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Family Feud, need prayer and advice please!!
September 3, 2008
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Okay, I like to think Im a pretty easy going, compassionate person, who is willing to forgive and give people more than a second chance. However, today was the straw that broke the camel's back for me!!!! I signed into myspace to see if I had any new messages, usually if I don't I sign right back off. I noticed my sister had posted a bulletin, and the title is what got my attention. Let's just say it went something like this, " My family will not help me because I am not pregnant by a crack addict"

Long story short, my sister has has over 90 days to find a place and move from where she is currently living now. She is now down to 2 days and is freaking out because she has nowhere to go. She hasn't been looking and has no money. She is a heavy drinker, and is in denial I believe.

Anyway, I do not nor would I ever judge her, she is my sister and I love her as that regardless of what she does. When it hit me that she was actually referring to me in her bulletin it hit me like a ton of bricks, knocked the wind out of me. She is speaking about me and her niece whom she loves sooooo much that way.

My xbf is an addict we all know this. However, it's not her place to judge him, and NOT her place to be talking like that and airing it all out on myspace for everyone to read. This is just not okay with me. Words are powerful, and when you say something like that about someone, it really hurts. Especially when they are family. Usually I pay no mind to her remarks and just let it go in one ear and out the other, NOT this time. I cried alot about this. Nobody in this world is perfect, we all have our issues, BUT it's not our responsibility to judge one another. It's one thing to say it to my face, but to say it to everyone but me and to call my parents and make that comment to them as well. I'm NOT going to lie, it hurts bad!!! I know she is not happy with herself and I know that she is not happy with her life, however she is the one who makes her own choices, as do we all. I know in my heart that she's not happy and hurt and that's why she makes these comments, however it really makes me want to tell her that she is not welcome to my daughters birthday party. I just couldn't act like everything is okay, when deep down I know how she truly feels about me, my daughter, and her father. I don't care what you say about me, but don't be two faced and be nice to my face, and then do this behind my back.

Yes my daughters father is an addict, but he is doing what he needs to in order to turn his life around and I know it hasn't been easy for him, but he's done it. My daughter is happy around him and enjoys going to see him all the time now. She has never known the addict him, just knows the happy, healthy him. I don't understand why my sister can have so much anger, rage, and hate inside of her to say such a thing.

It's heartbreaking. SOOOOO, my question is this, am I right in that I don't want to be fake and put on a facade around her, knowing her true feelings and jeopardize my daughters day?! I would just rather remove the tension from her day and truly be around those who love and respect me, my family, and my boundaries!!!!! I feel in my heart that this is what I need to do. Nobody ever speaks up to her, which I believe is why she always acts out like this and gets away with it. Well this time I cannot just let it go. Any advice would be greatly appreciated !!!

I have prayed and prayed for my sister and the other thing that hurt was she said,
" I find it funny how some people use religion to make them a better person, in their eyes anyway."

WOW that was a blow !!! BUT I know what's in my heart and the kind of person I have become is something I am very proud of. I have come a long way and I give all the glory up to God, without Him I wouldn't be where I am or who I am today.

Please for those of you who pray, please pray for my sister. I pray that she stop drinking, and that she know how loved she is and that whether she believe or not, God is always there and loves her so much!!!! I pray that she can be happy and stop making such hurtful statements. Words are powerful, it's hard to let this one go.

Thank you @--]-----

September 4, 2008
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((((((((((GIGGLES))))))))))

September 4, 2008
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((((((((Giggles)))))))))

That must have hurt so badly. Praying for her will help you deal with your feelings.

I understand why you would keep her from your daughter's birthday party and you are justified.

I have had family members say venomous things to me also about my religion and my children, and I was so heartbroken and crushed. It must have been all that much worse to see it on myspace. These are the two most sacred things in your life. Your motherhood and your love for God. They are precious. To have someone attack them both together is very painful.

I will pray for your sister. She is wretched and envious. I pray that God opens her heart and heals her.

I pray for you, too, that you will receive comfort and solace and that you'll be protected from further harm.

September 4, 2008
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Giggles,

It sounds as if she does not understand you right now or what a difference God has made in your life. I think we are told to forgive, but you are not required to maintain that relationship. Prayer is good. Sounds like this has been going on for awhile. Ask to have the relationship restored God's way.
I know it all hurts.

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