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Friends of WD Please Gather.
August 9, 2011
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Hi Free,

 

For you, I will make an appearance. I am probably through with this site because of contract violations.  I made certain posts under promise of anonymity and that thread content was not subject to Google Search.  New Management doesn't feel bound by that contract and as a consequence my life and the life of my child are potentially in jeapordy.  And that really, really pisses me off. 

 

For myself, don't care so much.  Turns out I am VERY hard to kill.  My kid?  Not so much.

 

And it is August.  That's always my Avenging Angel of Justice month.

 

Hey, anyone heard from Zinnie lately?  I need to talk to her.

 

free said:

Well shoot wd, I was hoping you'd be popping in!  I miss the "oldies."

 

God must have a sympathetic nerve for me or something because I keep making mistakes and then He keeps giving me another shot at good stuff!.  I live in a really nice house in a really nice neighborhood, and we pay way less rent than the house is worth because I had the owners kids as students and my sweetheart knows the mnagement company, well now the owner wants to sell the house to me!  I guess it has sentimental meaning for her and we've done alot of work in the yard and on the house because it's my home and we like it, she wants me to own it.  So I'ma gonna 🙂  We're gonna pay it off in 10 yrs, at 57 I'm gonna retire!  I can't believe this, it's almost too good to be true.  and this might sound nuts, but I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna get married.  This time it's gonna be a really cool wedding because it's with my soulmate, I know this deep down, almost didn't show up at my last wedding, it was close.

 

wd, dang it, I don't just want ya here for support, I wanna know how things are going with YOU...so post something!  If things are tough I'll be here for you, if things are good, well I'd like to know.  You and a few others were a lifeline for me during a dark time, I don't wanna lose touch.

 

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August 10, 2011
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Hi Wd!

 

Good to hear from you.  I'm sorry you're pissed off about the site, alot of people are/were, most have left.  I sure do miss the old site.  Perhaps you don't know this, but thread titles have always been subject to google search.  Seems nothing on the internet is private anymore, perhaps it never was.  There was a period of time I was advised/ordered/admonished not to use the inernet- no email, no discussion groups, only my work email for work only, due to the lack of privacy.

 

I have not seen or heard from zinnie.  What a marvelous woman.  I wonder how her daughter is doing.

 

Hope all is well with you and your kiddo wd!

 

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August 11, 2011
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This new forum does have the option of sending people private messages. So....... if someone is really concerned about google searches, their life being put in jeopardy  they can choose that option to contact someone. Free you said "I'm sorry you're pissed off about the site, alot of people are/were, most have left"

Read the Full Page: Friends of WD Please Gather. | Questions, Advice & Help 
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Does this mean that that these people have personally given you that information and have appointed you their spokes person on this matter?  Or,  are you projecting your own personal feelings onto "alot of people"?  I would like to take this opportunity to clarify  that I am not one of the people "pissed off about the site".   As I matter of fact I find the peace and quiet on this site rather enjoyable. 

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August 11, 2011
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wd, I think management will remove posts,  I think I remember MsG or another poster requesting this and it was granted.  I could be mistaken, but it can't hurt to ask.  How is your heart?  You've been through alot of betrayal, I hope you remember that old saying that it's better to have love and lost than to not have loved at all.  It's easy for a heart to become hardened but that closes doors.  I hope you've left them open so that when the right one comes along (if she hasn't already) you will let her in.  

 

Go Avenging Angel!  I like that.

 

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August 11, 2011
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Hello Free, speaking of people who used to post here such as zinnie have you heard from andii? I remember that she used to pm you. Wink Hope your having a wonderful day. 

August 12, 2011
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I should point out, not the same andii, but I sure hope that video touches you quote.  I'm pretty sure you can pm andii as well. 

 

I am indeed having a wonderful day, thank you.  Hope you are also.

 

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August 12, 2011
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heywd, and free,and others reading, i normaly dont posthere but read something and wanted to comment, free to answer your question, yes admin, doesremove and edit posts that it finds offensive or anything, duringthe last crusades as i jokingly refer to the time period where everyone and there mother was accused of really stupid things like multiple nicknames and other crap i personally cursed out one of the many attackers for two reasons, one it was fun andthe person deserved it, and two to see how dirty i would be allowed to post, i was never warned or anything but my posts WERE removed, and even more recently, a very stupid disagreement about (yet again) assumed multiple nicks (for the record when i say recently i mean like a month ago) the admin ACTUALLY posted him/her self basically saying to the two people backoff, and to the one instigator that she was warned. i wont mention names but i remember, it was like watching a mother catching a kid being a bully and the bullies ears go bright red lol. i have also noticed admin sposting rather liberallyon the support side, so i think it safe to say there is at least ONE person who supervises in some way, and most likely moderates posts, you can evenread at heading of postsif he/she has edited the postings.

August 12, 2011
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Hi z 🙂

 

I do remember you "going off" and I remember thinking "ooh, z has an onry streak" lol.  I think admin will remove posts if you ask.  Not just offensive ones, but ones that you feel threaten your privacy.  I thought it was MsG who asked to have all her posts removed and they were, or maybe CM, I don't remember, but I vaguely remember somebody expressing concern their privacy and google searches, and all her posts were removed.

 

the moderation is certainly a breath of fresh air!

 

But I still miss the old site.  

August 12, 2011
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Worried_Dad/free/Quote Unquote/zarathustra,

On behalf of AAC, we would like to apologize for the inconvenience we may have caused you. As mush as we want to protect everyone here in the forum, search engines are really doing their job on indexing those most visited pages. But if any complain or concern that may jeopardize the safety and security of any members, we would be willing to coordinate with you. If you wish to remove any thread/topic/post that has brought threats or dangers to you or your family, you may do so.  You can also send a direct email to this page http://www.allaboutcounseling......ontact-us/ and we will entertain your request as soon as possible.

 

We have already deleted some threads by request and if you have any other forum-related concerns, we would want to hear it from you. Thank you for your continued participation in the AAC forum.

 

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August 13, 2011
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Free I simply asked if you have heard from andii because I recall you and her were sending pm's to each other. I did take note of the fact that after I asked you if you heard from andii you directed me to a random persons web site who has the name andie in it. You said something about "hope that video touches you quote".  What video? No, I don't want to pm andii I just asked if you had heard from her. Still waiting on your answer.  With all the beautiful friends and family that I have in my life every second of it has been wonderful, hope yours is the same. Smile

August 13, 2011
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free said:

I should point out, not the same andii, but I sure hope that video touches you quote.  I'm pretty sure you can pm andii as well. 

 

I am indeed having a wonderful day, thank you.  Hope you are also.

 

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Free I would prefer that you touched me through your own personal message or words instead of through quotes from a stranger or the bible. I imagine your day has to be wonderful in that perfect climate you live in.

August 13, 2011
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Thank you for your post shininglight.  I think that change for some people is just hard.  I for one don't like it a whole lot, prefer the "known" to the "unknown."  For some time there was no moderation and downright ugliness ran rampant, I think that chased some posters off. Hopefully they will come back as I miss some of them.  Your presence here is much appreciated.

 

wd, hope to hear from you!

 

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August 13, 2011
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The most obvious reason why many people quit posting on this site was because the new software gave them the option to send private messages and exchange email addresses with the friends that they made here. Once that happened there was no  need to come here with the sole purpose of socializing and hanging out.  Another reason would be that people come to this site with counseling issues and once they get the information they need they move on. 

Free  you insist on bringing up the past & I can see there is no arguing with you. What I did like about the old AAC was the way people who were downright ugly that were chasing posters off got banned.  But, for some reason when the site changed those very same people who were banned by the old AAC admin. were able to sign on and instigate flame wars which might explain your theory about posters getting chased off Wink

I think that this new software, the way the information is organized and the advertisements are a huge improvement . I see more peace and harmony and new people stopping by to share their stories then I had ever seen before. I also appreciate the words of encouragement that shining light has given me. Laugh

August 15, 2011
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sorry quote but i COMPLETELY disagree with you, before hand i remember newcomers almost daily, now if we get one its like once every two weeks and they normally never follow up and post back, i remember people coming back repeatedly before, not sure if thats beneficial, in theory this sites purpose is to make people get help and NEVER have to come back, but i think its normally the letter, they just dont come back.

August 15, 2011
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Hopefully now that there is moderation, people will in fact come back, including some of the older posters like MsG, Hepburn, REdBlonde, Bevdee, Michigan, Guest, SOA, mzrella, darkeyes, anam cara, Bitsy, tez, chelonia, etc etc etc there are so many... and newer ones that were chased off like andii.

 

and of course, wd!Laugh

 

z, I was in a support group for DV years ago, I still go back sometimes even though I no longer need it.  There are still a few people I want to stay connected with in that setting, and it helps me see who and  where I've been, where I've gone, who and where I now am.  This place has a similar draw to me, not as strong, but it's there.  I really think that there are many "oldies" who just read.  

 

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August 15, 2011
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I think you are a much keener observer than I zarthustra about the comings and goings on this site. Thanks for the update. 

August 15, 2011
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Free thanks a bunch for the update on andii. So, she got chased off, but your still here? InterestingWink.  

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well i personally know that dark eyes isnt coming back, i was PMing her for a while and trying to keep her up beat, but she stopped after a while, and the same goes for bevdee, they all said there not coming back, in fact some of those "oldies" as you call them PMed me alot and said that they liked what i was posting, said i sounded genuine and nice, and wanted to let me know they were leaving. no idea why they singled me out, they most likely messaged several people in that fashion, but i did my part and offered kind words and support,

 

and yeah quote i personally look for newcomers often and try to offer a kind word, i believe newcomers are the most fragile, think about the mentality someone must be to come to a site like this for the first time, probably very bad and greatly depressed (i was) and i am sure they are feeling lonely, it might only take a friendly word and kind ear to keep them coming back, i mean who knows? all it takes half the time is a kind word in my opinion to make someone put down the gun, or put away the blade. it worked for me Laugh

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You are a kind person zarthustra to meet and greet the new comers the way that you do. ] The  "oldies" prolly singled you out because they could tell you are such a good guy. You speak the truth when you say that a kind word can turn away wrath. 

August 16, 2011
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When I read posts about people being "chased off" I feel that this statement has more  to do with  inflexable, inaccurate interpretations/cognitive distortions and biases then it does with what is really goiing on.  I prefer to think of this site in a positive way and find no need for negativity to dim shining lights beautiful rays. I just want AAC to know that............ I still believe in you. 

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Hope to hear from you soon wd.  Until then I'll be zinging positive earth energy your way!  🙂

 

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Dear Shining Llight, no need to apologize you have done nothing wrong. I do appreciate your offer to address peoples concerns.

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Quote Unquote and To everyone who posted,

 

Thank you for all your consideration. We hope to hear all your concerns and address them as long as we can and as soon as possible. Once again, we appreciate your feedback and we hope that you enjoy your stay here in AAC forum.

 

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Shining Light you are welcome! I enjoy this forum more than ever. Cool

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