend. Great food for thought!

Congratulations on all you've learned and thanks for sharing.

Keep perfecting that victory dance!!!

February 20, 2006
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Thank you Y&R

The first part of that started when I was fumming and the computer was not even on. Then I turned it on and let it fly. LOL

I grew up in an environment where allot of people would give high school kids beer or wine just for entertainment. (not in my house) and my aunt would smoke pot at times with her kids. Allot of people would not bat an eye or repeat what they see in small towns because they want a good reputation. Married middle age women preying on drunk high school boys was not totally unusual and seeing a middle aged woman making out with a 16 year old boy when she let her kids friends party at her house while her husband was out of town was not unheard of. 🙂 I can bare witness to what this has done to some lives. My boss in the first post is one of the boys. He has an -I can do and say what ever I want and you just shut up attitude. Until I turn my attitude on and that is the end of that. But it sucks to have to pull my attitude out all of the time. These wanna be good ol boys are so full of bluff and BS and many of them Expect me to be the same. Many, not all Small town folks do not take Artistic endeavors to serious as a career move. Shoot many do not take having a job as being a careen. It must just sound to fancy to them. LOL My dander gets up when I see middle aged people like in my age group that some kids think are cool and these people are IMHO being some what Voyeuristic into these kids lives by gaining their confedence and then blabbing their business to every drunk in town. Just like they have done when I was a kid and what else are they doing ? Buying booze for these kids and ???? Playing these unsuspecting kids and some of them do not even know they got played until they are middle aged and in recovery.
Turn them on to a hobby or something.

Couldnt they be doing something more with their time instead of working it on people ?

I am a woodsman and have the habit of not telling people what I am thinking unless they need to know. And never let on to how observent I am or what point of view I see things from. If I see someone trying to sucker someone else and if it is doubtful that the prey will believe me if I tell them straight up that these old drunks and druggies just want some dirt on them to through in their face when the prey does not want to play the game anymore
it just gets blabbed back to the predator most of the time and Why tip my hand ? 😉

How do I put this ???? This gives me this (So Ive been told) uncanny capacity to have things pop out of my mouth that hit right to that subconscious core of what the predator is saying and they just stare at me like "What" because I just came out of left field and verbally whacked them right in the head. ITs not forced it just comes out of my mouth. LOL

I have wasted allot of time many years ago and I hate to see it happen to others.

I will be back in a bit - Im thinking about Red Flags or how to be in a mental state to be prepared to see them. 🙂 Oh Boy ! LOL

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February 20, 2006
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Alll Right. Some of that stuff about not looking back got me going Because in a small town Many people look at others from the point of view that - you have a past. Your the little kid on the bike from next door and some people are just stuck and living in the past and expect you to also. Oh-thats good ol network, is he going to pop the church decon the wing cus his daughter gets away with everything and she parties as much as we do and we get labeled. LOL

Most people that have worked out and are in the process of working out their life could care less about that crap. I havnt partied Hardy in 20 years and have not smoked pot or drank in about a decade. But yet I get these ol party buddies that start to talk to me like I still do live like them even after I tell them I do not...
Still pulling the same ol crap -

It has been said on here many times that Predators or abusers do not even understand why they behave the way they do. and the roots are almost always that at some point of time in their lives they where like a deer in someone else's headlights.

Red Flags: Ladys-Men
People that are just to nice. Everyone needs love and attention and the only way I can come up with for Me, not getting taken is to Spend Quality time taking care of myself........ If a person has spent enough time taking care of themselves it may not always be easy but I almost have to Make Myself take the time to be with me. Play,read a book or try something new that is not Manditory. That I dont have to Justify to myself or anyone else why I am spending time doing it.

It pays off because I do not personaly feel as needy for attention when I get around other people and that seems to put me in a Frame of Mind where I can relax and be friendly but not get to personal with charming people.

No matter what my situation I feel more content if I give myself enough attention. That puts me in the drivers seat and not my emotions.

People causing trouble in my life are the ones that:
cannot contol themselves,
Want something from me,
Expect me to respond in a way that leaves me open for their agenda
or trying to use me to fill a need of theirs that they may not even understand.

My biggest road block to getting my art going in a Small town is a few individuals playing small town politics and manipulating afew others that - I dont know what is good for me and they should help steer me towards the manipulators wants being filled. When it wasnt a frontal assult it was coniving manipulation behind my back. Some how-sellective hearing did not broad cast all over town that I had more sunk in equipment then my yearly wages would be at my work place. I made it clear on my last 2 jobs that I did. That is not a huge sum but for a one man art biz its not to bad and I had to scrimp to do it. Im not scared of work.

What to do: Tell more people. This is and was an abusive situation even if most of it was Behind my Back.
Red Flag: Something is going on. The nice people that got duped into playing along were weird about looking at me and avoided me for weeks. Hmmm?
Red Flag: The nice friendly town gossip starts asking pointed questions like she is going somewhere with it. Hmm! ? I didnt think it was a big deal when I talked to the owner about some bosses. Did I cause a stink at the local Pub after that ? 😉 Whooops Gee someone never mentioned to the owners that I have 2/3 of what would be my yearly income working for them into this machine Im using on the internet right now. Could that mean that I am taking what Im am doing seriously ? Get Real ! 🙂
Did someone get Stoned and they missed it ?

Someone was sharp enough to realize I was so wrapped up in doing what I had to do that I didnt catch that.

For me personally I thought I was broadcasting more then enough information about what was going on in my life that any sane person would get the picture.

Red Flag: If you have to repeat yourself over a perfectly valid point and do it repeatedly and it feels like you are talking to the wall.
You are dealling with someone that does not give a Damn about anything other then making their life easyier and staying in a Rut. Their Comfort zone.

Red Flag: The Entertainer- These characters will knock themselves out to get out of dealing with anything. After all if they start to actually deal with things they might just have to do it all of the time. That would require Personal Growth and the Myth they have grown to believe surrounding that is it Hurts more then lying to themselves and everyone around them.

The Entertainer is an Expert at getting off of a subject and Creating a Diversion to get what they want. Oh they are sneaky little Weasels. Out of no where they will switch to a popular subject and change the conversation going on in a goupe if they think you might try to pin them down. Watch their face light up if someone comes in the door and how fast they latch on to that person to get out of facing something that means your whole life to you and a normal inconvienance to their job. Like having to do their job.

If this sounds Bizzar it is that is why I had such a hard time getting things done. People were ducking me and acting like I was daft because they were getting played and I was to busy try to keep what I have and Move ahead to even realise what sick crap was going on. So sick that some would now believe it until I exposed it.

Sound Familiar ?

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February 21, 2006
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Geesh I really have to take more time to proof read this stuff. LOL

February 23, 2006
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DTN,
I can't say I followed it all, but the part I got, was I GET it!!!

You must have been hanging around in the small town where I live.

I could go on, but I won't.

It is an inbred little town where if you move here from somewhere else, people have such a low opinion of themselves that they think something must be wrong with you for choosing to live where they and their 3 previous generations have lived because they lack the imagination to travel!

I work online and they think I do porn or something, because that is all they know to use the internet for!

What you said, DTN, what you said!

February 23, 2006
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You GET it ! You Got It ! WaHooo ! :-))))

LOL-ROLF I was part of a Top Secret 😉 Private Water Sampling Adventure. LOL

We sampled 5 towns. I almost got caught by the town Busy Body but as luck would have it she spotted the town Hotties through a window and glowered at them until they passed.

We have Ruled the Water out. ROLF So much for the simple fix. Drats !

I had a guy swearing at me " Your a [email protected]* D(^[email protected]$ Pervert on the Internet, ADMIT IT !"

Internationally Renown Publications do write ups on parts of this area I live in and people do ask why anyone would move here ? LOL You GOT IT "zinnia"

Take Care

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Oh, DTN! I know who you are! You live down the street! *lol*

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LOL ! I laughed so hard When I read that. So many posts on this site sound like people in and around my life it is uncanny ! I was wondering if I work with another poster on here awhile back but thread line changed and it did not follow what she was saying to me in person. ROLF

My name came from what someone said a number of years ago and it stuck with me. I was on a long weeked out of town and this friend told me You Have To Meet This Guy. He sounds just like you, talks like you and even grew up the way you did. She set up an afternoon of hiking on a path near her home and in 15 minutes we were finishing eachothers sentances. Your stories even sound alike. Pranks and Jokes also.
He looked at me, threw his hands up and the air and said "Do They Network ? " To that I answered No they just have all of their friends on speed dial. 🙂

Now for the whipped topping with a cherry on top. On my lunch break yesterday I was drive down the Main Draag on my way to the hardware store for a drill bit and for the first time in months I noticed I was being followed by a spy school drop out. One block to my left and every intesection I passed. Their she was ! This is usually done by 45-55 year old women that are the guardians of the town. I sped up and hung a U turn pulling up a block behind her. She turned down the street towards Main and I parked and walked to the hardware. LOL I passed her driving the other way on my way back to work and if looks could kill, I would have been vaporized right there. LOL I am laughing so hard Im whiping tears from my eyes. OMG She must have even ran the stop sign behind the police station to keep up with me. Maybe someone pulled he over. It is time for some food and now I am in the mood to be artistic.

The victory dance contiues.

February 27, 2006
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DTN, what is it about you =that attracts the eyes of the Town Matrons? *LOL*

Here is a good one for you: I have a small business, a micro-business run off a desk in my house, and I need a strong young man for when I have to pick up antiques.

I had a neighbor whose 20-something son periodically ends up unemployed and couch-camping with his Momma every few weeks. Around her, he acts half retarded, but on his own he is very nice and intelligent enough so I offered him $50 a month if I could call on him for the occasional errand with his truck.

His mother spread it all over town that this 50-yr-old woman is after her son whenever I'm not doing terrible things in the internet! (yeah, terrible things like listing auctions with other antique collectors! sheesh! She thinks I spend all day visiting the kinds of sites SHE does when she is online!)

If I didn't have to use two-syllable words to do it, I sure could squash a few people around here with some good counter-rumors about why they think I am so bad!

But it is pointless to argue with the walking brain-dead, isn't it?

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zinnia Oh my Gooosh! LOL You know it. >DTN, what is it about you =that attracts the eyes of the Town Matrons? *LOL* <<< Hmmmm ? 🙂 Things seem to have gone from bad to worse about a decade ago. There was a lady 15 years ? older then me that I would see around town and everytime I did notice her it was because she would be starring at me and smiling. I never thought anything of it and I seen this big grin in a department store one day and she was strarting to make me wonder. 10 minutes later I seen her with her Husband and in the same isle so I smiled and said Hi, how are you today. Her disposition changed and her husband was looking at me like a bull dog straining at his leash. Then some time later I walked around a corner on the street and pow, she was staring straight in my eyes and looked rather Giddy. Now 10 years later I seen her checking me out at the grocery store and afew isles over her husband was giving me a nasty look. You got it ! She must have thought I would tell everyone in town and made something up to cover her butt. No one would believe counter rumors but I have found that a search of some places on the internet by,town county and state can prove most Enlightening. ;;;;-). The local authorities may even show some intrest. It is time to eat supper, Yahoooooo ! It is pitiful that the folks around town that really are the salt of the earth either do not see it or are scarred of the slander that would start with them.

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DTN, I saw a funny program in a website. It was an automatic rumor-monger. It had parts of a sentence that would appear at random, including names of celebrities and interesting verbs, so that each time you clicked the button you would get something like "Oprah Winfrey is *()# with Dr Phil, and they are &*(^% "

It was touted as the program most used by journalists world wide, and I believe it! *LOL*

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LOL You have to love the internet !

Smart people will not listen to the stories but Oh how some dig in and think it is solid ground. What goes around comes around. With some play time on the intenet I found 12 ? small town people here in little ol Hooterville naked or doing sex acts in living color online. With their pictures in places a sharp 10 year old could find them. Can you hear that ? " Mommy there is Mr.____ and he is @$&!$ and he has pictures of the girls from the____ and their nAkid." "Hey didnt big sister _____ just get a job working for him ? "

Then you can imagine the young High School Physics teacher scratching his chin with an astonished look on his face and wondering where his students came up with a class project idea that he has a hard time figuring out. Ol Buck the janitor has an IQ of 165 and was tutoring at lunchtime. Its seems he had a run in with the Psycho cheerleader squad of 1964 and pom-pom went Squealing to mommy. Mommy Buck is Loooking at me all of the time and Mommy who was having an affair with the school guildance counseler fixed that. Not a totally true story but it does sum things up. And when Buck passed on the headlines read. Highschool janitor held 5 patents and leaves trush fund that pays for new counelor.

THis is Therapeutic. 🙂

Good Night. LOL

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*LOL*! DTN!

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