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Feeling Stronger
June 9, 2009
6:13 am
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Hi Everybody.

I have not been around here for about 6 or 9 months. I used to be the WizardofAus, but when I moved house I changed my e-mail and I can't seem to reclaim my old handle. What's in a name, anyway?

I notice several of my old friends are still here. I hope you are all plodding along in a generally upward direction. I will read a few more posts and get better sense of how you are all going.

Well, mine has been a fairly productive year. We finalised the finances of the divorce in September and I was able to sell the business and move back to my farm. My finances have improved remarkably now that I am no longer financing someone else's drug appetite and emotional disorders.

I have augmented this by really simplifying my own life. I have my pet dog, horse, chickens and cows and they keep me very entertained.

Another interesting thing that I did was to plant a garden. I thoroughly recommend it to anyone looking for an aid to spiritual recovery.

Initially I just dug a small hole in the lawn and planted a "forgiveness rose" which I felt was a materialised symbol of letting go of all the mistakes that my ex- and I had made in putting our marriage into the ditch.

Anyway, the rose started to talk to me. It told me to dig a bit more here and a bit more there and gradually garden replaced lawn. The original rose has now been joined by two more roses, some lettuce, tomatoes, green peas, Cape gooseberry and some passion fruit, which are now half way up the side of the house.

And as the garden has grown so has my optimism and serenity. It has been quite a mystical process, very healing.

My animals also talk to me. The dog is my constant companion and the horse lets me know when it is chow time. If I tell her to wait, she hollers back to hurry up. The rooster greets the dawn with a healthy crowing. Several of the cows have just calved and when I handle their babies they give this low cooing sound; "please be careful of my baby." Yes, I know that animals only have a one word vocabulary; "food!" I am not going willie-wonkos, I just enjoy having them around.

So thank you Mother Nature for leading me gently out of the really bad place I was in a year ago.

I would love to hear how the rest of you are all getting along.

Take good care of you.

June 11, 2009
1:19 pm
Los Angeles, California
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Hi Oz,

Thanks for sharing that. AND congratulations!

Gardening has always been a therapy for me, animals too. I miss my dog.

There's something about planting. For me it's nurturing a live thing and watching it grow. Maybe it's more of a matter of getting "out of myself" and paying attention to something else for a while. Getting out of my own head. It just gets exhausting sometimes, you know?

Closure is so important.



June 13, 2009
10:52 am
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hi Oz, i remember you back when you were the Wizard!! glad things are going good for you. And i like your idea of planting/gardening and the rose.

You should post on the "other side" the support threads side and you'll get probably more responses.

Good to see you posting


June 14, 2009
6:31 am
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Well, Gee-willickers! Nice to see that you'd posted. I haven't been around here lately as I've been working & staying out of town. I came back home for this evening only & thought I'd check in before bed.

Nice to hear that you've plowed through the turmoil that you'd been in the midst of last year. I remember a number of times back then when you'd provided me comfort through your understanding, kindness & reasonable advise and as I recall, you really had your hands full & I've often wondered whatever had become of you & if you'd found any resolve with your situation. Hope the litigation process didn't bleed you too badly.

So, you recommend the "gardening thing" do ya? Sounds like a good idea really. Unfortunately, I'm not around enough these days to properly tend to anything. Ah, but the summer's just begun hear in Canada so, maybe I'll have the opportunity to remind myself that I don't have a very green thumb by trying my hand at planting something when I'm back home again.

Certainly much less anxiety for me than I was enduring a year ago. It's been about 15 months since the ex bailed. I haven't talked to her once since then & I think that's probably a good thing in assisting the healing process! I'm pretty gun-shy now when it comes to the whole pursuing women thing goes. I might still be harboring some baggage but at least the worst part of all of that is past.

Work-wise, things were pretty slow for me through the winter & spring. Damned economy! It's only rather recently that things seem to have picked up so, I'll just keep my digits crossed and trust that that trend will continue.

So, it's off to bed for me now, OzMan. Hope to see you here again in the near future.


June 16, 2009
4:27 pm
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HI OZ and welcome back. I often wondered about you and enjoyed your company on this site. A horse. How lovely. Do you ride. I have pony right outside my front door and give her whatever she needs. I also ride her. Nature is very purifying.

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