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anyone else afraid of doctors
June 8, 2006
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I am so terrified of DR.'s I have been feeling sick for two years now. Tired, stomach ache. Headache , blurred vision,light headed,and more. Yet I have an extreme fear of Dr.'s. Anyone else afraid of them. Any advice to get over this? Or just opinions after all it is liberation brews.

June 8, 2006
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I am afraid of them but I had to come to the conclusion that I cant get better on my own that I needed some help.

June 8, 2006
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Mamac - I am not afraid of doctors. But I feel embarrassed when I am examined by male doctors. In addition, I don't like hospitals.

However, in life we have to do things we do not like. When we feel sick, we are Obligated to see a doctor; whether we like them or not, does not really matter.

I would recommend you Mamac to go ASAP and NOT to delay another day. It is worth it. Our health is an important asset of our life.

Go and see a doctor Mamac and my prayers will acoompany you and keep us posted of your visit!

~Blessings~Ras

June 8, 2006
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I really have a problem with doctors, although I do make myself go to them. I just about have a panic attack before going though when it is for the annual exam or for any personal reason.

I have been told that it is the scared child within that is dealing with the memories of scary things with doctors - not the reality of being an adult. It is hard to separate memories from reality sometimes though.

Hugs to you mamac. Sometimes you have to break through those fears to do what is best for you. Did something happen to make you so afraid?

TS

June 8, 2006
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my daughter has a phobia.

and it totally engulfs her when she goes to get a shot or blood work.

she faced it like a real trooper recently when we had to have bloodwork done....cried the whole way thru it....but did it without a panic attack.

But last time - she was so scared of the two shots she had to have - we had to have the doctor restrain her - and he is a BIG guy...and she kicked the chair so hard they ended up skidding across the room in the chair and hitting the wall enough to knock a screw out of the bulletin board on the wall.

she is like a caged/enraged animal when those phobias surface...and there is good reason for them too....she cut her chin open when she was little and the ER doc was NOT compassionate and rushed the stitches and she was soooooooooo traumatized by it that from that day forward, it was a problem.....she then had to have major dental work done over the course of several months....and had to be sedated for all the procedures....many sleepless nights over that.

and I admit, when she gets freaking out like that, I dont' know what to do...>I get angry cuz she isn't "sitting nicely while the doctor pokes her".....and I am embarrassed about her behaviour.....I have learned to be more gentle on her....and this time around was much easier....but still a long way off of "easy".

I have no fears, so I can't related....I don't mind needles or shots or blood work.

June 9, 2006
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I used to have a real fear of doctors. When I became ill we went from doctor to doctor to doctor to doctor...... ya know what I mean. I had doctors tell me there was nothin wrong w/ me and it was in my head. I had doctors tell me if I would only lose 20 lbs I would be cured. I had doctors look at my fils and then come in and tell me it was in my head. I had doctors run tests on me that hurt like hell. I got to the point that I got physically sick at the thought of goin to see a new doctor. I couldn't even go alone coz I couldn't hold the tears in if I had to speak.

I also had a lot of resentment and anger toward the doctors too. My hubby willnot discuss my health coz he is so ticked off at doctors.

Finally I found a good group of doctors and they work w/ me and they do care.

What I learned from my ordeal w/ docs is that YOU are in charge of your health. If YOU don't stand up to them nobody will. If you had a doc that will not support you then move on to the next.

I think my turning point was w/ one doctor that had run every test there was and then was human enough to tell me "Good luck w/ your next doctor coz I have no clue what is wrong w/ you; and yes, something is very wrong."

mamac - GO to the doctor now. Even if you have to map out each bathroom on the way then do so, but get to the doctor regarding your symptoms.
(I had each bathroom mapped out on the way to the hospital.)

Stand strong and have your questions written out before you get to your appointment. Write out what symptoms you are having; what questions you may have. Have pencil and paper ready so you can make notes of what he says. That way you don't forget something. If you don't understand it then ask.

I have had a doctor get upset w/ me coz I was asking what he called "irrelevant questions". He was a real jerk anyway. I told him I was paying for his 15 minutes of service and he could answer my questions. He was so angry, but he did answer each of my questions. In fact he was rude enough to take my list and write the answers down. I'll not go into what all he had to say. He wasn't nice. And when I left I said to him "Thank you for answering my questions; now how bout that".

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June 9, 2006
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i am afraid of dentists. no shots. ever in my mouth. i just get em filled and go. when i was little. i wore braces. everytime any bands came off i knew those teeth were going to get pulled so i saved the dentist the trouble and knocked them out myself. kid u not.

June 12, 2006
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thanks for all the feed back all. I just dont know what to do. I can get to the dcs but when they want me naked or want to do tests I am out of there. They always give me sumthin that makes me puke. I hate vomitting, in fact it is almost a phobia. If I drink a certain alcohol {which isnt often} if it makes me sick I will never go near it again. One time I went to the doc and they wanted to do a colonoscopy on me. I ran out of the building as fast as my legs could go. I didnt care if I had colon cancer or not, which is what they wanted to check for, I would rather die then have invasive test done. Epecially if I have to be naked. A year ago I was told I could have ovarian cancer and I never went back, They wanted to do to many tests, I am not dead yet so i guess there wrong. i told yall this to show you just how terrified I am of docs. If I ever got cancer I wouldnt dare take kemo cause I know it will make me puke. I dont have a clue where this fear comes from but I sure wish I knew, I dont want to die I am just terrified

June 12, 2006
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mamac:

it's ok to have a phobia. You just need to work on it to get it under control. Take baby steps. Can you see a counselor? or are you seeing a counselor? That might be the best help for now.

June 12, 2006
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Naw, they are humans just like you and me doing a job. It is up to all to speak up for yourself, ask questions and get clarity. Their job is to answer, give information, to treat you or can have the nurse to explain stuff.

Used to be more men than women. The last pious doctor who yelled at me I just told him it was unprofessional of him, I did not do anything to warrant him yelling at me and I was just trying to do MY job (nurse) too. He calmed down and apologized and we got along fine.

But I do understand fears of doctors and hospitals.

My fear is the dentist. Yuck

June 12, 2006
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I used to think Dr's had God complexes & that, although they were nice, probably thought they were 'above' me. I felt uneasy around them. I used to prefer women Dr's over men thinking a man could never be compassionate to a woman's problems as he's never had a period, cramp, or pregnancy of his own. My own insecurities I guess ~ believing in suppositions of what I thought they were thinking. "Oh, if I complain of this, they'll think I'm nuts..." kind of stuff. And, I don't like pain... used to be terrified of needles. (pregnancy took care of that! ~ still hate IV's)

I met a very nice male Dr when I moved to this town. I had very little choice in who to go to & I consider myself lucky to have met this man. He had a very easy going way which relaxed me & allowed me to feel comfortable to say what I honestly felt. He was kind & gentle & of good humor. We have since become very good friends, and have been friends for about 6 years now.

I realize that Dr's are just like us. They are people with jobs. They happen to like and are interested in how the human body works. They are not God. This also means they are not 100% correct or all knowing. I accept that tests have to be run & whatnot for them to get the info they need.

My point is ~ they are human too. Flesh, blood, bone, sinew, and tissue. They get sick like we do, they feel pain like we do. They also interact with everyone they meet differently - just like we do, AND they have good days and bad days too.

I think if you view your Dr as a person instead of as a job title, a lot of the fear (of them) will go away. You may still fear whatever procedures or tests that may be necessary - but they also have to undergo these same tests if they become sick like you too. No one likes being sick or stuck with needles. If you can separate your anxiety of the medical work apart from your care giver, you are ahead of the game.

Just my 2 cents. I have found that in changing my thinking to the above, I have had much better relationships with my other doctors.

And, no, in case you are wondering, my friend is no longer my primary care physician like he used to be. That is due to his moving & now working for a different hospital... not by my choice. If he worked closer - I would still chose to go see him.

June 13, 2006
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I am not mad at dcs. just the procedures they try to perform on me, although it may be nessicary I dont want any part of it. If God wants to take me he will, and their is nothing I can do about that anyways.When its are time its our time and thats it I beleive.

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