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February 8, 2011
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I'm realy trying to get my mind around this new "Web 2.5" format or whatever the heck it is.

 

If you believe yourself to be an AAC Sympathezer of WD, please sign here.

 

I just need to know who is still here and who isn't.

February 9, 2011
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Isis... ((WD))

February 9, 2011
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You Know, this place used to be like a second home to me.  I liked the homesy pistachio background andthreads with one long page.

 

Oh well.

 

I continue to struggle with what happened with Miss Iowa. IT seemed so real.  I hate it that I am so easy to trick.  Just wave a prblem to fix or a woman who needs help in front of me and I'm putty.

 

Ug.

February 9, 2011
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The way I look at is this... it's like moving into a new house, it takes some getting used to. We're still in the same town, just a new house. You need to make it your own... paint the walls, hang your art work, pull out the family pictures... have an open house, invite your friends. Make it your safe place... remember the Embassy? That was always a great place to stop in, if only to say hello, or read, or add your two cents. Don't be afraid WD, your friends are still around, they're just getting acclimated to the new house- figuring out how to navigate, and trying to find each other.

 

I remember the Miss Iowa incident and how traumatized you were. I also remember the abuse you took from certain posters during that time. It's tough being called out and judged because of the way you perceived the incident- it was your own personal experience, and you were hung out to dry first by Miss Iowa, then by the AAC community (a select few). If anything good has come of this "move", it's that you're probably safer now than you were then in your own "safe house". 

 

You were duped- and that was real. You gave all of yourself- your heart to this woman, and she chewed you up and spit you out. That takes time to recover from- certainly not something that heals overnight. If anything, hopefully you've learned that the codependent part of you is still very much alive and well, and still needs work. It's a life long struggle- and couple that with the domestic violence, and a your big heart... I can see how you turn to putty, and set yourself up as a target for these predators. 

 

Have an open house, I'm sure your friends will see it and stop in.

Much love and positive energy coming from the east coast headed your way to the west coast.

Isis

February 9, 2011
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Aw, Isis that is so sweet.

 

I think you are right.  I still have old friends here and I shouldn't let the new format throw me.

 

Yeah, I figured the "codependent" idea would come up.  I don't know that I believe in codependency.  It's not like I am ever going to or would want to not be a helpful, patient, problem-solving person.  I definitely need to not put up with unbalanced relationships though. And I need to really take to heart the old "Fool me once..." adage.

February 10, 2011
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"helpful, patient, problem-solving person"

Nahhh... more like this... WORRIED DAD TO THE RESCUE!

Surprised

February 11, 2011
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Hi Isis,

 

Well, being a patient, helpful problem solving person is in my nature, part of my training and what I do for a living.  And I suppose there is a dark side or at least a downside to that part of me.

 

Like I really like a good rescue!

February 14, 2011
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hey wd i posted but the post disappeared. darn weird glitchy site!!

February 22, 2011
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WD,

I am here too - been here off and on since 2002.

I pulled a WTF when I logged on here and still don't understand what happened!!!!Surprised

March 28, 2011
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come back.

March 29, 2011
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Miss you WD.

March 30, 2011
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That's an interesting choice of profile pic there nada.  Very telling….in more ways than one!  lol

March 30, 2011
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Defiling WD thread is not cool. No it's not. If you're all that why don't you use your pic for your avatar? Now, don't tell me you don't have one the FBI must still have your mug shot on file. This is a counselng web site I am not sure if it has services for people who are criminally insane.

March 30, 2011
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lol i HOPE they have one for criminally insane people, because i am pretty damn sure i would fall under that category lol

March 30, 2011
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Hi there zarathustra not sure if there is a category for me. I'm a rare breed, not too many of us are stil living out there in the wild.

March 30, 2011
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oh i am wild i will tell you that much, it has been recommended many times i check myself in, and my answer is always they will drag me kicking and screaming before i go in.

 

this topic is right up my alley actually, because i believe in relative truth, and i believe that is true for one, is not true for another, it is all about point of views, for example, a philopher would call someone like me a dionysian man, which is hat i would call myself like my master nieztche once wrote, but a mental health proffesional might call me crazy lol, i say they are both right, two sides of the same coin, it just depends which side are you looking at

March 31, 2011
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Hi z, I'm drawn to relative truth theory.  People percieve things differently.  Ofcourse there are cultural and social norms but not all people obey them or accept them as they percieve them to be unimportant.  I say if we're crazy so what, as long as we aren't going to hurt anybody, including ourselves.

 

wd, the place isn't the same without you, tez,  guest and craigco, it'd be really cool if you guys came back.  I know it won't be the same anyways, there have been changes, but your perspectives are interesting to say the least.

 

The bouncing tigger is hilarious, I keep cracking up when I see it.

 

free

April 2, 2011
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lol i am sorry, but the bouncing tigger makes me think that tigger is doing something gay men are fond of lol i am not trying to be a dick or anything but COME ON! lol look at it! my pic is of nietzche and someone copied and pasted a pic of a shirt that says "bitches dont know bout my zarathustra" lol

April 4, 2011
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lol z!

June 23, 2011
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Hey wd!  just in case you're reading, I am officially divorced from losermike.  Yes, it has taken this long, but it's officially over!  I am so thrilled.  Wanted to share that with you and i'm hoping things are going well with you.

July 12, 2011
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free said:

Hey wd!  just in case you're reading, I am officially divorced from losermike.  Yes, it has taken this long, but it's officially over!  I am so thrilled.  Wanted to share that with you and i'm hoping things are going well with you.


Hi Free,

 

Catch me up.

 

After Mr Bullets with your name on them you went and married another asshole?

 

Ouchie ouch.

 

Tehn you escaped.  That sounds good.

 

Always loving you and grateful to you for saving my life in the other time.

 

Availible for your support..

 

XO, WD

July 13, 2011
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Hello wd!  For the record, I didn't save you silly as I don't have that power, you saved yourself, you've much more power than you realize.

 

"Mr. bullets with my name on them"  aka stalker ex- yuck.  I really don't like to think about that too much.  THAT was certainly another time and one I'd rather forget.  I do have to deal with him as he is the father of my kids, but he doesn't do crazy things, he's just a pain in the butt.  That trial was back in '03 and his probation officer got him under control.  

 

I did remarry in '06.  Not sure why wd, I loved him but I wasn't in love with him.  He didn't float my boat in a romantic way.  We had so much fun together- in retrospect he would have been a great buddy and pal- we shouldn't have married.  Within a few months that marriage was going sour- we didn't live together very well at all for a number of different reasons.  I wouldn't call him an asshole.  He would never do crazy things like stalker ex, he wasn't overly controlling and abusive.  We had never lived togethere and when we married I learned so much about him and I didn't like what I learned.  For one he had a drinking problem and while I knew he drank, I did not realize to what extent.  His son died in '08 and he really lost himself in the bottle and became verbally abusive to my kids and I.  Not interested in that wd, it really drove me away from him emotionally.  One day he said "I want a divorce" for the umpteenth time and I said "fine."  You got it.  

 

the next day I was sitting on the front porch feeling all crappy about myself and my life and thought " ya know what?  BULLSHIT.  I am not going to beat the crap out of myself or get lost in a lengthy pity party like I did with my kids dad."  so I went to the beauty salon, got my nails done, hair done, went shopping and got a new outfit, and my gal friend and I went out on the town.  Oh we had a blast wd.  I hadn't been out in so long and while I'm no "10" by any means and am in my 40's, I can still turn some heads.  I needed that at this time.  Ran into a few guys, but particulary one I had been attracted to for years but was in a relationship.  Sparks flew and well, I"m with him to this day.  I am in love with this one, deeply, all the components are there and I feel complete.   

 

There was a big fiasco when we were separating- he found out I'd met somebody and his tune changed big time.  The "let's just get divorced I'm miserable you're miserable" game was just that- a game, not what he really wanted.  He became extremely jealous and lashed out at me in numerous ways and in every facet of my life.  It felt like he was taking my life over.   I became extremely reactive to that, not in a good healthy graceful or positive way.  There was a big tadoo here at the site about it.  Shit, there was a big tadoo everywhere about it.  Things settled a bit, and

Then he wouldn't grant the divorce.  A person can't do that, the ocurts will grant it, but you have to file this and file that and this and that all have waiting times for him to respond, so he was dragging and dragging.  short version:  he wanted to drag it in the hopes that I would die because then he would get all my retirement.  He married me for medical/dental benefits, my credit (bought a house on my credit), and my retirement.  We got upside down in the house, I am financially destroyed.  He walked away from it all.

 

And while that is a bummer, I'd be this way again in order to live the life I'm living.

 

He on the other hand, got arrested for DUI, then for driving on a suspended license, got fired from 2 jobs and is about to get fired from another.  I am so glad I am no longer with that life-sucker.  He sucked the life out of me.  But asshole, I wouldn't call him that.  I'd call him a lost little boy.

 

How the heck are YOU wd?  

 

Catch me up!

 

xoxo

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Well shoot wd, I was hoping you'd be popping in!  I miss the "oldies."

 

God must have a sympathetic nerve for me or something because I keep making mistakes and then He keeps giving me another shot at good stuff!.  I live in a really nice house in a really nice neighborhood, and we pay way less rent than the house is worth because I had the owners kids as students and my sweetheart knows the mnagement company, well now the owner wants to sell the house to me!  I guess it has sentimental meaning for her and we've done alot of work in the yard and on the house because it's my home and we like it, she wants me to own it.  So I'ma gonna 🙂  We're gonna pay it off in 10 yrs, at 57 I'm gonna retire!  I can't believe this, it's almost too good to be true.  and this might sound nuts, but I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna get married.  This time it's gonna be a really cool wedding because it's with my soulmate, I know this deep down, almost didn't show up at my last wedding, it was close.

 

wd, dang it, I don't just want ya here for support, I wanna know how things are going with YOU...so post something!  If things are tough I'll be here for you, if things are good, well I'd like to know.  You and a few others were a lifeline for me during a dark time, I don't wanna lose touch.

 

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free didn't you mention in the past that this new man in your life is your fiance? As in you are engaged to be married again? Do I hear wedding bells ringing? Did you set a date?

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Hi Free,

 

For you, I will make an appearance. I am probably through with this site because of contract violations.  I made certain posts under promise of anonymity and that thread content was not subject to Google Search.  New Management doesn't feel bound by that contract and as a consequence my life and the life of my child are potentially in jeapordy.  And that really, really pisses me off. 

 

For myself, don't care so much.  Turns out I am VERY hard to kill.  My kid?  Not so much.

 

And it is August.  That's always my Avenging Angel of Justice month.

 

Hey, anyone heard from Zinnie lately?  I need to talk to her.

 

free said:

Well shoot wd, I was hoping you'd be popping in!  I miss the "oldies."

 

God must have a sympathetic nerve for me or something because I keep making mistakes and then He keeps giving me another shot at good stuff!.  I live in a really nice house in a really nice neighborhood, and we pay way less rent than the house is worth because I had the owners kids as students and my sweetheart knows the mnagement company, well now the owner wants to sell the house to me!  I guess it has sentimental meaning for her and we've done alot of work in the yard and on the house because it's my home and we like it, she wants me to own it.  So I'ma gonna 🙂  We're gonna pay it off in 10 yrs, at 57 I'm gonna retire!  I can't believe this, it's almost too good to be true.  and this might sound nuts, but I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna get married.  This time it's gonna be a really cool wedding because it's with my soulmate, I know this deep down, almost didn't show up at my last wedding, it was close.

 

wd, dang it, I don't just want ya here for support, I wanna know how things are going with YOU...so post something!  If things are tough I'll be here for you, if things are good, well I'd like to know.  You and a few others were a lifeline for me during a dark time, I don't wanna lose touch.

 

free


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